I'm about to be 19 ...
i been w/h my girfriend About 3 years!....
we have not had sex...
she told me she ready to do it.. but the think is... idk if i should..
i know alot about GOD.. and i feel that if i do that.. he won't
listen to me anymore.... everything i pray for he has given to me..
and me doing this i will betray him...
seriously i really want 2 do it.. but i dont wanna put my back
to GOD?
PLEASE HELP!!
2007-09-24 14:57:07 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
its up to u, dont listen to these crazy christians, they will *** up ur life. also, think bout ur moral values, if it goes against u, then dont do it =] so eezy
2007-09-24 15:00:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 6⤋
The absolute best thing is to wait until you are married. Don't feel like God won't listen to you anymore just because you mess up. That is not how God works. If she loves you as much as you love her then she can wait. I made it 23 years without having sex you can do the same. Believe you me I wouldn't know if I was missing out on something or not but I am in 100% bliss because I know that I made that covenant with my true love and we saved a special gift for each other. Your virginity is a gift that should be a special gift. It is something you can only give once, make it worth it!
2007-09-24 22:05:28 · answer #2 · answered by The 2 points guy 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You have been together for three years. Where do you see your relationship in another three? Personally, I think 19 is too young to get married... but I am biased, because I got married at 19 and it didn't work. But that is the only option I see for you. If you are serious about your beliefs, then don't do something that goes against them. If you want to have sex AND remain within the will of the Christian God, I would recommend you get married before you have sex.
2007-09-24 22:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by The Apple Chick 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
When you don't know what to do, it's best not to do anything at all. Give yourself time. Pray about it, God knows about sex, you can talk to God about your feelings on the matter, and God will guide you to do the right thing. Which for a christian usually means abstinence if you are single and fidelity if you are married. If your girlfriend truly loves you she will understand, and respect your faithfulness to God. It's normal to want sex when you feel close to someone, but it's important for us to be responsible with our sexuality as with all the aspects of our life. Talk to your girlfriend and come to an agreement about it, and about your future. Talking about it will relieve the stress and help to strengthen your relationship. God bless.
2007-09-24 22:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by puracastidad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I am so happy that I saw your question.
I encourage you strongly to wait! Sex can only lead to heart-break and crazy hormones if you are not inside a marriage.
Waiting is totally rewarding. Please, I beg you from the bottom of my heart. Wait. Wait until you get married, and then, on your wedding night, enjoy your wife. Agh! I can't stress it enough how important it is for you to wait.
God will always forgive you, and come back to you if you ask him to forgive you. But that doesn't mean that you can go and do whatever you want whenever you want. God wants you to follow his command, and he commands to wait to have sex until you are married.
Please, think about what I said. Tell your girlfriend that you should wait. See if your relationship gets any further.
Sex is also risky if you aren't ready to be a parent. I know you are almost 19, but that is still young to be a father. I am praying that you will abstain from the worldly pull.
Blessings to you.
2007-09-24 22:05:26 · answer #5 · answered by wormwoodkid 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Seriously - you should go on and have sex. You will, I really hope, have a wonderful experience. If it doesn't work the first time, be happy that you're able to do it several times and over the years with many different partners.
I wish you well and happy on the sexual path.
2007-09-24 22:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a question to which only you can provide the answer. Do what you feel is right for you and your girlfriend.
As others have said, but it's worth repeating: if you do decide that you are ready for sex, be responsible about it.
2007-09-24 22:07:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just have sex, and don't worry about God looking over your shoulder.
It's actually bad to wait for marriage. Because then you might find out you're not sexually compatible, and head right for disaster.
2007-09-24 22:16:48 · answer #8 · answered by Krelboyne_Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its admirable that you stick by your beliefs. In the end, we are all human and its natural to want to "do it" even though we are not married. I don't see the harm in it, just use protection. But again, if you feel strongly about it, just tell your girlfriend that. If she truly loves you she will respect your stand on this. Just don't feel you have to rush to get married just to have sex.
2007-09-24 22:02:45 · answer #9 · answered by afilmbuff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have sex with yourself. Make love to your girlfreind.
IF and only if You can answer this,.
If God came down and apeared to you today, and told you that YOUR love for your girl would doom you to hell for all eternity. THen having had ALL doubt removed of the existence of God and The existence of HELL>
Would you be willing to burn in hell for your love?
If your not willing to burn for your love. Then your not in love.
Your just having sex, But if you will die for her.If you would burn for her.If you would wait for her and never have sex again FOR HER If she is the only one > Then Make love to her. God Will respect a man of integrity, If you could say that in your heart with all of your heart then YOU are already married in the eyes of God.
Then there is no reason not to get married is there.
2007-09-24 22:08:58 · answer #10 · answered by Rich 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not be afraid of your god if this is something you feel is right. Where in the Bible does it say not to have sex before marriage?
I don't know your god but I am sure he would want you and your girlfriend to be happy. He loves you doesn't he?
2007-09-24 22:02:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋