How would you go about introducing yourself to someone you're interested in on MySpace?

Question

Please spare me the warnings about not being careful of stalkers and other evil people. I'm well aware of these risks and the potential consequences.

I subscribe to a personals site but am largely disappointed with the available pool (keep in mind I live in a smallish community). I've found some women I might be interested in by searching profiles that have indicated they are there for "dating and relationships". But I'm worried about coming off as creepy if I just send them a message. Can you give me some advice.

Given these people have indicated they are there for dating and relationships and their profiles are public, do you think it's appropriate to contact them as a "stranger"?

Answer 1

Forget about coming off creepy how else are you going to know if you two like each other. Start off as strangers then become friends and who knows she could be your future wife.Go for it what do you have to lose,nothing that's what.

Answer 2

Why would they think you're creepy? I don't.

There's no such thing as strangers. Only friends we are yet to meet.

If you never ask or wait until someone asks you it may never happen. So take a risk and put yourself out there.

The worse that can happen is they don't reply.

Well actually the worse that can happen is they tell you to 'get lost you creep'. That's what your afraid of, but even that's just a learning experience. Any woman that would do that isn't very nice in the first place and certainly not the type of woman you would want to get to know. Better you find that out now rather than 6 months down the line. You've saved yourself a lot of time and can move on to try to find someone who is nice.

It's more likely that they won't reply.

But providing you don't start by asking personal questions like 'what's your bra size?' (yes, I've had that and I'm not even looking for a date or relationship.) no-one is going to think you're a creep.

Go for it hun. You're a nice guy and deserve to be happy.