I'd been waiting for this day forever! It was perfect, and I wasn't expecting it so it made it a lovely surprise..
But now I just feel a bit overwhelmed at it all, and I'm starting to doubt that I'm really ready for this and I am scared.. =/
Is this normal?
I LOVE him to bits, and I know that I want to spend the rest of my life with him, it's just that now it's become a reality... I'm scared!
2007-09-24 13:55:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I feel you girl...I was engaged recently and never thought I would feel like this about it. I do though... and I think it's normal. I mean... wow! I know the he is the one for me too, but geez... it is really coming true?
Your feeling are sane and normal... just try to remember the reasons why he is the one for you and how much he will bring to your life. (I'm preaching to the choir, I know) :) Congrats!
2007-09-24 16:14:04 · answer #1 · answered by Renn 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Most people get freaked out and start to question if this is what they really want. Don't be surprised if you start to notice little things about your fiance that really annoy you...don't worry about it. If you really love him it'll all be fine. Besides, nobody ever said that you have to start planning the wedding as soon as you get engaged...wait a year or two to get used to the idea, then once you feel comfortable with it start planning. Talk to your fiance about it and let him know that you are having some anxiety about the wedding and you want to enjoy being engaged and showing off your ring before you pick a date. It'll be fine; just give yourself some time to get used it all.
BTW Congratulations!
2007-09-24 23:05:58 · answer #2 · answered by magnadudl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is normal...I went through the same thing. I was so scared and had no idea why because he was perfect and everything that I ever wanted. Then as time when on and I started planning and the wedding got closer all my doubts disappeared and it just kept getting better from there.
Don't worry if you love him everything will be okay
Congrats and good luck
2007-09-24 21:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by ventity325 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think being scared happens to a lot of brides to be at some point or another during the engagement. I became engaged in January of this year and it took me all the way until June to get cold feet! The good news is, it passes! It seems like you just have to really think things through in order to mentally be prepared for all that is ahead of you in this whole wedding planning and married life business. So to answer your questions YES YOU ARE NORMAL!! Best of luck to you!
2007-09-24 23:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its normal to have a bit of shock in addition to the joy. It's a big step and IMO a little bit of fear is a healthy sign that you realize the commitment involved with marriage and don't see it as an excuse for a big party.
Relax, and remember that an engagement can be as long as you need to get used to the idea. Don't let anybody tell you otherwise.
2007-09-24 21:08:06 · answer #5 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its normal you will go throu fazes. iF you know that hes the one it will be ok. just a heads up you will stress alot about planning a wedding but try not to. yall will argue when planning the wedding thats normal just make up before he leaves or goes to bed. The wedding will cost alot and last 20 min. I hope it all works out
2007-09-24 21:32:15 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Nolan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just got engaged. That doesnt mean you have to get married right away...let things settled down...then slowly start planning and work your way up... no one ever put a time limit on engagement...
2007-09-24 22:04:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I said "no" when my boyfriend first asked me. I also cried the whole night to my mother and repeatedly said how much I hated him and everything about him. After the shock, I reconsidered.
So, mix feelings are 100% natural.
Just stay clam and enjoy being engaged. Take it slow if you want, there is nothing wrong with that!
2007-09-24 21:12:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You'll be fine. Set your date, start picking things out, and you'll get into the rythm.
Congrats - this new adventure will be so exciting and frustrating, but worth it!
2007-09-24 21:07:40 · answer #9 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋