A week or so ago I was having a serious conversation with one of my guy friends, who I adore. During the conversation he said to me: "You have absolutely no idea how much I love you." I don't know how to take this because I have feelings for him and I think he found out. He isn't making any moves though and if anything, things are becoming awkward. How do I know whether he meant it in a romantic way or just a friends-only way? What should I do?
2007-09-24 18:15:25 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would kiss him on the check and give him a hug. See how he responds to that. It is not threatening, but he will either react well or just blow it off.
Just an idea.
2007-09-24 18:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by byroneann 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I suppose asking him is too obvious.
You should ball up and take some initiative. You don't have to put yourself all the way out there, but if he's not going to commit than you will have to.
Usually it's the guy's responsibility to "go 90%" and let the girl "go the last 10%" but in your case there is a complication. He already has a good relationship with you which he could lose completely if he comes on to you and you reject him. If he was a stranger he wouldn't have that problem, but unfortunatley he does.
So. . .Miss Hardtoget. . .what are you going to do? I suggest you arrange time to be alone with him (at a minimum) and sit really close to him (preferably touching) and kind of gaze into his eyes while you talk. Let your voice become kind of dreamy and don't be afraid to maintain constant physical contact. If he doesn't get THAT hint you are going to have to do all the work.
On the other hand, if he forces you to stop any of those things then he is not interested in you. However, the odds are good that you will be making out in no time.
Enjoy!
2007-09-24 18:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by w34p0n2m4n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. Say "hey you remember the other day when you said you loved me, I should probably tell you how I feel about you" It may just be awkward because he poured his heart out to you and didn't get a straight response and now doesn't know how you took the comment. If it comes out that he meant it in a less than romantic way, at least you know. It's better to put your cards out on the table and see what happens that to wait around and hope someone else does the work for you, beacuse that could mean a missed oppurtunity.
2007-09-24 18:19:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is your friend. Ask him what he meant by what he said. Tell him that you have been feeling very close to him lately, and you were wondering if he was feeling the same way. It sounds to me that he is. Someone has to make the move, or you both will be missing out on something that could be great. Being friends, before lovers, is the best way to start a relationship. They usually last the longest, sometimes even forever!!
2007-09-24 18:25:34 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this depends on the conversation. if you were cheering him up or giving him advice then it was probably a friendly way and thatll be why he isn't making any moves. if he maybe paused just before he said it and said it quietly and slowly, then i think thats a sign he likes you that way aswell. if thats so and you acted a particular way afterwards then he wont be making any moves because he thinks he made a mistake.
just take him aside and ask him how he meant it - exactly like that. he wont figure anything out and youll find the truth. but if you do feel for him, then you should tell HIM the truth.
2007-09-24 18:33:32 · answer #5 · answered by pj_jc_jh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably friends only, or he's using the term too loosely. When in love, there's never any doubt. You just know. If he was in love with you, like he wanted to marry you, he would be showing some kind of sign even if he was shy. If he was "that" shy he wouldn't have even been able to say that to you. ;)
2007-09-24 18:22:16 · answer #6 · answered by David W 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Guys don't just say stuff like that! Especially since you know him already I think you can trust his words. I guess being friends might become harder unless you address this issue. If you like him, tell him. I don't think he's playing games.
2007-09-24 18:19:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It must not have truely found out how much you care for him. This is someone you have shared so much with, all your secrets and your hopes and dreams. You seriously need to sit down and talk with each other and don't hide anything back from each other. good luck and best wishes.
2007-09-24 18:26:09 · answer #8 · answered by Gladys C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him how en why...it happened to meh too...exactly the same thing to meh...but now we dunt even see each other no more en he alreadie has another girl....but if u think about...dunt ever say u love him bak unless u reallie do love him en the way how he says it...i was a fool okay...but i never said i loved him bak becuz i know that eventuallie....he wont love meh no more..en believe me...guys like to say things to make a girl happy even though they dunt mean it...sumtimes they do but now im heartbroken...theres not reallie any reason that there should be love no more...but love comes a different ways
2007-09-24 18:24:15 · answer #9 · answered by sugar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. Same exact thing with me. Best friend Abby is dating my best friend Michael and he tells me he loves me all the time. Best friend love lol, nothing more!
2016-03-18 23:41:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋