I live in a small town where there is nothing but druggies and alcoholics and the only friends I do have want only to hang out with me if I have something they need or want. I don't drink or do drugs and I feel like I am in hell. Also my mom was the most wonderful mother in the world before SHE started to drink and do drugs and now she is really depressing me. I am scared that I will get a call saying she died. Do you think I should move? I don't want to see her like that because all my life she didn't do those things and now she does. BUT I am scared to move because when she's sad I am her only friend that'll keep her from suicide. What do I do? I want to do what is best for me and my family???But I don't want to lose my mom.
2007-09-24 16:38:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
how old are you? are you an adult or teenager? either way you need to get out. there are just different option for how to do it.
it's rough but the next time she talks about killing herself, call 911. that will really get the ball rolling to get her better. but no matter what, your first responsibility at this point is to make sure you are all right.that's harsh,but it should be your mother's first responsibility but crack is now' she will steal from you and hurt you without even knowing what she is doing. the best thing for her is to get professional help
2007-09-24 16:43:27 · answer #1 · answered by ron s 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, how old are you, and do you have other family you could get help from? You sound young and very worried. You should not feel responsible for another person's life, no matter who that person is, unless they are a child unable to care for themselves. You may consider asking your mother to go to AA or Narcotics Anonymous meetings , but she has to want to get help for herself. Also, you need someone to talk to for yourself, maybe you can find a hot-line to call or go talk to a counselor, someone who will keep what you say confidential. Drugs and alcohol trick the mind and body into thinking they need the chemicals to survive. Remember, you can't save someone who does not want to be saved; they have to be willing to take the first step. GOD bless you and your family.
2007-09-24 16:58:12 · answer #2 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I admire your strength and your courage to find a way out in your predicament. Do you have other trusted relatives? I think the best thing to do first is to relocate. Environment is a huge factor that influences lifestyle so get to a place where you can start anew. If there is a need, approach a government institution or non-profit organization who can sponsor your mom's rehabilitation. Attend community and church services, it will nurture in you friendships and camaraderie. Pray. Goodluck! God really works wonders.... Just do your thing.
2007-09-24 16:45:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have a friend who grew up like that. he and his sister have been their mom's "friend" and "babysitter" since they were little. they've seen their mom do some ugly things while they were kids and not so long ago (they're 22 and 23). they love her dispite what she does. in her own way, she loves them too, however she messed them up so bad with her drinking, drugs, and stupid suicide attempts! she gets negative attention and acts psychotic until they come running to her "rescue". now my friend turned into a pill head, and he drinks a lot. his sister is a slut and she's also a pill head who will do anything for them. it's sooo sad! don't let your mom do this to you. YOU are NOT her friend, okay? she is your mother! she needs to grow up and make good choies not only for herself for for her son who quite obviously NEEDS her! let her read this! you aren't suppose to be the one to pick her up once she's fallen. once she figures out why she craves the attention she does, that's when she'll get better. and as for you doing what's best for your family... baby you need to do what's best for you. YOU. get out of there. tell your mom you love her, you'll always love her, you miss her being your mom. then go! do you have nice grandparents? what about your dad? where would you go? as long as it's somewhere safe and comfortable, then you need to. my friend, the one i was talking about, he's 22 and hit rock bottom. he thought he wouldn't do what his mom did and he ended up just like her. i myself have seen this woman act like a total fool and embarrass the hell out him. i wanted to ring her neck for hurting him like that. he went to treatment and got away from him mom. he's off drugs, barely drinks, and has a job now. best of all his crazy mom is learning that he's not going to be HER MOTHER anymore. HE is the son, SHE is the MOM! she's learning to stand on her own. she's learning her fake suicide attemps won't get his attention anymore. he was screwed up by what she did... no more. your self esteem is probably so low and you're probably so confused and lonely. i want to cry for you because i've seen this happen! i only hope you will listen to me and get away. tell your mom you can't be her "friend", and you can't enable her to do this to you anymore. SHE IS THE MOM! you aren't suppose to be parenting her.
2007-09-24 16:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg. What is this world coming to??
Try to take your mom to a physciatrist. If you know where her drugs are kept take them and BURN them. Or just throw them out =)
If you know an adult you REALLY trust, tell them about it. Your mother really needs some help, and you need a safe place to stay. Make sure you tell your mom that you love her everyday, and hug her everyday. (Even if she smells like drugs and alcohol.) And tell her that what she is doing is wrong, and that she can't go on like this.
God bless your soul child. I love you.
2007-09-24 16:49:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW, so sorrye to hear this!! But you've got to get your own world started, and it sounds like your moving to a less infested area might be a good idea!! None of us want to lose a loved one, but don't let the drowning person pull you under trying to save them!!
2007-09-24 16:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by happywjc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't save your mom from herself she has to do that. you have to think about yourself first. find out where the ala-non meetings are and go, you also should move and make a life for yourself. I tried from ages 5 to 40 to save my mom, it didn't work and in the process it has almost destroyed me. I wish you all the best.
2007-09-24 16:56:46 · answer #7 · answered by info.girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you able to speak on your mom and dad approximately this? it rather is the place i might initiate. Get yet another to blame person in touch. and you will constantly invite her for sleepovers (in the journey that your mom and dad are happy with that) to furnish her yet another shelter until eventually this mess together with her mom is resolved. it rather is positive of you to care approximately your pal lots. i wish she realizes that each physique isn't lost while she has a chum such as you. sturdy success!
2016-10-05 07:46:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to do what is best for you, you can help your mumas much as you can, but unless she is willing to help herself it is useless.
You are the child in the house, it is not your responsibility to make sure the best is done for your family.
Can you stay at a aunts or grandparents house?
You need to get out of that situation and take your siblings if any,
good luck
2007-09-24 16:44:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it sounds mean, but get your mother into rehab and suicide prevention. It may sound cruel, but it will help your mom out alot.
2007-09-24 16:42:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋