Do you ever feel like you just want to run away on a long vacation, away from your children? Are you just so tired of there demands that you just want to sleep all day? Have you ever just felt like no matter how much you do for your kids its never enough. You ever feel like your kids take and take. But then you stop and think I can't live without them and are just so grateful to have them. Please let me know cause I never hear other moms complain.
2007-09-24 13:35:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am often exhausted and think, longingly, of the time when they will be grown & on their own, when my husband & I can spend days at a time thinking about no one's needs but our own.
But, at the same time, I wouldn't want it to end right now (oh, maybe a break for a few hours, though...). This *is* what I want to do with my life. It's challenging. It's fascinating. It brings my husband & I closer together as we live through each step of this journey, supporting each other all the way.
Build yourself some downtime. Give yourself praise & gratitude - be proud of yourself. *Teach* your children to show you gratitude, too. They are not born knowing how to do that. And, it may seem a little 'attention-seeking' to do it, but ask them to tell you 'thank you' when you do things for them. Point out all the hard work you do for them. Make sure you show *them* gratitude, too, so they can know how good it feels when they deserve it. If you don't teach them how to do this, who will?
2007-09-24 13:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel this way all the time. Yes I couldn't live without my children but I seriously could use a nice vacation without them. My last child has sure put me over the edge. She is nothing like the other two kids. She is very demanding and she is only one. We are going to Aruba in November and all the kids are coming, I really wish I had a sitter to say home with them but I only trust my mother or sister to keep them over night and they are going to Aruba also. So even though it sounds like a nice trip I am kind of dreading it. I know my kids will have a ball but I can't expect any the others to watch them. My husband won't be that much help because he plans on kite boarding half the time when he is there. Doesn't seem to fair does it? Sorry I got off the subject. All of them feelings I have and worse sometimes, but I usually get over it.
2007-09-24 22:11:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never hear other moms complain? I am not a mother, but your complaint sounds like the same exact thing (nearly verbatim) I have heard out of thousands of mothers mouths. You are not alone. Raising children is incredibly trying -- I'm sure if you expressed what you are feeling to another mother (who you trust to be honest with you) she would tell you she is feeling or has felt the same exact things.
2007-09-24 20:42:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer is yes to all of your questions.
I do feel that way often - I am the mother of three boys.
My oldest two fight most of the time.
I do hate it when people ask "when are you going to have a girl" or assume that my life is so hard because I have three boys. I did want five boys but my doctor says I can't have any more c-sections which for me means babies because I have 9 pound baby boys!!
2007-09-24 20:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by georgia_peach 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a mom..just a single dad. I havent felt overwhelmed by my kids this evening.....heck thinking about it..it has been almost 24 hours since I last felt overwhelmed by stuff they do....3 teenager boys at home..
Welcome to bring a parent
2007-09-24 20:44:28 · answer #5 · answered by Bob D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a five-year-old with a developmental delay and sometimes I feel overwhelmed. I wouldn't feel like this so much if my husband gave me the emotional support I need...I feel like I'm in this alone.
2007-09-24 21:36:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think all moms have felt this way at least once.I'm a stay at home mom so i know where your coming from.Take little time outs for yourself.
2007-09-24 20:44:34 · answer #7 · answered by lollypop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone feels like this at times.
It sounds like you're too busy following your kids around. Parenting isnt about meeting demands, its about setting up routine and rules and training them whether they like it or not.
If you're being pulled in too many directions its because theyre not following you, and you're chasing them. Thats no way to live, and its no way to raise functional people.
Everyone goes through this time, it just means you have to step back, re-evaluate your technique, path and goals, and make changes.
2007-09-24 20:40:40 · answer #8 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh yes, yes, yes ,yes...yes to all your questions.
Every one has moments where you just wish you could pause life... and take a minute.
Being a parent will never be easy....but you have to stop and think about all your blessing. You have kids, who i am sure, adore you, and are smart, beautiful, and healthy. So focus on the good... and keep going! good luck!
2007-09-24 20:45:31 · answer #9 · answered by ♥cutemamma♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah its true,but like you i cant live without them either.maybe our mums felt that way about us,iv got 4 kids and 5 dogs and a cocky,so its never ending.
2007-09-24 20:44:30 · answer #10 · answered by shrebee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋