Did I do the right thing??

Question

I'm berly turned 18 last month and I'm gonna have a month with my boyfriend 2morrow. I always had that thought in being a virgin until marriage. That was like a dream that i wanted to wait for, but temptation came in. My boyfriend and I had sex, for our 1st time and it really was hard to fight temptaion. It was cute because we were experiencing for our first time. Though I feel like I broke a promise to myself and God =(. Eventhough I know this guy is a good guy, even a keeper. Yes, your probably wondering, "well how can you say this if you only know this guy for 1 month?", well actually, this is the funny part. I actually know him since 9th grade high school, but we would rarely talked. He's always been known for a really good guy, not because I say it, but everybody that knows him says the same thing. I don't know what to think about what we did, can anybody give me a well reasonable answer?

Answer 1

Though I'm sure the religious "fundies" are going to pounce on you for breaking THEIR rules - I would say that YOU should do whatever it is that makes YOU happy...

Since you are questioning if what you did is wrong (it ISN'T) - perhaps the two of you should slow things down a bit until you are both SURE that you want to pursue things sexually.

The best advice is to follow your heart - but make sure your MIND isn't shut out altogether. If he is the nice guy that he claims (and it sounds like he IS), then things will work THEMSELVES out :):):):)

Answer 2

Obviously you are a godly woman seeking godly answers.

You know in your heart what's right and what's wrong because you are seeking God. We all have temptations.

All the things you said to justify what you did sound like excuses. What you did is wrong in God's eyes but you aren't a bad person and certainly not outside His Grace.

You had sex but you don't have to continue. It doesnt' sound like you want to. If he really is a good guy then he'll be with you even if you won't have sex with him. If he's a Godly man then he might actually leave because you're having sex with him.

The best thing to do is have a relationship without sex. I know it's hard and there are temptations but read the stories of heartbreak from all the people on here. Most of them are having sex. If it makes the relationship much better then why is there so much pain? I'll tell you why. Because if you have sex without the committment of marriage then you are opening yourself up to major rejection and heartbreak. You will be violated.

God's design isn't meant to punish us or deny us pleasure. It's what's best for us. It's what makes us happiest, healthiest and the most useful in this world. That's why we need to trust in Him.

I pray that God will bless you and your boyfriend. I already know that he loves you.

Answer 3

i think that its not wrong to have premarital sex...but after only a month?? me and everyone i know go by the three month or four month rule.