I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 weeks and we've done everything that kids should do in a relationship(like hold hands and hug), but I think I love him, and we've been slipping a little, but Im pretty sure I want to kiss him. And Im Catholic in a Catholic School! Should I fastforward or Pause?
2007-09-24 15:25:38 · 25 answers · asked by Bella Logan<3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi,
I'm 16 and have done quite a few things in my past relationships that I am fine with doing and some things that I regret I did. My best advice to you is to wait to kiss him until you are extremely positive and don't just let it be to impress him or make yourself supposedly feel better for the time....what I am saying is that after I had my first kiss I would think about it alot saying to myself gah that was a very special kiss and it is just gone...to who to him... yuck. And then you watch movies like Never Been Kissed and it makes you regret it just that much more. I mean sure you will do what you want to do in the end, but I would just wait. Think for a second about it this way.... and this goes for everything you will do with a boyfriend....that first kiss won't be there for your husband in the future... the one that you want to love with all your heart and give everything to and for him to do the same to you. But life is life and it is fun to kiss...but I pray that if you must kiss him that that is all you will do....trust me it sucks thinking that I will one day tell my husband how much I love him but not have anything left to show him how I waited for him or how much I love him and that he was my one and only.
2007-09-24 15:37:59 · answer #1 · answered by americasnextopfashiondesigner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 14, most girls are not mature enough to handle the aspects of a relationship, might be why many are not allowed to date until 15 or 16. You are in what they call puppy love, something that will probably be over before too long, and if not, it will not stay at the same level of infatuation. Give it a little more time, you don't want to move too fast, because then there could be more action than what you are ready for.
2007-09-24 22:34:37 · answer #2 · answered by julvrug 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm betting you really don't love him, you're in love with the notion of having a boyfriend...period. Put this thing on Pause.
As for the kissing---ok, lets say you do that. THEN WHAT??
Have you drawn a line as to where to stop?? Or do you wanna be another 14 year old who finds out how to get pregnant before realizing how stupid it was to keep progressing. Because that's what happens if you don't have a plan to stop and follow through. No means No. Remember that. Learn when to say no.
Nobody will be there to lookout for your best interests. Make sure you know what those are!
2007-09-24 22:29:41 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Primeau 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, yes and yes! You're going too fast. Slow down, honey. Sometimes when we start the whole physical thing, we begin to think we are in love when we really aren't yet. All the physical stuff can make our feelings speed up. Take time to get to know each other. Remember the Bible says "do not awaken love before its time" Fast-forwarding now after 4 weeks may mean that after 12 weeks, you'll fall into sexual sin. and God loves you, girl. He doesn't want you to feel the pain and hurt that girls feel when they've given up their virginity to a guy and then be dismissed by them later. Take it from me, I've been there. And it took a long time for me to heal because I was so broken. And NOW (years later) I have Christ's healing and I also have a boyfriend that I have been with for 1 year. And we have not kissed! I know that I love him. Physical stuff is not confusing our relationship. we both love God and we want to get married soon, and fast-forward in a way that pleases God...after marriage. I'm praying for you, girl. Hope you make the right decision. get to know the dude! there's this great book called "I kissed dating goodbye" AWESOME. google it, amazon it, buy it, girl!
2007-09-24 22:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by Mimi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you can limit it to kissing, it will be fine. A lot of kids do more, but regret it later. Take it slow.
Should be no pressure from him. Pressure to kiss or do more would mean you are just the girl of the moment, and less special to him.
It can't be love at your age. That entails more thoughtfulness, things done for one another, spending more time with him and other people at the same time, and being comfortable with other people seeing you together.
Is he also thoughtful of others besides you, but you are the special one ? Or is he only nice to you ? People in love help each other to accomplish more things that they are interested in. Your own personal cheerleader and assistant. Each for each other.
Happy Times.
2007-09-24 22:37:55 · answer #5 · answered by Laurence W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel unsure then wait!! Once something is done you can't go back and undo it. In the scheme of you whole entire life 4 weeks isn't that long. However a kiss isn't sex but it certainly can lead to it.
You are the only one who can decide what is right for you and once you do NEVER EVER let a boy change your mind or your friends tease you into doing something you really don't want to do.
2007-09-24 22:31:54 · answer #6 · answered by sorryfoot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the first few weeks of a relationship, every positive emotion you feel makes you feel like your in love. Don't Jump the Gun to soon. Ask yourself, does your BF fell the same way, or does he just want the goodies? About the Kiss: Go for it, If you feel that you are ready, and he is ready, why not? What could it hurt...you are his GF.
Good Luck
I hope this Helped
2007-09-24 22:31:18 · answer #7 · answered by *~*Gettin' Hyphee*~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to back up and regroup,... what I mean is,... I got my gf pregnant at 13 and she and i were both 'good kids' good and horny and without any restraint so it happened,... think and then think again and if that doesnt work.... remember... the relationship comes first, each other next and then the self so dont do this just to get sex for reall you can always masturbate
2007-09-24 22:30:15 · answer #8 · answered by doggie_dundee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pause Pause Pause... Your only 14, lots of years a head of you to move forward.. Take this slow and please don't say love when its only mere infatuation, that is a waste to use the word at only 14...
2007-09-24 22:31:55 · answer #9 · answered by I Heart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg, that's so cute, you should get to know him a little better before kissing him. Oh and be sure not to kiss him at school when you feel confident enough to kiss him. Good Luck!!
2007-09-24 22:31:05 · answer #10 · answered by katie r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋