I'm not really sure why, just looking for more insight I guess.
I see all these questions from women asking why men are the way they are and so forth. I also see a few about why women are the way they are too.
Here's my problem. I've been actively seeking what I consider to be the perfect woman for me for about 2 years now. I have met a LOT of girls in this time. I am very good friends with almost every girl bartender at every club I hang out at, and a lot have come on to me very strong.
Don't get me wrong, most of these girls are extremely attractive. I'm also 30 and most of these girls are like 21-24. Every man's dream, right? Wrong.
One thing I've noticed about almost every girl I've met (prob like 200-300 in the last 2 years) is that they all seem to be most interested in one main thing about a guy. How much money he has. I want a woman that would be with me even if I were homeless. So men only want sex and women want only money?
2007-09-24 19:49:34 · 19 answers · asked by David W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
noyoungun:
I think you're way off base. He obviously has money or how would he have been clubbing for 2 years and why would the bartenders at these clubs be interested in him? They obviously want only money, right? So he must have it.
He's saying he doesn't want a woman to want him for HIS money. I totally agree with his standard and I don't like guys that "flash their wad" just to show off. But I do think he's looking in the wrong place.
2007-09-24 20:12:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need to find some different hang outs there are a lot of guy's that will sit back on there lazy butt's and let a woman take care of them that is why women are concerned about the money they make. Most women start off in a relationship all gun ho sex is good then you get a few years into it and kids come along money issues come into play along with a host of other issues and problems and guess what, no more sex so men try to address that right up front so its not that women just want men for money and its not just that men only want sex those are very generic statements.
2007-09-24 20:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! I can attest to that by being and living example, along with my fiance.
About a a year ago, my fiance was let go from his job and was practically unemployed for a while but I didn't care. I'm not with him for the big bucks, I'm with him for HIM. Also, he isn't with me to have sex either-- though after we get married there's gonna be alot:P-- because I wanted to wait until we were married and it's been 3 years and he respects that.
It's sad to think that women are just interested in money and men interested in sex. Sex and money are important things, yes, but they should not be end-all determinants for whether or not a person truly wants to be with you.
Keep in mind the kinds of girls who you may be running into-- 21-24 year old women at bars are usually interested in a couple of things, many of them not consisting of a true, meaningful relationship.
I think if you were able to meet different kinds of women around your age, you'll find out that they are more mature, more comitted in what they want, and really care about you-- and not your wallet.
2007-09-24 19:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymousgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been looking in the wrong places. If you think bartenders are the kind of girls you want, you are definitely clueless!!! They only want your money. That is what they are there for!! Why not join a club or organization that interests you, maybe even a singles club, or a church to find that girl. The bars are definitely the wrong place to look for a future wife, or girlfriend.
2007-09-24 19:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are putting higher standards on her than you could endure.
So, You want someone that will put up with you being a bum and at the same time fulfill all of your standards?
You sound like the old joke:
I searched the world over looking for the perfect woman and I finally found her. The only problem is that she was looking for the perfect man.
Yes it is a new day and both sexes are into being independent but most women really want to find someone that will support them and not be a flake. This is not old fashion but reality, just like when the guy looks for someone that can cook and looks good on his arm.
Get real. Fix yourself.
Start helping others by volunteering and quit looking for what you want but what you can be for others and someday if you overcome the self centered desire to find something you will become something others will desire to be around.
2007-09-24 20:03:19 · answer #5 · answered by noyoungun 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No not all women are obsessed with money, but a bar isn't a great place to meet people who you really have things in common with. I mean unless you're a lush, but that's not a great basis for a relationship either. You need to get out more and join activities with like minded people. For example, if you like hiking, you could join a hiking club. Good luck.
2007-09-24 19:57:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should try to find women in locations other than "Meat Markets"! Look for them in the places you go to pursue your hobbies (driving range, bowling alley, museums, library, dirt bike riding, skiing, or whatever your interests are)
Your right there are a good number of women who want to land a guy with bucks (that's the animal in us coming out) got to find us a good provider and guys want good breeders to carry on the name. However, not all women are like that.
I can attest to the fact that money does not a successful marriage make. In fact too much of it can create a problem in it's self.
Good luck with your search
2007-09-24 20:04:45 · answer #7 · answered by Capablady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I married my hubby when he'd been out of work for eight weeks, and WE didn't have a penny to out name.
While I love having money, and not worrying about whether or not we can pay bills, I fell in love with him before I knew what he did, or how much he earned, or even whether or not he had a car.
Truth be told, I knew he was still living at home with his parents, didn't know how to brush his waist-length hair properly, was a big nerd, and i thought any car he did use, was his parent's.
So no, not all women only want money. He treats me like a princess, and i don't mean that in a materialistic way. He has my heart in his hands, he knows he has to be a throne for my heart, and he lives up to that everyday. And my crown, is made out of his love for me. I wear it like a badge of triumph. This man loves me, he wants me. And I love him, and I want him. Together, we can rule the world :)
(I know, corny, but true-love is rare, and i'll profess it as much as i like, however i like :P)
2007-09-24 20:01:52 · answer #8 · answered by A derka der 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're NEVER going to find a good woman in a club. You should give online dating a try. It gives you a chance to be more scrupulous, and if you're honest about yourself, you can be sure those that do contact you will be interested in who you are, not how much money you make. Good luck!
2007-09-24 19:55:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
money cant buy happiness! sounds to me like you unfortunately have met some pretty shallow girls. i would rather live in a card board box on the side of the freeway happy with my boy than live in a palace and be miserable.
and not all men just want sex... just most haha :P
2007-09-24 19:56:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋