I would like to know what kind of dicipline has worked for you?

Question

Keep in mind that my kids are a lil younger i have a 6yr old and a 5yr old also a 3 yr old and im just wondering what works best as i have found nothing.....time outs they just leave the spot..i dont have time to stand there for how ever many minutes i have other people to tend to and housework to keep up with....help

Answer 1

spank them on the butt (only), this is serious discipline because after you spank them they'll but scared to do what ever they did AGAIN!!! trust me...it worked on me lolz

Answer 2

The reward system. Make up some sort of chart, or jars with tickets, or marbles. When they do the chores they are supposed to do, they get a ticket for each thing done. If they don't do what they are supposed to do, you take away the ticket. So many tickets equals something special. Maybe time alone with mom or dad, a new set of crayons, or a colouring book (nothing huge!) or they can continue to save for something bigger. The little one might have a hard time understanding it, but you could explain it easier for that one.

The kids like being proud of what they have done, and how good they have been all day, and like collecting the tickets!

Answer 3

Time outs are the most effective and as far as you standing there and not having time what could be more important than your children? They are going to get their discipline from you and unless you feel ok about letting them misbehave then housework can wait it will be there as far as other people that I just don't understand they should understand you have children and need to deal with them. Sometimes it takes a little time but usually once they realize that you are consistent and are not going to cave in or "give up" the children will actually behave and listen. However you have to put in the work that is your job first and formost. I don't mean to sound harsh but who else would you expect to do this or how else would you expect them to learn these things. Don't give up on your children. They wan't you to discipline them they want rules it shows them a sense of security. Good luck to all of you.

Answer 4

u need to set restrictions let them kno whoz boss. take away privaleges and never back out. for example letz say ure kid loves tv and their favorite show is coming up. they do somehting bad. Ground them from tv and do not back away if u do they will never learn and assume that u will always let them do watever they want and will change ure mind even if u said no. thatz how i learned. spankings if itz rly bad never use bribery. otherwise they'll be like o well i don't care THAT much about the prize so itz okay id rather be bad than get a prize. In real life there is no bribe u need to ready them for that. In real life u dont listen to the boss u get fired there is no second chance

Answer 5

I think you have to tailor it to each child.
I have a 6yr old and a 4 yr old. Both react very differently to discipline.
My 6 yr old always understood if she was told not to do something and if she did get in trouble a simple talk about what she did, why she did it and explaining if it was dangerous or mean or disrespectful etc was all she needed. I'd also get her to think about what she did annd how it made others feel. eg she yells at her little sister, would she like to be yelled at? how does she think it made her sister feel etc.
She got fairly wild at one point. Not wild but just ignored me and did wha she wanted. I started putting her in time outs and that worked really well. She realised she had misbehaved and realised their was a punishment for that. She even started putting herself on time out if she thought she had misbehaved.

My 4 yr old is a completely different story. I can talk and explain as much as I want but she just doesn't get it. So with her I use time outs which she hates, and for really shocking tantrums she goes to her room. Sometimes she does get a smack on the butt. But we have a set thing about smacks and what they get them for.
Dangerous behaviour ie touching pots on the stove or running onto the road = 1 smack plus lecture
Biting = 3 smacks plus lecture and having to tend to the wound of the bitee (my youngest had a really big problem with this after trying everything I could think of, I finally resorted to smacks, she stopped after the 2nd time, but sometimes when really frustrated will bite)

They also get privilges taken away if I'm completly sick of their behaviour. So if they are fighting over a specific toy I will ake it away and make them play with something else seperately, or if they have been horrible to each other all day then that means they cant watch their favourite movie for 2 days.

So what works for one doesnt always work for the other. So I think you need to sit back and think what would work with each of your kids. And try things out and use whatever works for them as individuals.

Oh on the time outs my 4 yr old would not sit in time out. So when I first started them I did have to sit with her. But after a while she did figure it out. I know its hard and feels like your being punished as well, but stick with it and they do learn that time out is time out and its over much quicker if they just sit there for the 3min or 5 min.
But remember if they keep getting up then it has to start over again. And they hate that.
Good luck I know its no fun at all. But I'm sure you will figure something out :)

Answer 6

i was not long ago a child my self, and my mother would take privledges away also. it worked real well, say i was hidding from her at a friends house, she would say that if i didn't come out then- no TV, or early bed, or something like tht, just make sure you stick to it. my aunt once spanked me, and i have since looked down on her, i was six- so it was over thirteen years ago- and i still dont agree with that kind of parenting---but to each their own.

Answer 7

When I was a kid my dad got out the belt to smack be over the butt - a leather belt he had put in the freezer so it was hard. Only took 1 hit and I never did it again. Its not child abuse if its once only, if you continually hit them all over their body than its wrong, but a smack over the butt never hurt a kid.

Answer 8

whuppings and spankings... the best
its not abuse for those who believes it is the Bible says it's right