i found flirty txt messages on my boyfriends phone to a girl saying 'send me some photos, when am i seeing u again fitty?'
I went mad cos i am hurt and upset, i know he has not cheated on me but i cant stop thinkin that he would have done if i didnt find the messages, he says it was harmless and he did it because i was spending more time with other people than him. i dont know what to do now, i dont think i could trust him again after this. will he do it again when this has been forgotten about? but just hide it better? i have started being bitchy with him cos of it, if i stay with him then i might carry on being a ***** and things are not gonna work.
i dont know what to do, any advise?
2007-09-24 22:30:25 · 34 answers · asked by me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes he is cheating on you, ignore him and find other guy
2007-09-24 22:32:56 · answer #1 · answered by Vikram 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
More than likely if you stay with him the only thing you are going to do is drive yourself crazy wondering what he is doing while you are apart, especially since his reasoning for doing it was because you weren't spending enough time with him. That sounds like a pretty lame excuse and even if that is the way he truly feels then he sounds a bit to clingy and other problems could rear there ugly head farther down the road. The most important ting in any relationship is trust and without trust most people just will not make it even if they try to make it work. Save yourself the headache and move on, life is to short and guaranteed only day to day. Good luck.
2007-09-24 22:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by jet_blackdawg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is serious situation and i know this one... just calm down and absorb what I am saying. Well first of all you should know that non of the person on this planet is perfect. guys always know whats best for him... So they will always have the perfect one in a side ( as a back up ) and have fun with all other chicky girls. They always know that when he come back home the perfect one will always be there for him. In this situations I don't only blame the guy... Now what you have to do it to calm your self and make a plan... try to find more time to be with him... and see what he wants from those chicky girls... see from another point of view and judge your self for weaknesses. I am not kidding... this is true... when a guy don't get something he wants from the one who loves he starting to cheat the love one and looking for ways to full-fill his egos. In a way that's the way of the nature. Try forgiving him for what he did and make him guilty for what he did... I am sure that he'll come-back.... But you should do something form your side as well.... if you forgive him you should forget what he did.. coz as long as you keep that in mind you'll never able to trust him again... and when other matters comes on later in your life.. you'll dig the past... Good Luck...
2007-09-24 23:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by drek_ocp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that was my man what did that I'd chop his balls off then go and beat the girl up! lol
Don't put up with it, so what if he hasn't physically touched her!! If it's a serious relationship then flirting like that through text is technically still cheating!!I'd leave, if you can't trust him there's no point in staying, and to be honest, if he can do it once, he'll do it again, but just delete it after he's read it!!
Is he even sorry???Does he even regret it?Is he even scared of losing you??
Don't put up with it girl!! Don't let him ruin your life!!If you stay, you'll always be wondering whether he's sent any texts, whether he's cheating on you, whether he's got photos of this girl, and it'll hurt you so much and you'll be constantly paranoid!!
Good luck!
2007-09-24 22:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he felt rejected so looked for attention else where and you didn't trust him anyway as you checked through his phone. I think if you can't understand each others persective regarding the relationship it was a situation waiting to happen.
You both have to resolve to understand each other better. If you're going to try and give this relationship one last chance, you need to sit down once more and agree to try and understand each other better and change the way you go about your relationship;
What was he felt he wasn't getting from the relationship? What could you do differently to stop him feeling neglected? Perhaps you should agree what days your going to see each other and what days you spend with others? How can you learn to trust him better? What can he do differently to help you trust him?
Worth a try?
2007-09-24 22:49:33 · answer #5 · answered by Saint 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'I know he has not cheated on me'
Just who are you trying to fool?
You didn't know he'd been out with other girls a few days ago!
You didn't know he's been texting other girls a few days ago!
But somehow you know the truth when it comes to this one?
He says in his texts 'when will i see you AGAIN?'
So he's already been out with her once and remember, these are just the texts that you know about, these are just the ones currently on his phone, what about all the hundreds he's deleted?
You can't trust him again after this this, no trust = no relationship so dump him now.
Wake up and smell the bullsh*t.
2007-09-24 22:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM! It doesn't matter it anything has happened yet or not. When your 'boyfriend' is sending those sorts of messages to other girls, it's bound to lead somewhere! Don't let this jerk stress you out and DON'T let him blame you for it! It's so typical of a guy to blame his girlfriend if he cheats or stuffs up. Do yourself a favour and find someone worth caring about. He's the type of guy who will never learn to stick with one girl
2007-09-24 22:47:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion this isn't as bad as if he had gone out and been with someone else, he only recieved txt messages, I know that I have recieved flirty messages without wanting to act on it, or cheat on my girlfriend's. If you know that he has not cheated on you then perhaps you just have to tell him that he should set people straight if they send messages like that, or that he should just choose where he wants to be. In the end though, do you really want to throw stuff away for the sake of a txt?
2007-09-24 22:35:18 · answer #8 · answered by Retro 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
It's hard to regain trust once it's violated. If you don't think you can trust him I would end it now otherwise you're just going to be mad all the time and wondering if he's being faithful or not.
2007-09-24 22:34:40 · answer #9 · answered by spiffymo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No..I'd dump his sorry A**.
If he had the slightest bit of respect for you he wouldn't be texting any girls like that.
Dump him and find a real man that show you some respect.
2007-09-24 22:39:39 · answer #10 · answered by Liz S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. If the message said when am i seeing you again then he has already met her and god only knows what he done. I really feel sorry for you good luck.
2007-09-24 22:35:00 · answer #11 · answered by Bombshell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋