Where I work, our ultrasound room is very small. So, we only allow the one other person to accompany the mother-to-be. Usually, the father-to-be is that person. If there are other people who the mother wants to be involved, I will bring them back for a brief "show", after I have finished the medical portion of the exam. You can always say that the facility where you are scheduled has the same policy. Best wishes!
2007-09-25 16:46:14
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answered by Lissacal 7
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I am so sorry! I had this happen to me. My mother-in-law wanted to come to the sonogram and I had my husband tell her that we wanted to do that together...just the two of us. She said ok, but was not happy about it. Then she insisted on being in the room during labor and delivery (my mother passed away so wouldn't be in with us). I don't know about anyone else...but I did NOT want my mother-in-law in there seeing my goods if you know what I mean...we didn't let her in and she was mad about that too. It has been a long and bumpy ride ever since (my daughter is almost three).
Your best bet is to talk to your husband and the two of you set up ground rules now for every part of your pregnancy, labor and delivery and for after your baby is born.
Good luck...
2007-09-26 08:34:15
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answered by *Almost ready* 5
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Was she there to help concieve the child as well? I'm sorry but its for you and your husband to share together, not your MIL! She should be respecting the fact that this is YOUR child w/ your husband. She can see the sonogram pictures afterwards and still feel "included". Sorry but my MIL would never be allowed..hell..my mil is the devil anyhow! But seriously..this is your time with you and your husband. Besides...the rooms that I have been in for sonograms have normally been on the small side.... If telling her no does not work, change the appointment and tell her afterwards.
2007-09-26 08:02:27
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answered by Anonymous
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Ill probably get a thumbs down since most who agree with you are getting them and the grammies are voting LOL. If you and your hubby both do not want her there, tell her the next one is an option. The first one is a chance for you and you man to see your creation together for the first time. There will be other chances. Most ultrasound techs only allow the patient and one support person. And you only see your baby for the first time ever this way. But give her some pics. My mom and mom in law never asked to go. I wish you luck!
2007-09-25 10:04:24
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answered by deblord2002 3
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You should be thrilled she wants to be such an active part of your child's life...
I would have loved my mother in law being there..but she had knee surgery so we went over as soon as we were done with pictures to show her..
Mind you my mother in law is not a pushy person (not with us anymore anyway - we had one big blow out and since then she respects the boundaries!)
If your mother in law is not normally a very interactive over bearing ninny - why not let her in on the amazing feats of ultrasounds today..have to remember hers was probably old kind that didn't even give clear picture..
If she is very pushy and interfering just tell her nicely that the hospital only allows one person in the room and you want it to be your husband but that you will come visit right after with the pictures (and do so ..it helps grandma's bond too you know) she probably just wants to find some common ground to be closer to you and her grandchild to be...
Good luck
2007-09-25 03:48:26
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answered by Finchy 4
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my mom came to my first ultrasound as well as my husband and my dad was waiting outside i would have had the whole family there if i could have. we found out the sex then also.it is such a cool experience why wouldn't you want to share it? for us our bonding time was the private moments at home when my hubby would talk to the baby read him stories and hum on my stomach making the baby jump all around. i mean if you really don't want her to go then just have him tell her he wants it to be private. also if you want it to be just the 2 of you this time there are allot of 3d/4d ultrasound places and most of them have seating and a big screen so you can bring like 15 ppl or so. we did that also.
2007-09-25 00:16:25
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answered by fairy 5
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although im not married to the father-to-be yet we are in the same situation!! but it is a lil different....see we wanted our moms to both come to it with us and both are but then his mom told me to my face that she would NOT be there bc she was taking my bf's ex to get her G.E.D. test done. I was very hurt by the fact that she would chose her over her grandchild. I decided i didnt want her at anything to do with the baby. She did apologize and we are now all going to the ultrasound again.
I think you might want to talk to your hubby bout it tho....it is your first baby. Maybe suggest that your mother-in-law wait for you in the waiting rm until you guys find out the sex and the tech gets all the things she needs then have her come back to see the baby. I understand she would want to see everything, but this is sooo special for you 2...she should realize that this is something that helps mommy and daddy to bond before bring home baby!! Congrats and Good Luck!!
2007-09-25 00:49:17
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answered by ♥Leela's Mommy♥ 3
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trust me, DO NOT let her go. if you feel like this is a time when you and the baby's father should be bonding, then this is no place for her. i'm on the other end. my mom has invited herself (all three times) to the birth of my babies. (def. a bonding time right?... not with mom there.) this is something that could definately create stress in your relationship. Finally for the first time (three weeks ago) i kicked my mom out of the birthing room, and it was a completely diff. experience. my husband and i bonded like i never thought possible. had i known this my mom would not have been in any of the births. and my husband has a hard time being around my mom because he feels like she "took his place" or interfered. so TRUST ME... it's hard to say no, but you will never forgive yourself if you don't.
2007-09-25 02:15:51
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answered by Anonymous
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I would ignore the request like your husband suggested and let him deal with her. If she brings it up to you tell her that her son wanted this to be between you and him. If she has any questions she needs to talk to him about it.
She will not say a word to him about it and you should not be getting upset.
2007-09-26 14:00:21
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answered by Kat G 6
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It really depends how you and your hubby feel. If you are both happy to share this special occasion with her then invite her to attend. BUT if you aren't comfortable with the idea or you just want it to be you and your husband, then you need to find a tactful way to tell her. As she is your MIL your Hubby should really speak to her and say that HE has decided that he wants to have this time alone with you. Be prepared that she may feel hurt, but if you treat her kindly then she will get over it.
Good luck,
mum2MH
2007-09-25 00:12:48
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answered by mum2mh 5
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