I've been friends with this girl (very social condfident) for a few months already, not sure if she likes me or not but her behavior is a little odd to me.When we meet our conversation is good but she feels as though i'm hiding something like i'm not sharing everything bout my life. We normally call each other to go to the gym to play basketball, have dinner afterwards. I've never gone out with her to a bar when she's invited me because it's just not my type of setting. But she wants to observe me in different settings other than at the gym. One of the things that kind of scares me in a way is that she analyzes me and makes me feel like crap about certain things (i.e., small complaints, she feels our conversation is redundant and wants to talk about something else and wants more input from me). She feels as though our relationship is stagnant and has not gone anywhere.I can't read her but what are her intentions, why does she put effort into observing me and being straightfrwrd bout it
2007-09-24 22:43:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she isn't into psychology, professionally, I think it is SHE who is the bore. If she has to keep digging and prying and saying you are hiding something, perhaps she has something to hide and therefore assumes other people do. Whatever the reason, if it makes you uncomfortable, say so. If she continues to dig for "depth" in you and you feel it is inappropriate, set a boundary - tell you that you don't particularly like to be analyzed (NO ONE DOES) or that you are indeed "shallow", as in what you see is what you get....take it or leave it. There is NOTHING wrong with YOU. Enjoy your saner relationships and appreciate them. Perhaps she will find someone interesting to "observe" in the bar....I must say though, I would take offense at being "observed"...as in "specimen". And no, I don't think this is normal "just friends" behavior....but if she's looking for anything miore than that, it is a BIG warning sign. She's already placed herself above you (control) by being the "observor".
2007-10-02 22:21:29 · answer #1 · answered by Kater 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds awfully pushy to me. If you are just friends she should accept you as you are, flaws and all 'cause none of us are perfect, not even she. Don't let her try to remake you. Tell her nicely to back off.
But it's quite possible she has other intentions. She might be wanting to be more than friends. You have to decide if you have an interest or not. If you are interested, ask her out to something YOU like to do and show her you're capable of taking charge. Hope this helps. Good luck!
2007-10-02 18:56:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 03:09:12 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me your doing the analyzing to my friend!!
I think she's testing your compatibility level or helping you loosen up!
Get your best treads on and ask her to go to a bar where you are comfortable, even if it isnt your scene. See why she is all about getting you out, maybe to loosen you up a bit, so you let go, you know. (are you uptight right now?)
If you go on a few bar trips and dont feel it, just tell her, what you got to lose?
Good luck
2007-10-02 22:34:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, it means that you are kinda boring and needs more interesting topic from you. So if i were you try to chance your topic all the times and do something that makes her happy i.e..asking her for dinner - out, ask her what she likes best and of course, buy something occasionally that she really likes...Okay have fun and put more effort to make her happy. God bless you!
2007-09-24 23:00:11 · answer #5 · answered by hottstuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is already assuming she is more than a friend, and is trying to push u into something u may or maynot want. lay it on the line to her, tell her, u are just my gym partner, nothing more!
2007-09-24 22:47:44 · answer #6 · answered by evanlah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to know if you are truly interested in her. She is interested in pursuing a relationship, but thinks that you are not sharing enough to be interested.
2007-09-24 22:48:59 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal.
2007-10-02 16:08:10 · answer #8 · answered by Bride2Be 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-09-24 22:48:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just wants to know you better,,,,,,?
(or a 'Fatal-Attraction'..?) -- Pick one, & gd luck.
2007-10-02 20:13:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋