I want to spend time away from my girl. I would like to spend a lot of time away but she's emotionaly unstable right now and would throw a tantrum. I asked for a week a way and even though she "let" me do it, she kept emailing and texting me even though I told her not to. She gets really emotional. I already know I'm just a gap filler for her, and that she's only with me cause she has a low self-esteem and doesn't think she could do better. She doesn't know she's one of the most beautiful girls out there. I spend everyday with her, and I want that to change. I actually want to break up with her because she doesn't make me happy. I tried that before but she got all suicidal. I mean, I love the girl, but I already know when she does get self esteem and starts hanging around other guys, bye bye me. What should I do?
2007-09-24 20:45:46 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't have low self-esteem, I just know that she does and that she's only with me because of that. I'm not the greatest looking guy - she could do much better. I'm treat her very, very good - but she could still do better. She's so focused on what she looks like on the outside, and likes watching stuff like entertainment tonight. She's going through a lot right now and just needs someone there to comfort her and be there for her. Doesn't really matter who it is. I asked her if she rather be hot and really stupid, or smart but ugly, and she said hot and stupid....she's obviously way more focused on what people including herself look like on the outside. I can just tell sometimes she's not really that attracted to me. I'm ALWAYS the one to initiate physical contact like holding hands, kissing, getting sexual. She's NEVER initiated sex with me.
2007-09-24 22:05:37 · update #1
don't b her co-dependancy. move on, don't let her bring u down, tough love! good luck!!!!
2007-09-24 20:51:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl definitely needs help if she is threatening suicide. Don't fall for it. If she really wanted to do it, she would not even tell you about it. She is using that like a child's tantrum----just to get her way!!
You also seem to have self esteem issues. What makes you think that you will not be good enough for her when she comes to her whole self? You may be just the right one, but I would not stick around unless she agrees to get some therapy for the emotional instability.
2007-09-24 21:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is not ur girl but a parasite and please don't stay in it just coz u fear she will commit suicide. she will anyway, whether u stay or go, if she is serious about it. most unstable people use the suicide card to get u to stay then U slowly lose who u are and ur sanity.
get out now, a relationship is there to make each other better people thru shared caring and responsibility. she is not making u happy and if all she does is cling then u are not making her happy either. should u be miserable just coz she is?
2007-09-24 20:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by kiki68 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get some self confidence. You are already thinking break up.
2007-09-24 20:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by D Guru 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WTF? who really has the low self esteem here.... get over it dude the hot chick picked you for once... go for it full fledged or drop her so she can move on. you selfish blind ***.
2007-09-24 20:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by Wolfie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋