What should I do if my boyfriend is seeing guys to?

Question

I have been going out with my boyfriend for a long time now we have even talked about getting married. I have found hard evidense recently that he is also placing adds to meet guys. I love him so much i dont know what to do? Please give me some advise on what to do?

Answer 1

How bad this must be for you. I know you scarcely understand what is going on. He has been stringing you along without telling you he is bisexual. Betrayal of that magnitude cannot be considered love. Please believe you deserve much better than this. Do you realize the danger he has put you in by having sex with you, while cheating on you with other men? Do you understand the selfishness that required, on his part? Do you realize that you will never, ever be able to trust him because you cannot satisfy that side of his sexuality, and he will always go looking elsewhere? He would have married you for show, to protect himself from speculation, and would never have told you. Please leave and don't look back. No matter how much he swears he will change, you know he can't. No matter if he tells you he will never do it again, you know he will. Remember that trust thing? I am so sorry, but I think you deserve better and should leave now.

Answer 2

Well, first, If you two have been sexually active, you stop.

Then you get yourself tested for STDS. While you know where you have been, you don't know what ink his pen has been dipped in.

Then you decide if you want to marry and have kids with someone who will never be faithful to you and is quite possibly gay. Ask yourself how you will feel when your children find out that daddy has boyfriends. How will you feel ten years down the road when he leaves you or when you get HIV or start finding warts on your privates.

Not only is he not committed to you, if he is having encounters with men while being sexually active with you, he doesn't care if he puts you at risk for death.

Men that get caught, usually don't get caught the first time. Odds are he has been doing this your entire relationship and even when faced with proof, will say he was just experimenting and wasn't serious or it only happened one time.

He already lies to you, you gonna believe him when he says it was one time, or he never did anything. Are you will to wait for proof via an STD?

Answer 3

So, you don't know yet if he's actually had sex with a GUY right? (Please supply answers in "details" area so I can know.. thanks) If you are going to CONTINUE having sex with him, ALWAYS wear condoms, you don't want to get AIDS because he did something bareback with a liar who told him he was disease free.. YOU MIGHT consider getting the hell out.

Im a female even tho I havent had time to change that "male" avatar thing you see there. anyway I know all about the gay world. Many men who are devoted to women, and say they are straight to the world, seek guys on the downlow for sex. To men its always sex with either gender. Many bi men place and answer ad's for gay men or bi men. Gay men in particular find it hot if they can "turn a straight man gay or bi" but they can't unless the straight man really wants to try it anyway. Gay men seek out straight men though. They like the masculine look, thats not to say gay men don't look masculine. Ive spent plenty of years in gay bars for fun and almost EVERY MAN in there looks STRAIGHT. lol! but they aren't. He might be in denial, if you found this behind his back, be prepared for him to deny it, if he admits it, Id be surprised. He's on the downlow, are you threatened by gay/bi men? This will never end, he will never give it up. Its a curiosity and something he will do. believe me when someone is curious, they will eventually experiment. Its really nothing you can ever trust. You have to be prepared to accept the fact your BF will from time to time want to have sex with men. How do you feel about that, is really the biggest question!!!

Answer 4

If you love him enough to talk about marriage, then you should be comfortable enough to ask him about it. Evidence is different than proof, so you need to get the facts and he needs to be open and honest with you. And if he is trying to meet other guys, maybe he doesn't love you as much as he says. Try to bring it up calmly...then if it's true, feel free to punch him in the face!

Answer 5

personaly that's not my thing or my cup of tea. if it was me i wouldn't be with him anymore although it might hurt you but obviously that's what he wants so i'll let him have it. but then again its all on you whether you want to be with a bi-sexual or not. so maybe you should talk to him about it and ask him what do he really want, and if he say both then you have a decision to make. but not to jenx you or anything but having relations with both kind of sexes leads to some kinda HIV/AIDS virus...so i wouldnt even put myself in that situation. but whatever you choose GOOD LUCK cuz you're gonna NEED it !!!!!!

Answer 6

I'm sorry but that's just hot... ok now to your problem.. you need to plain and simply leave him if he is already doing this, chances are he is turning more into men period and no it doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with you.. Should you put up with this ??? No.. Don't you deserve better ??? Yes...

Answer 7

Sit down and talk to him seriously. Tell him what you know, ask him to clarify and explain it to you. Is it ok that he is bi? Or will you only love him if he is straight? Know this answer before you talk with him....... maybe he is confused? I don't know. Listen to what he has to say.

Answer 8

Ummm, unless you're satisfied sharing him with someone else i'd say give him an ultimatum.

Answer 9

Apparently this guy is into other guys so I would let him go because there is no future with him.

Answer 10

hes bi

just know what's up going into it or just run

GL