My Daughter is starting to ask me where her dad is at. What do i tell her? My daughter is turning four in November. And her dad was Shot seven times when i was 6 months pregnant with her. And that night after he was shot he did the obvious and Died. It was gang related and I'm not sure what to tell her. I have pictures of him around the house everywhere. And his name tattooed on my back. I need advice. I'm not sure what to do her dad did ad things but I love him always. I was only 13 when I had her. And now I'm not sure. All answers our THANKED!
2007-09-24 12:31:26 · 9 answers · asked by єנg (ѕσмєвσdу тσ lσνє] 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would just let her know her daddy loves her and he is in heaven. At four years old that is really the only things she is going to understand. Don't go in depth or anything because death is really hard for children to understand. Maybe say " Your daddy loves you and he is in heaven" depending on what you believe. But I think that would be a simple answer for your child to understand.
2007-09-24 12:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by greyskymourning82 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For now tell her that her daddy died when she was still inside you. Answer as truthfully but appropriately for her age, as you can about where he is now. You don't know what peace he made with God and you aren't his judge so I wouldn't say that he was bad or good. Doesn't really matter to her why her daddy died, but only that he did. Keep the gang stuff out of it, and concentrate on him as a person. When she is older, use yourself and him as example of how there are consequences to your actions and hopefully do a better job for her than was done for yourself and for her father.
2007-09-24 20:04:01 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, that's difficult. I suppose I would probably tell her that Daddy's in heaven with the angels, but that he's still watching over her and protecting her, that he loves her with all his heart. Yeah, maybe he did do some stuff he would've regretted, but he's still her father and everyone deserves a 2nd chance. If she asks further about why or whatever, you can tell her gently that some bad men hurt your daddy and you can let her know that there are good people and bad people in the world.
2007-09-24 19:43:36 · answer #3 · answered by bikerangelmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You daughter is very curious so just say your dad loves you when she is about seven then tell her. I am sure you can make up a story until then, like tell her, her dad is just gone for a couple years on business! witch is kinda hard but it is the same way with adopting a child but don't tell her he got shot!
good luck!
2007-09-24 19:46:10 · answer #4 · answered by jason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am so sorry to hear about what happened to your daughter's father. Explain to her in a way she can understand without giving her too much information. For instance, you could tell her Daddy loves both of you very much, and you love him, and that he died before she was born and (depending on your faith) went to Heaven. There are children's books that explain death to children your daughter's age, especially books about the death of a parent. One might be helpful to explain your very difficult situation to your little girl. Good luck.
2007-09-24 19:50:24 · answer #5 · answered by SoBox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been through a lot in your young life.
I agree that you need to tell her that he is in heaven now.
Later you can gradually let her know what happened. She does eventually need to know the truth. I really hope you are out of that environment now.
Just love her a lot and keep her safe. Enjoy every moment you have with her. Our children grow up too fast as it is.
2007-09-24 19:49:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to explain to her that her father loves her very much and wishes he could be here with you guys but his up with the angels now. Tell her that her daddy's always with her no matter what.
2007-09-24 19:36:11 · answer #7 · answered by savanna o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, tell her her daddy had to leave...that we stay here awhile...sometimes we have to go because we are needed somewhere else. but the love part of us is always left here.And that he is there in your heart and in her heart.
tell her when she gets older you can tell her more, when she is old enough to understand...tell her the truth. chances are she will find out somehow, better coming from you,
2007-09-24 19:50:29 · answer #8 · answered by A*MUSE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has to know that he passed away cause if you feel her up with lies shes gonna hate you when she really knows the truth,tell her that hes gone to a better place and he's in heaven.
2007-09-24 19:40:45 · answer #9 · answered by `~*sheila *~` 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋