have known this girl for 12 years since she was 4. I am best friends with her 2 older brothers who are my age. now i am 23 and she is 16. one night i go to a party and a coworks place, my co worker is gay and doesnt hide it. before the party he tells me he is bringing his "boy toy", his words. and that i should keep the gay joke to a minamun not to scare his newly turned gay friend straight. This is when it gets good. As i walk in the door i see my frineds ex. he being the only non co worker there me is the boy toy. as the night went on he started talking to me and asked that i dont tell her older brother. and i reply to that with "he isnt the one you have to worry about he isnt a fight if you hurt her i am the one who will kick your as s". he left the party after that. at the party i asked my coworker if he did anything with him he said no. a couple months later he tells me he did and that he seen the ex at a local gay bar getting "hot" on the dance floor. since it was a gay club it
2007-09-24 17:36:40 · 5 answers · asked by Jon G 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wasnt with a girl. knowing what i know i told the girl. i known her too long to keep something like this from her. i love her and her family like my second family i actually spend more time with them than my own family. i have shown her a text i got from my cowork saying he had made out with her ex. i guess my question is would you believe me if i told you about your ex again that he is gay. and ever since that she has been gnoring me what can i do to at least get her to see that i was looking after her and miss her friendship. she hasnt confronted him about it and i think that she beleives that they will get back together.
2007-09-24 17:38:15 · update #1
She just might be too imbarrased to talk to you. I hope that she decides to start talking to you again. You should try talking to her.
2007-09-24 17:49:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok if I'm getting this right , your 16 year old female friends ex boyfriend just turned gay and is dating your co-worker. And his told you not to tell her about it? Right? Telling her this is the right thing to do but she will unfortunately have to find out the truth on her own. She's young still and has feelings for him with hopes they'll get back together. Also this guy may swing both ways and thinks if this doesn't work out with your co-worker he can go back to her. Maybe she will need to see it for herself. Maybe talk to her brothers and tell them what's going on and you don't want her to get hurt or be used.This might be something that they can take care of without you risking your friendship with the family.
2007-09-25 00:49:07 · answer #2 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is sixteen? Who do you think she Wants to believe? Him.
You should have stayed out of it. When you butt in, even if you are being truthful, you end up losing a friend usually. At 16 she is likely to believe any line he gives her and your two cents won't change that. Just move on and be there when she realizes the truth.
2007-09-25 00:43:18 · answer #3 · answered by James Watkin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, depends, did she luv the ex? if she did then it would b extremely hard to believ. personally, if i luvd my ex then id probly do the same thing she is doing. but giv the girl some room and eventually she will realise youre her good frend and you wouldnt lie to her. hang in there.
2007-09-25 00:44:35 · answer #4 · answered by pj_jc_jh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well shes probly hurt right now.give her some space and time she will come around again
2007-09-25 00:41:52 · answer #5 · answered by flylilangels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋