Let me just start off and say that we been together for about 2 yrs now. I never had any issues with my boyfriend and I trust him and I know he would never do anything to Intentionally hurt my feelings. This year we both started college at two different schools about 4 hourz apart. At first he would call and txt me all the damn time but lately gettin ahold of him has been a task. and when i ask he's says it just school and that I should trust him by now. It just that he is always on my mind and I dont know what to do about the situation. All my friends just tell me to move on go on to somebody else but my heart is telling me no. What do you think i should do?
2007-09-24 18:21:20 · 11 answers · asked by ifonlyuwereme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should try dating other people (like he's probably doing).
It's not for revenge, it's to see if you really feel as strongly for him as you think you do. If you legitimately try to get close to a couple new guys and you still can't stop thinking about your boyfriend then your feelings are real. If, on the other hand, you find that you suddenly don't mind the fact that he is hard to get a hold of then your feelings were not real.
2007-09-24 18:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by w34p0n2m4n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can completely understand, and I bet it's more about you missing him than it is about you trusting him. If you create a "date night" or special time when you call each other (When I was away at school my bf and I took turns calling eachother before we went to bed each night. If it was too late or we missed the other for any reason, we'd just leave message, and often we were busy or couldn't chat long, but we'd make contact every night). Maybe it's once a month that you have a date night and call each other at 4pm on Fridays. Whatever you can both handle that helps you stay connected. If this is too much of a task for you, than it may be time to start seeing other people and letting go a bit. You may end up finding that you are growing apart, or that after a while of being apart you end up closer than ever.
2007-09-25 01:29:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a chill pill. Relax. If you chase him, he'll just go further away. When you feel the need to call or text, find something else to do, like go for a run, or take a warm bath. Don't keep calling him. Be mysterious. Get to know some people at school. Don't talk about him all the time. Exercise some discipline. If you don't call, you'll be more desirable. If you do call, you'll be a pain in his neck and the relationship will be over.
2007-09-25 01:25:04 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him personally about this ask him why he isn't calling you. If you think you'll be with him after college is over then stay with him but if you don't see a future between ya'll then move on, maybe ya'll can be good friends. It's college so have fun while you can, you don't need a boyfriend unless you see a future together
2007-09-25 01:28:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you decide you guys would keep your relationship the same when you went to different schools? Are you both clear on the "boundaries"? If you are both committed fully to each other--then you should trust him by now--and should understand that school is consuming. Maybe you need to plan a weekend to go see him & put your fears to rest. if you constantly question him--you'll push him away.
2007-09-25 01:25:12 · answer #5 · answered by Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to your friends, listen to your heart. Me and my love are a 1500 miles apart. In the beginning its the worst because you just miss them so much and you talk to each other a lot. But over time it gets harder to talk because you both get busy and insecurities get in. Listne to me clearly here,
your fears become your reality
just take it easy and talk to him without getting angry, and as long as theres trust and you know that it'll work out in your heart, follow that. Don't let friends put stupid stuff in your mind cause those negative thoughts don't help anything
Blessings,
-Angel
2007-09-25 01:26:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him face to face and let him know how you feel. He may feel the same way and then maybe not. You can't stay in a relationship if you both don't feel the same way, also long distance relationshipd are very hard. More power to you and best wishes.....
2007-09-25 01:27:39 · answer #7 · answered by marti_woody 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't worry about anything yet, you're both in college and have busy schedules. make a date for when you two can get together and if he breaks it or starts acting even funnier, then you know that something's up....
2007-09-25 01:34:09 · answer #8 · answered by amyhwoods 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a tracer and buy a GPS system. Track him down every single second.
Also tap his handphone and hear all his convos.
2007-09-25 01:25:42 · answer #9 · answered by Fizz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is cheating, he would answer your calls or textes you back, come on now, move on find happiness dont sit around and wait for him, cos he certaintly isnt waiting or worrying about you is he think about it.
2007-09-25 01:33:48 · answer #10 · answered by budgle05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋