gay problem...?

Question

I found this guy on myspace...he goes to my school, and his sexuality is "unsure". I sent him a message, a few months ago (several months ago? idk) about how I was gay and feel free to ask me any questions. We are the same grade btw. Anyways, he never responded to me. Now that I am back in school, I see him practically every day (it's not a large school, but it isn't really all that small) and remembered his unsure status. I went and found him on myspace again, still unsure. We have never talked (no friends that we both hang out with, no classes that are the same, so it would be weird if I randomly talked to him at school. I want to message him again, but I don't want to be creepy >.< if I ask him about his unsurity, would that be stalkerish? I don't want to make him think I'm creepy, some random guy asking about your sexuality >.< What could I put in a message to him? I've already sent him a message, but that was months ago...ps. hes the only other possibly gay guy in school

Answer 1

You have placed yourself out on that limb now the ball is in his court.

If you were not gay and he were not curious would you hang out with him?

Just because you feel that someone has the same sexual orientation as you does not make them your problem or friend.

Straight people or Gay people have a right to pick their friends and those who they wish to share confidences with. You too have choices. Forget the Gay stuff and see if he needs a friend. If not, I am sure that there are others out there that would appreciate your friendship no matter what their orientation.

Good luck, Be careful, and remember a true friend is sometimes the one that lets it go and doesn't push.

Answer 2

well...you do have an issue. you want to respect his privacy it seems like but you want to know if he's not in the closet or in the closet. he sure as hell isn't out the closet because you would have confirmed his sexuality. get his number. that would be the only way that he'll let you know what's up with him while keeping his annonymity. now how you do that...eh....will be hard. do you talk to him at all at school other than classwork or the occasional "hi"? if not...work on that one. if you feel that you can't get the number, then ask his friends. at least one of his friends would let you know about his status. now it may spark some teasing if he or his friends are defensive but it wouldn't hurt to try, because if you don't your question will never be answered. so be brave and as we say in the south: git er done.

Answer 3

Don't message him he will think your a stalker what i recommend is try bumping into him or do something to start a conversation just become friends with him start talking to him. Then ask him if hes got a myspace and then message him again about it. That's what you need to do. I wish ya the best luck

Answer 4

You don't need to be introduced to go up to someone and say 'hi.' Just do it. Don't come on all gay, just be friendly. Get to know him as a person. Just because you're the only two possibly gay guys doesn't mean you'll click. But even if it doesn't work romantically, there might be something there for a friendship. Don't keep messaging: just risk talking to him.

Answer 5

Maybe just a message asking him how his year is going, hope things are good with you, a no pressure message. That way, you're not putting pressure on him, but still letting him know you're there if he wants to talk or anything. It could be he's worried about what classmates might think?

Answer 6

oh my LOL a limited option situation. well i can see how u don't want to send him running so don't ask him about his sexuality, u have so much other things that y'all could talk about since y'all aren't in the same classes and so forth.

to start off with just say hi how are u. let him feel comfortable just to talk to u

Answer 7

pls stop being gay ok, its ungodly, am from the part of the world where such thing are not allowed

Answer 8

I have a straight problem....