What made you think: he/she IS the one?
2007-09-24 18:28:07 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
To be honest, I disagree with several people one here-you dont HAVE to just know. My fiancee says he just knows and has known since very early on. Sometimes I still wonder. And I think that's okay. It's my nature to question and doubt and expect the worst, just as his nature is to believe the best-its what help balance us out.
I dont know for sure that he is going to be everything I've ever wanted and fulfill all my dreams like some of the more romantic replies on here. I do know that I love him very much and I know that he loves me. I know that he's committed and and that I am too and that as much as I can be sure, neither one of us will ever leave, hit, or cheat on the other. I know that we have similar values and ideas and goals in our lives.
I think you have to evaluate things logically - values, backgrounds, choices, hopes for the future - not just look at the emotions. But you also have to be deeply in love and committed to working as hard as it takes to staying in love.
Love and marriage are choices. It's a choice you have to make everyday to be loving and faithful to your other; some days that choice is easier and some days it may be harder. Knowing the two of you both appreciate the importance of that choice is more relevant than just how "romantic" you feel.
2007-09-25 05:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by lutmerjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just knew, pretty early on.
what finally made me propose to him (yes, i asked him) was this. It was about six months into our relationship, and we were practicing safe sex. I was on the pill AND we were using condoms. Anyway, I had to be on antibiotics, this makes the pill unreliable as birth control, but that was ok, because we were using condoms too!! But then, one night, the condom broke!!! OMG! So, we went to get the morning after pill, and all was well. two weeks later, I was on antibiotics for something else, and the condom broke again!!! WTF?!? So, we threw that packet of condoms out, and went back to the chemist, for the morning after pill again.
A week later, my period was late! (dramatic instrumental) So, we did pee stick tests and a blood test, cause, being on the pill, normally i was spot on, same day and TIME every four weeks. Anyhoo, I got my period a week and a half late, the same day I got the blood test results, i was not pregnant.
However, we'd had the 'what do we do if I am pregnant?' talk. We talked and cried and all that jazz, eventually both admitting to each other that we would want to keep the baby if I was pregnant. And I told him I wouldn't want him to stay with me just because of a baby, he said that that wouldn't be why he was staying.
All of this, it just made me realize how wonderful he was, and how much I loved him, and yes, I did want his babies one day. So, I figured I'd better land him ASAP. And proposed not long after. I never even thought about what if he says no, I thought he might have thought it was a bit quick, but i did say 'i don't mean next month or even this year, but in the not too distant future.' kind of thing.
He said yes. :D YAY!
2007-09-25 01:38:58 · answer #2 · answered by A derka der 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because even though he did things i didn't like or wasn't accustomed to, i could still picture myself growing old with him, starting a family with him, and being with him until the end of time.
Doubts are normal. I'm getting married in 9 months. I've had doubts recently. But every time i doubt myself on something, i ask the question- do you still love him? Do you still want to be with him? Are you still as happy with him now as you were when you said YES. And i always end up saying yes. To all of the above. I guess sometimes, even though you may have doubts, you just know.
2007-09-25 01:42:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i met my fiance on-line. when i saw his picture, i knew that i was going to marry him. it wasn't love at first site or anything, i just new. i didn't start to fall in love with him until about 4 months into our relationship. he is so sweet and shy. we are the same. we are both quiet people, like the same things, and we except the differences. we support each other, give of ourselves to one another. when i am with him i am at peace. we are each others best friend. we were together a year before i moved in with him, so we took the time to really know each other. we got engaged a few months after i moved in and are getting married next year! i know i could not live without him.
2007-09-25 02:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by nytengayle13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you can not imagine yourself without that other person. The ability to connection on an emotional level (I do not mean a girl emotion but rather you both can talk for hours about nothing) . You enjoy can can't wait to see the other person and when you do they just make you happy. When there is a disagreement one compromises ands sees both sides right or wrong never staying angry at that person long because you simply can not!
2007-09-25 01:35:53 · answer #5 · answered by Kim G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was a few moments. One was when I got my wisdom teeth pulled...we were long distance at the time, but he called my mom every few hours for the day of the surgery and the days after to find out how I was doing...his initiative to get to know my family was huge to me...because my family and I are superclose.
Also, when I went to meet his dad and stepmom and halfsister for the first time, I watched the way he was with her (she was 5 at the time), and I saw the dad he would one day be.
And I guess we both mutually thought, "well, this is my best pal...who I happen to be crazy about. Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could 'hang out' together for the rest of our lives? isn't that what everyone dreams of? We could do that."
2007-09-25 09:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by Constellation 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew my fiance was the one for me early one because know one else had ever made me so happy. What I like about my relationship is that it's not hard to make things work. Like some people always have to try so hard just to get on. With my fiance, it's great. We get on really well. He is always there for me and treats me so well and loves me so much for who I am. There is no one else I would rathe rbe with and couldn't imagine being without him. That is why he is the one.
2007-09-25 01:52:16 · answer #7 · answered by BTB2211 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because I never felt so happy and so relaxed with anyone but her. I knew it as soon as I met her, literally. It took me nearly 2 years to get a date (too shy to ask since we were friends) but one later I asked her to marry me on the three year anniversary of the day we met. I remembered the date, what she was wearing, everything. She just knocked me off my feet.
2007-09-25 01:39:47 · answer #8 · answered by ArLorax 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds corny but something told me from the moment i met my husband...
there is always that aspect of chemistry when you first meet someone but i think the way that i knew that he was for me was when i observed how he related to three things i love most in life : God, children/family, and animals. if you are fortunate enough to find someone who values and respects the same things that you do as much as you do (if not more) you have a good foundation to work with!
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2007-09-25 01:42:34 · answer #9 · answered by dropping bombs on your mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We got to know each other and fell in love, we've both been hurt before so we took our time and did not rush things, although we both admitted that we fell in love the first weekend we spent together.
2007-09-25 02:35:07 · answer #10 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋