my 11 year old son has his first day of middle school PE tommorow. He is really worried about the showering afterword.. he is worried he will be one of the only boys with no pubic hair and a small penis. He fears getting teased. How can i help him
2007-09-24 17:58:00 · 14 answers · asked by Jenn s 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Pubic hair and a larger penis are rare for 11. I subbed in a 7th grade PE class several years ago and only one boy had pubic hair. He'll be far from alone, and most of the boys will be as embarrassed as he will, just to be naked. After the first day, it will be no big deal. In any case, he needs to know that all boys develop at different rates and at different ages and that will be true throughout school, not just in the 7th grade.
2007-09-25 06:35:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know I may seem a little young for yahoo answers but I'm 11 also.
I just started middle school and its great! But you only have a 3 minute passing period. You can't take showers and you don't get naked. Girls change and the only thing you really see are her bra and underwear. So boys should really have their underwear on at all times. Yes it was uncomfortable the first time. If he feels uncomfortable as well he Can change in a bathroom stall. Trust me i had the same problem ;)
2007-09-26 12:57:03 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? Boys this age are already worried about stuff like that? That's sad. My son is almost 11, and they don't have to shower after gym here in Germany. They were having swim class in school, and of course they showered after that, but they all showered wearing their swim trunks. Maybe that would be an alternative for your son if they absolutely MUST take showers after gym.
2007-09-24 19:44:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They shower in middle school? OK - First of all... he doesn't HAVE to take a shower if he doesn't want to. They can't MAKE him. Secondly... if he feels he MUST shower, explain to him that all kids are different and that he's not the only one feeling this way. All kids mature at different rates and he's got nothing to feel ashamed of or embarrassed about. And, I'm sure he's not the only one without pubic hair and that his penis is average sized.
2007-09-24 18:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by ♪♪BandMom♪♪ 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that these showers have either curtains or doors. MOST 11 year olds don't have pubic hair...do they? I'm sure he's not going to be the 'only' one with this problem, just tell him to keep him bum to everyone as much as possible and he'll be fine. Also remind him that they 'all' have the same thing.
2007-09-25 01:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by OMGiamgoingNUTS 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he even has to shower. I went through all of school and there was never time to shower after PE, that was middle school and high school. He shouldn't HAVE to shower if he doesn't want too, and if he does and is worried about his size, just remind him that if someone looked long enough to comment he can say back "And why were you looking!"
2007-09-24 18:54:47 · answer #6 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Explain that everyone reaches puberty at different stages in life and he will not be the only one like that in the showers.
Tell him to ignore them and act like it doesn't brother him. If they think it doesn't brother him they will leave it at that; however, if they know it does, then they will continue to ag it on. I cannot think of anything else for him to do, but be strong and realize that they are jerks.
Try to come up with something to take his mind off the situation too.
2007-09-24 18:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by old hippie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most 11 year old boys haven't started puberty, he'll be in the vast majority. And all of them will be so worried about other people looking at them, they won't have time to look at anyone else!
2007-09-25 01:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some schools don't require that the boys shower.
Or, he can refuse.
Most 6th grade boys are going to feel the same way.
However, personally, I think back fondly of my time spent in the school locker room........., and I think most gay men (and many straights) would agree.
Its a rite of passage. He has to go through things that he isn't comfortable with. Its called life. You can't hold his hand forever, and he will grow to resent you later in life if you do.
2007-09-25 14:16:02 · answer #9 · answered by Barney Blake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 11 years old? damn it goes a year lower every time.. anyway why does he shower with other boys at that age anyway.. it seems like a perverted school to me, but just say shower when you get home. Not once in my schools (australia) have we ever had to shower naked in front of teachers watching... anyone for that fact
2007-09-24 22:20:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋