It's over and now I can't sleep!?

Question

My fiance and I just broke up over the phone because he's in New York and I'm at college in Oklahoma. It was so heartbreaking and we were on the phone for six hours talking about it. I was crying the whole time but I couldn't help it. I know he has been distant from me lately meaning he hasn't hardly called me and when I call him he says he's too busy and will call me back later which he never did. Tonight I just striaght up asked him did he still want to be with me and he said no and he was with someone else. I offered to forgive him for being with the other girl but he said no because he wanted to be with he since we were growing apart but I don't think so because I still love him and I told him that I couldn't picture myself with anyone else and I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him but he just said he was sorry. I don't think I'll ever get over it and now I can't sleep and I have a class in four hours! What should I do?

Answer 1

You might want to give yourself some time to pull yourself together. If you don't make it to class it's okay. You can contact your instructor and get today's work, or borrow a classmate's notes. Clearly you're not going to be capable of getting anything out of class even if you try to go. Give yourself a day or two to collect your wits before you try to go to class. Also, it's perfectly normal to not be able to sleep when you're so emotionally distraught. It doesn't feel like it right now, but you will get through this in time.

Answer 2

Forget your class, for today, you could have an accident through lack of sleep, especially if driving. Time heals a lot, give it time...Look at this way, being pathetic will not win him back, he has obviously not put the commitment into the relationship you have, this happens especially if you are younger.

Man is on earth to reproduce, it is built in by default, so they say, that does not make all men cheats, but he must want more from sex or a relationship than you can offer. If you were super happy and blissful, then you can be again, remember before you met him you were a nice person who managed to find him in the first place, go find another, do not let your self esteem take a dent because of rejection, life is full of it. Be grateful you are in one piece and did not find him in bed with someone else or that you are not terminally ill..

Good luck

Answer 3

Long distance relationships are so very hard. It gets lonely, and you just want company. company turns into more, and there you have broken your loved ones heart. I know you are hurting, but this sort of thing happens all of the time. People grow apart because they are no longer sharing their time. It will take a while, but you will be able to move on. Try just occupying yourself with friends and school work for now. He may change his mind, but I seriously doubt it. Most men are like puppies. They like to have someone that is close enough to hold. They need constant reassurance that they are needed. Right now he probably doesn't feel needed because you are doing fine without him. Maybe when you take the Christmas break, you will be able to rejuvenate the relationship, but I would suggest different living arrangements. He is just too far away.

Answer 4

Sorry about your loss but I'm afraid there is nothing you can do. Long distance relationships work less than five percent of the time. It happens to everyone, I've been through it too. I know its hard but keep your head up. School, I wouldn't even go tomorrow. Send your professors and email letting them know the situation and that you need some time to mope. Don't forget to ask if there is any homework. For me, I drank a lot and I would eventually passout but maybe a good comedy would make you forget your troubles for just a moment and you can fall asleep. If you need any more advise, shoot me an email

Answer 5

First off I'm sorry, second he chose to talk to you for 6 hours. That says he cares about you. Maybe a break is good but long distant relationships never work out try the single life and then see how you feel. He might not be sleeping right now either, give him space and it might help

Answer 6

So sorry to hear that this happen to you. I can understand how hurt you are facing now. Dont worry dear.Let him go. Just think that he doesnt love you anymore.Now if you can not sleep i have one idea, do you have some beer in your frige ? Find some beers to drink untill you feel a little bit drunk and sleep, but dont try too much because tomrrow you have class. Then tomrrow you will feel better.When you go to shcool tomorrow , share your problem with your friends then you will feel better and try to go out and keep yourself busy. When you feel you cant sleep then jut get beer to drink. I think that if you really love him you can wait for him.If his new relationship doesnt work well so he will come back to you. But you know the think is you are far from him.It is hard to get him back. I hope that you can find a nice guy who really love you.

Answer 7

hey, i know how it feels because i also just broke up with my boyfriend.
now i just take it as a break for me and it is also a good time for the both of us to cool down and really think "is this the one for me?"
i know minutes now may seem like years but, the best way to stop feeling sad is to keep yourselve busy. try to get out of the house and go to places where it is crowded. Or go out with your friends?
Maybe now he just wants to have fun and at the end of the day, he might just come back to you when he is sick of playing.
Now, you should just not contact him and give the both of you some time to think and cool down. You can't rush things. It would be better if you meet up with him.
But if he is really a playboy, you should just forget about him.
When every chapter closes, another chapter begins. (:

Answer 8

I'm pretty much going through the same thing right now, except I actually have to fall asleep in the same bed and I have to work with her sometimes for our club. If you wanta talk bout it my AIM is in my profile.

I don't know if I can say antyhing to make you happy though since I'm trying to figure my way through this also. But if you need someone to understand you I'm certainly here.

Answer 9

Darling, you have to let go.
You are stronger than you think. If you weren't, you wouldn't have asked and would have prefered to live a lie, lie to yourself and never face the truth.
So, you will get over him and you will find someone who's worth the love you have to give.
Let him go.
He does know that you are a wonderful girl and because he couldn't deceive you any longer he told you the truth.
So, let go.
I know it hurts, and it will for a while, but you'll see that you'll get over it.
hugs.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Answer 10

As hard as it might seem you have to move on. I don't mean to sound like a jerk. But there is no point in dwelling on the past. I know when you truly care for someone you always care for them no matter what. But If you truly care for someone you want them to be happy. Even if that means that they are not happy without you. It may not seem like it right now but there is someone better fit for you out there. I promise.