I'm dating a girl whom I really like but she's been pressuring me into telling her that I love her more than my first love. What should I do?
2007-09-24 21:48:02 · 15 answers · asked by Muhummad Ishak 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I should mention I'm her first love. Her interest wasn't spark by guys she knew but by me...
2007-09-24 22:09:36 · update #1
Be honest and tell her how you really feel. Its not nice when anyone in a relationship feels pressured to do or say something they don't want to. Let her know and take it from there.
2007-09-24 21:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by Widgi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell her what she wants to hear, that's for sure. If you don't love her then you don't love her. Or maybe you love her and your love for her isn't anymore or less then your first love, it's just different. Neither good nor bad.
She sounds kind of whiny. So if you're going to break up with her just do it. She'll demand an answer as to why but there will never be an answer good enough or long enough. Just say your peace and walk away.
What is wrong with women??
xxx
2007-09-25 04:55:40 · answer #2 · answered by Shel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man, I've had to deal with this one myself. Just tell her, "Look, those words 'I Love You' get thrown around now-a-days and I don't want to say it if I don't know if I mean it yet." Let her know that you will say it when you are ready. It may be difficult for her to take it at first but they usually understand after a while. Just show her you still care, you just aren't ready for the "I love you" stage.
2007-09-25 04:56:31 · answer #3 · answered by b_mikie55 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she sounds insecure and wonders if u really do love her. if your just dating and the relationship hasn't gone that far yet, u need to beware of her, she is trying to control it, back off and get to know her better. if u don't feel the same for her don't ever feel pressured into being deceitful or lying just to get her off your back. tell her u really like her but conversations about your ex are off limits.she sounds pushy and immature.
2007-09-25 04:52:58 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you muslim?
just assuming by your name
i am too =)
i think the best bet would be to be straightforward with her and tell her that it's going to take you a little time before you can truly say that you love her more than your first love
she should respect your decision right?
hope all works out!
2007-09-25 04:52:13 · answer #5 · answered by savestheday0288 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you will express your love for her when the time comes, but you can't be expected to "love" on command. It also seems like she's insecure and wants reassurance that she has value to you.
2007-09-25 04:52:24 · answer #6 · answered by spiffymo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her you feel pressured and to please not bring it up again. If she does dump her. She is insecure and being childish. Dont give in to it. Not only will you be pressured and maybe end up lying to her you are feeding her insucrities.
2007-09-25 04:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth, if she doesnt' accept then u gotta look at wat type of attitudes she shows and wether u want that or not. just be calm adn gentle towards her and say ur first was exactly that, and it was new, but now ur more experienced. as for her asking you to say i love u, say it wen u mean it, adn she'll understand. best of luck man
2007-09-25 04:54:58 · answer #8 · answered by Amour 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
you have a choice, agree with and keep the peace or be honest and stand up for your beliefs[ don't be a coward].
2007-09-25 04:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by Christine F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HER. She's insecure and emotionally immature. If you want to get stuck with a clingy insecure girl... then stay with her.
2007-09-25 04:52:04 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋