should I get him for child support or just let it go. He haven't seen her since she was about 9 mos. old and she will be 2 in December. The guy that I am with now, we've been together since my daughter was 2 mos. old, he is the only man she know as daddy, and he takes very good care of her. So should I let her sperm donar get off scott free or should I make the loser pay.
2007-09-24 16:19:27 · 21 answers · asked by Mercedes...F, 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I guess you were never married so there's no separation agreement. Does the child's birth certificate show his name as father and do others know he's the child's father. Both parents are responsible for the maintenance of the child--health insurance, day care, clothing, dental care, later it will be music lessons, ballet, soccer camp--none of this is cheap and you shouldn't have to bare these expenses alone--not to mention a portion of the rent and utilities and food. So what is his financial situation. Does he have a family. I would called the States Attorney's office and tell them you need child support for your daughter and see what they say.
2007-09-24 16:30:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you the "loser" will pay. And I dont mean money. I have one of those "losers" myself and trust me you are better off without them in your life. My daughter has not had her "sperm donar" in her life at all and she is now 18. She has had her moments of wondering why, but they are short lived. Its just been the two of us until she was about 15 1/2 and I have this wonderful boyfriend that has just taken her under his wing. If your daughter has that relationship with your boyfriend than thats all she needs. My daughter grew up without a "daddy" and has done exceptionally well. Shes a great kid and I wouldn't trade out situation for anything. People think that children need to grow up with both parents. That's not always true when one parent is a "loser". I had to be both a mother and a father for my daughter and as long as you teach them about life you cant go wrong.
2007-09-25 00:59:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a son just like you daughters father. He now pays child support and sees his daughter occasionally. He is engaged to someone else. She is my grandaughter and I feel I owe her a better life. If he chooses to be an absent father there is nothing I can do or say to change that (believe me I have tried). But, he does owe her child support. The child support is for the child not the mother and he had to understand that. She is so beautiful and is loved by all of our family members God has truly blessed us and I will always make sure she knows that. He may have been only a sperm donor but he at least should pay child support. Make him pay!!!!! Not for you, but for your daughter. That way when she grows up at least that will be one positive thing you can say about her father!!! The baby comes first!!
2007-09-24 23:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny, you answered your own question in your last sentence. You obviously KNOW you don't want him to "get off scott free". My son is 8 and his father hasn't been a part of his life since he was 6 months old. My husband has been his "daddy" for more than 7 years. My son loves my husband and my husband treats him no different than our other two kids. He wants my ex to be non exist ant, but if I could get that sucker to pay, you damn betcha he'd pay. He lives in CA and the child support laws are sooo lenient there. I've been on his *** since the day he left and have gotten a total of about $400. If you can get this man to pay for his child, he should. Even if he isn't physically there for his daughter why shouldn't he be financially? What if it was you who left? You'd be a sick, rotten person. He leaves and.. eh... it's just what some guys do. Girl, if you live in a state that GETS their child support, you damn bet you should get it. You daughter deserves it. Love her, let your boyfriend love her and be her daddy- there is NO problem in that, but get her that money she's owed. Do it for you, for her, your boyfriend, and all of us whose children CAN'T get their child support!
2007-09-24 23:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When all is said and done.....if you carry the animosity you have for your baby's father, you will destroy yourself and your child. Some how, you need to get rid of the anger, and NEVER, please, NEVER tell your child that you feel her father is a loser.......that makes her a loser too. Get some help to resolve your feelings and then go on with the good man you've found. Raise your daughter together and enjoy your life together. Love and hate are very closely related, but indifference is the ultimate insult. Get to indifference toward this sperm donor.
2007-09-24 23:28:31 · answer #5 · answered by marycontrary9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be quite honest with you, my dad is the exact same way.
My mom isn't taking his *** for anything. Which is stupid.
But, if I were you, I'd make him pay child support, it takes two to tango. You didn't get yourself pregnant. So why should it just be you taking care of the child?
Your new boyfriend is a good man for taking care of a child that isn't his. And you two should be given some money from the real dad. So why not get him for some child support? It'll help your family out more.
2007-09-24 23:24:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you can answer that question. for myself I choose not to pursure child support for my oldest child, I knew that me and his father were going our separate ways, and I started dating the man that he knows as his father before he was a year old. I am not sorry that I did not pursue child support. I know that I have done the best that I can for my child and provided a stable family, his sperm donor is not part of our lives but the man he knows as his father is the best fathe a child could wish for, he treats all of the children the same. Makes sure that they have everything that they need, spoils em rotten when they are good, but will discipline them as soon as they do wrong.
2007-09-24 23:25:24 · answer #7 · answered by dustystar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should chalk this up to you making bad decisions
in the first place. Move on and try to make smarter chooses
next time. Why are some of you always trying to get someone
else to PAY for your bad decisions. When is this going to stop.
2007-09-24 23:26:12 · answer #8 · answered by sunchang1809 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well making him pay is definitely part of what you should do. You should try hard to not bad-mouth him, though - in front of your daughter. Hopefully this guy will wise up one day and realize what an a#$ he is for not wanting to be a good role model for his daughter.
2007-09-24 23:23:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I adopted my wife's son from her ex husband. We didn't want his cash, we wanted him to go away. After a threat from a lawyer to charge him with back child support, he signed, and I adopted my son. Don't milk the system or the sperm doner. Take the high road.
2007-09-24 23:22:59 · answer #10 · answered by DayinthePark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋