Were you ever whipped with a switch as a teenager?

Question

When I was 16 years old & a junior in high school, I was busted by my momma smoking pot (weed) with my friends & when my pops came in from work, she told him. This time--he didn't ground me. . . He went outside & broke what seemed like one of the longest & thinnest switch I ever seen & ordered me to what he called his tool shed. He then blocked its doorway with me in there & OH MY GOD. . . When he got through with me--I was covered in welts & cuts but can say that til this day, at 40 years old, I have never smoked anything or had the urge to. WHY? Because of that switch whipping my pops gave me (being that he hadn't whipped me since I was around 10 or 11). Now, my son has just turned 16 a couple of months ago & guess what? His football coach busted him smoking pot (weed) & notified me & his momma. Of course, we are trying to raise our son with new age parenting methods but obviously--they aren't working. Should I bring him to the "tool shed" like my pops did me?

Answer 1

Well, things aren't the same now as they were when you were growing up. If your son's coach sees him in the locker room with bloody welts the only thing that will happen is you will end up in jail for child abuse. I don't really think new age parenting works, I'm all for a good spanking. However, with your son being 16 I don't think he'll be easy to spank! I'd sit down and have an adult conversation with him regarding the dangers of smoking pot, and how it's a gateway drug to other 'more dangerous' drugs. There are many websites regarding how to speak to him, and how to keep him away even though he's tried it. Good luck!

Answer 2

Being raised in the South & by black parents, oh yes. I was whipped & when I turned 14, I graduated to the switch. Nothing in my life has been as painful as a whipping with a switch. They were completely unbearable. I caught switch whippings until I went to college. Neighbors said they knew when I was catching a switch whipping cause they could hear my screams outside & through the neighborhood. Did they help me? Absolutely. Can it help your son? Definitely. Just know that it is a much different day & age from when we were growing up. Your son will resist you whipping him at that age therefore, I would recommend you restraining him prior to the whipping & then proceed. Switches burn & sting very badly but trust me, they will get his mind right.

Answer 3

Beating your son is a choice only you can make alone as a parent. I have no one sided opinion about physical punishment - I was smacked with wooden spoons and had dishes thrown at me - which really did some damage.

The risk with physical punishment is the resentment your son will have against you. Now days it's not normally socially acceptable to physically punish your teenagers, and they normally respond with anger, not fear.

I suggest you try using a vocal or visual scare tactic.

Sometimes scare tactics really work. Ask the police for more information about what you can show your son to scare him. They will have pictures of junkies who started out on weed, and also they can lecture him for you about the legal side of things and the amount of trouble he can get in.

Also note that your son will use you as an example when you talk to him about this. You need to emphasise how good your life is now because you didn't smoke weed, and how much better your life is without weed. Also, smoking weed isn't just about being cool. Your son might have depression or anxiety issues that he may need help with.

Answer 4

No but i was whipped with a lot of other things. It only made me more rebellious. Times have changed and in today's world a loving conversation with your son may be more effective than whipping. Believe me, its tough being a parent -all the best.

Answer 5

These days they would probably lock you up for child abuse. Yes I was whipped with switches, and belts to the point of some very serious abuse. There was no one back then to help me. I have suffered with this for years. What a child needs more than anything is love, and guidance. Get the child some counseling on drug abuse. Good luck, and God bless

Answer 6

ive been disciplined like that before...

ive been tied down to a post. hit with a belt sometimes with the buckle. Fly swatter or a comb...

hmmm thats is a touch question.

well, try to get a grip and give him a little smack in the head. Common' we were all like that before.

First- think things over... what do you want to happen in the conversation. try talking to him first. You can have a little voice raising but no name calling. And tell him things that happened to you before. Talk to him about the pros & cons, and things you would like to happen after that talk.

Oh and remind him... thats he is not a bad person for doing that... Its the thing he did thats is bad. (got that from a movie) Please dont take him out of football. These kids are just bored. Keep him busy instead. Just take away his dating, allowance or phone privilages.

He might not understand it but when he grows up. He will realize how much of a loving father you are and that you didnt want things that happened to you before to happen to him.

Answer 7

Exactly.....according to new age parenting it's against the law because needy people want your kid to fail now and later. The issue today is not to correct the behavior so it gets worse for profit. My advice is to take his car away for a specific time and have him ride the bus with the younger kids with no other options. It's illegal to bust his butt but it is also a fact that you are the parent and should care more about your son right to learn than a "village" of people that are sick enough to use people to profit from.

If you haven't noticed many people are still stuck dwelling on their childhoods with no positive ...they don't even live in the present. In fact much of the nations younger generation is dishonest about their childhood responsibilities and are requesting sympathy from the sick "village"...gets them out of growing up and ruins their relationships with people. The government and MH are businesses.

Example:
I got the paddle and deserved it as I refused to accept the words "stop it" at school. Funny, I also didn't do that again after I got whacked. I was disturbing a classroom full of people in elementry school which is and was not appropriate. Mr. Burns burned my butt with a paddle and let me know I had no other choice but to grow up.

In the one of the posts I see a remark concerning "loving conversation" aka drama and assumption that a parent has never talked to their son or daughter concerning drugs and it also suggests that 16 yr. olds are morons who know nothing.... That is how sick "the village" is.

Answer 8

BOY, you need to go "Old School" on your son, you know what I mean. I know you aren't suppose to spank, but when we were young we go whipped with a belt, and believe you me we learned real quick. I tell people I'm old school and I don't care what anyone says or thinks of this. I changed the lyrics to James Brown's song, because "This mama don't take no mess", and I don't. I'll always be old school, even right down to the music.

Answer 9

lol NO!!!!! dont hit the boy wit no switch! this aint 1977! and just because it worked for you does not mean it will work for your son! u need to figure out a way to discipline your son without the violent act of behavior. Hitting a child with ANYTHING is just plain old abusive and shoulnt be done to teach him a lesson..maybe you could punish him by taking him away from his football or not letting him go places that he likes or not letting him have friends over or take away his games..those are more acceptable punishments.

Answer 10

Hmmm this sounds familiar..
Well when i was a child and got up to no good, my popz used to gimme a lil slap, nothing major but i used to learn from it coz i didnt wanna make him angry again and risk getting more than a slap!!
Now my lil sister is the one that is getting up to no good and when my mum saw my dad hit me one time i was a kid, she told him that there better not be no more hitting on us kids or she was walking out the door and leaving him!
So as my lil sis was growing up she was never disciplined and she is always getting up to no good no matter what my parents try to do! My dad thinks its too late to discipline her now after all the years of never being disciplined but now she thinks she can get away with it and continue to do what she pleases....

I have to say that discipline is good in a way aslong as ur not beating ur child to an extreme! Just a taste to see what is gonna happen if they muck up!

But honestly, u are the parent and its ur decision how u want to raise ur children.