My parents are THE worst parents ever. It's bad. My friends even know me as "the girl who has the overprotective-fun-sucking-strict-parents that won't let her do anything". I hate it! I'm turning freaking 17 on October 21, and I JUST went to my first concert. I don't even have my license yet because they wanted me to drive with my permit for a YEAR. I'm old for my grade and everyone younger than me has their license and their own car already. My parents won't let me buy a car until next summer! It's not that we don't have enough money, it's that they don't think I need one because I THEY can just drive me places. Do you know how embarrassing and demeaning it is to have your parents STILL drive you places?! It's horrible! Sure my friends can drive me places, but I HATE mooching rides off of people. My dad is working all the time, and my mom is always studying in her room for college. My annoying, suck-up, momma's boy of a brother doesn't help either. How do I deal with them?! AHHHHHHHH.
2007-09-24 16:59:40 · 13 answers · asked by Danielle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I just don't know what to do anymore...I'm sick of it. My little brother's a freaking angel from the high heavens all the time which doesn't help my situation. They yell at me when I get B's in History (my ULTIMATE worst subject), and don't let me try to explain that I suck at History and I can't do any better in that class. I'm so stressed out because of my family life. All of my friend's parents are cool and aren't strict and overprotective and my friends turned out just fine with good grades! Why can't my parents be like that? They won't let me grow up! I'm leaving for college in a year and a half! They NEED to let me freaking grow up and make my own decisions. I'm not a baby anymore and they CAN'T get over that. They told me I'm still a CHILD. I know I'm not an adult, but I'm certainly not a CHILD! AHH. I hate my life! Not one of my friends would understand the situation I'm in and it sucks because I can't even talk to them about it because they'll think I'm crazy or something.
2007-09-24 17:06:46 · update #1
By the way, I'm buying my own car AND paying for insurance BY MYSELF.
2007-09-24 17:07:55 · update #2
I wish I had some great advice that would change your life, but I don't. First of all, you're parents, although very strict and overprotective, are not the worst parents in the world. At least they are willing to take you places, and let you get rides with your friends. When I was your age, I wasn't allowed to have friends! I wasn't allowed to speak to anyone except for them and my teachers. However, I remember being your age, and I know how badly you want your independence and freedom. How do you deal with them? All you can do is bite your tongue and know that you're turning 18 very soon. Try to remember that your parents are trying to take care of you the best way they know how, and they are not purposely trying to embarrass you or cause you pain. Be thankful that they are not beating you, locking you in a cage, or withholding food and clothing from you. Know that things could be a LOT worse. I think it's wonderful that you're saving your money for things that you want... that's teaching you financial responsibility. Just don't go wild when you turn 18... it could turn around and bite you in the butt. Believe me, I know. Try to look at the situation from your parents' point of view.... they love you.
2007-09-24 17:19:13 · answer #1 · answered by AmmoBride 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You listen to them. It's apparent from the way you are ranting in your letter that you are not mature enough to handle the responsibility of either the license or a car. And it is not mooching if they are your friends or you help out with the gas. You should be proud that your parents care about you enough to drive you places. And as for your brother, well isn't that what brothers do? Annoy little sisters. That doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Start showing responsibility and see how things change. And don't expect immediate gratification. If you keep on the way you are I'm not surprised if you wind up not getting your license until your 18.
2007-09-24 17:30:12 · answer #2 · answered by ravenscardarkhope 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Relax, your parents are older and more experienced and they know what is best for you. You just turned 17 and you think you are old and wise but you are not. You want freedom at this age, its normal for teenagers all over feel this way because they cant control their raging hormones. Just chill relax and remember at least your parents are going to get you a car later, while other kids have to work and buy their own car and other things. Be grateful to your parents and appreciate and respect them for what they are giving you. They know what is best for you.If you still hate them so much why dont you move out and get your own flat and buy your own car. Can you do that.
2007-09-24 17:07:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your parents about how you feel. Remember that as long as you're underage, you're basically under their rules. It sucks, but that's why they created the whole "once you're 18- you can leave home" thing. But you should talk to them first. Get your points across, but also understand where they are coming from. I mean, I'm guessing they just want to keep you safe and they want what's best for you. Having your license isn't a big deal. Once you get to drive, it gets old in like a month of two. I think you should really think about whether you're ready to even drive and think how much responsibility comes with that.
2007-09-24 17:08:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok let me see if i got this right, you have caring parents that are taking an active part in you life, trying to teach you right from wrong and how to live a productive life, they provide for your education,feed and clothe you and keep a roof over your head. they do what they can to protect you and keep you safe. ok i got it you should leave this life behind and go live on the streets and provide for your self, perhaps a career as a prostitute to support your drug addiction, and welfare to pay for the kids you'll pop out constantly and provide more of a burden to society. yes that sounds much better than the unbearable life you are living now. my parents told me something i never forgot and i'll share it with you, and maybe one day you will have successfully raised you children and made them productive members in society and feel like you should spend time trying to help solve others their problems. Here it is, God gave you 2 ears and 1 mouth, so listen twice as much as you talk. i hope one day you will love your children enough to take an active part in their upbringing and not let their friends raise them, hopefully you will be proud one day to say something to your children and think, wow i became my parents. Be glad they love you as much as they do, there are to many others that don't have the life that you do, you should be grateful to them and i'm sure one day you will understand and be glad they made you life so unbearable and maybe even thank them for it. i hope you see the lesson in my sarcasm. I really am trying to help so please don't take it the wrong way.
2016-05-17 23:35:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww... poor thing... I was twenty-one before I went to my first concert, and the truth of the matter is that I don't believe I'm bad off because of it. At your age, you aren't even close to being mature enough to handle the stresses of adulthood.
Furthermore, as long as you're getting where you're supposed to go, why does it matter how you get there? A car isn't a toy. The fact that teenagers seem to think their vehicles are playthings is the very reason why so many of them get into wrecks and smear themselves on the highway (that and a lack of common sense.)
2007-09-24 17:13:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hate to break it to you, but you're a spoiled brat.
You have parents who care about you and are going to help you get a car, but you think they're "the worse parents ever" because it's not soon enough for you.
You're only 16 for Christ sake. Just because you're friends are already driving doesn't mean it's reasonable.
I'm sure this won't get picked as the best answer, but you need to chill out and give your parents a break. They love you and just want to make sure safe. If that makes them the 'worst parents ever' then so be it.
2007-09-24 17:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by twelve 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Understand that your parents like most adults will first listen to adults then youngins....the stuff they're exposed to in their adult lives is news reports about drunk-teenage-driving and raves and terrorists...they're not ready for you to distance your life from theirs...but remind them you will soon be 18...and legally at that age you can do whatever...or your parents could also kick you out if they want...so try to explain to them that it's time that you start being capable for yourself and mobile...but don't think of the road as a party...people die on it every day...and they weren't planning on it
2007-09-24 17:05:00 · answer #8 · answered by T-monster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, you'll live. Been there, done that.
And don't say you have the worst parents ever. They actually love you, and care about where you are and what you are doing. Many people would pay to have parents that actually give a hoot about them.
You'll understand in a few years...
2007-09-24 17:04:14 · answer #9 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I gotta say is OUCH!! That really sucks but you have to think at times they are doing this for your own good. As parents they are protecting you because they love you. Look at whats happening in our world today!! Crazy stuff. I know Im going to sound like a parent (which IM NOT) when I say this but what they are doing to you will make you think back later "thanks my parents for protecting me. I didnt know how crazy this f-d up world is"
2007-09-24 17:07:50 · answer #10 · answered by becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋