A customer at work came up to the counter and was staring at me for a few moments, then really quietly, he starts saying, "beautiful.... you're beautiful." It was a little bit creepy but I thanked him for the compliment. Then he starts saying stuff like "what's your name" and "can I take you out on a date sometime" and when I told him my age he still was like "come on, I'm harmless, let me take you out." I can't say I didn't find him attractive--I did--but I know better than to go out with someone who is that forward, not to mention 15 years older, yikes! I don't want to be reckless, but I don't want to turn him away either... He gave me his number... what's your advice on this situation? I'm afraid to get myself in a bad situation that will be hard to get out of. I know that men who tell women they're beautiful are probably not good to get involved with. But I can't help looking at his number and wanting to call. What would you do if you were me?
2007-09-24 13:56:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It's not that I have trouble meeting guys, but not many of them tell me I'm beautiful right away. They are all so boring, they don't court me or try to win me over. I know that's not really a good reason. Maybe I'm just looking for prince charming in the wrong places.
2007-09-24 14:09:03 · update #1
How old are you?
2007-09-28 12:02:13 · answer #1 · answered by Ruby 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I'm 14 years old and I'm a freshmen in high school. I had the exact same problem in Middle school. I was the guy who was put to the side, the one who everyone forgot about, the guy who was like a missing puzzle piece. And then I started going into theatre and my personality blossomed. It was the only thing I thought I could do the best, it was my talent. Ever since i started doing school plays, I became more social and open. I broke down those walls that were keeping me from finding me. My advise to you is to find the thing that makes you, YOU. Use that as a self-esteem booster to open a flourish as a young woman. I know i sound like a wanna-be therapist, but I've been down that road many times and I've learned through the whole experience. Good luck, I hope this helped.
2016-05-17 22:40:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him up and say you would rather e-mail him back and forth for now to find out what he's like. If you then learn more about him and you like what you learn, take it from there. It could be a learning experience if the guy isn't a psychopath. Be careful. Let someone you trust, like a friend...know all the details of what transpires between the both of you, so in case anything happens you have a witness. I take it you have trouble meeting guys? Have you tried the yahoo personals? It's a great site for meeting people your own age. Good luck.
2007-09-24 14:03:48 · answer #3 · answered by Spirit-X 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess I'm the oddball out. My wonderful, goofy husband is 14+ years older than me. What would have happened if I had never called him back???
I'd be one lonely woman.
Not everything is a travesty or a danger waiting to happen. Has it occurred to you that maybe he really DOES just think you are beautiful?
A phone call can't hurt.
Good luck.
2007-09-24 15:17:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something similar happened to a girl I work with, she came over to tell me to go on break and a male customer said to me " if I were you I'd hit that now" I guess he thought it would be a joke between two guys. So he wrote down his # and told me to give it to her. I never did and I got him back I blocked my number and called him back and told him I'd kill him if he's ever say anything like that again. So thats what im telling you to do, have a guy you know call that # and threaten him a bit, make sure the number is blocked. to block it hit *67 then continue dialing the #
2007-09-24 14:54:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old are YOU? Depending on your state, if you aren't at least 17, you are jailbait to him. If you aren't comfortable with the age difference, don't go out with him. There is a bigger difference between 18 and 33 then there is between 50 and 65. So your age is as important and the age difference.
2007-09-24 14:24:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I wouldn't. He asks you out because he found you attractive, and he knows you're 15 years younger. I'm not saying you should be freaked out, but...he doesn't seem like someone you'd want to go out with. I don't really know, though. If you want to go out with him, go for it. Just don't give him any personal information...That way, you won't have to wonder if you made the right choice by turning him away, but if he seems creepy, he can't get to you. You may want to switch jobs though...
2007-09-24 14:04:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say no! It's bad. He could be a rapist. If you don't know him and just met him at the cash register, I would throw the number away and forget it. You have to protect yourself. Find a guy more your age who has some of the same friends you do. Tell your manager if he keeps it up.
2007-09-24 14:00:57 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Pretty♥ ♥Kitty♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, this does sound bad. If you're really tempted by him, it might be a good idea to find out why someone coming on to you in this way would tempt you. Because it's dangerous. Serial killers operate like this, in "super charming" mode.
And if you are underage or near it, RUN, don't walk away.
2007-09-24 14:06:07 · answer #9 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are 18 or older, I dont see why not. But only meet him in a very public place, such as a restaurant or movies and take your own car. Dont ride with him until you get to know him very well.
2007-09-24 14:06:16 · answer #10 · answered by ~SheSul~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on your age, if you are in your teens be careful , i f not, see him always in apublic place,that you know and know th e people who work there, very publicly, dont accept any drinks or food without seeing them served infront of you, dont let him take you home in his car and that is basically it, and i said a place that you know becouse if they want to gang rape yu then he would have another person at a restaurant in coaccion,,so it is basic safety to go to a place you already know
2007-09-24 14:36:19 · answer #11 · answered by carla s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋