When I was 5 I was raped and then sexually abused by my biological dad for 10 years. I was then forced to get married at 16 to someone I only knew by name, and I am not allowed to have friends, a career, or even a life for that matter....What did I do to deserve this? I have never been happy and everytime my life starts to look a little better or I see a ray of hope my world comes crashing down. What sin can a 5 yr old commit to deserve such a punishment? I'm not saying I'm perfect but why was I never given a chance? I'm Muslim btw!!
2007-09-24 12:25:36 · 29 answers · asked by lolalebeq 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
what you have to go through is horrible and I feel for you. the pain you have can not be explained and is difficult to understand.
at 5 you don't know what sin is.
I can tell you that God is all Good and He does not hate. Everything that comes from God is Good. You have come from God but encounter bad human beings. your father's action hurt you. your husband does not respect you or care about you. these things have a name and yes they are EVIL. you have endure years of sexual, physical, psychological, and verbal ABUSE. there are people and places that can help you.
please call the domestic abuse hot line in your city for help. God loves you the way you are. He will not abandon you. does not matter if you are a Christian, a Muslim or any other denomination. you are a beautiful person. created by God to love and be loved. please get help. I work at a shelter for women survivors of domestic violence and I assure you that you can start over. You have to make the decision. leave the abusers. pray for strength and Wisdom. follow your heart.
2007-09-24 16:07:55 · answer #1 · answered by SEG48 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sister, no child deserves to be treated like that. What a terror it must have been for you. Nothing a five year old does deserves such a punishment. With respect to you, your father is an evil man to do such a terrible thing to you.
You must live outside the United States. I hope that here you wouldn't be forced into a marriage at the young age of 16. Is there any place where you can discuss this with someone?
As a Christian, I don't know your faith. But I don't believe that God gives us such punishment. Sometimes men and women ignore God and cause great pain to others. I can only tell you that there is a day of judgment and men who have treated women in such terrible ways will be held accountable before God.
For now, I want you to know that God loves you very much. May God bless you and continue to give you strength. You are a very brave woman to have gone through what you have. May God continue to strengthen you and guide you.
Pastor John
2007-09-24 12:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
What sin can a 5 yr old commit to deserve such a punishment?
None.
It's not your fault. It is NOT anything you "deserve". Anyone who says anything else is lying.
These horrible things happen to you because horrible people do them. They have power over you because you are unalbe to defend yourself, and they use that power in evil ways. You were never given a chance because these horrible evil men never gave you a chance.
It is truly sad that these horrible people did such horrible things to you. I am sorry to hear that.
But it is NOT God that did them. God Loves you. He loves you so much He sent his only Son, Jesus Christ to die for you, so that you could get to heaven.
If you are in the UK or the US or some other free country I would recomend that you get to a womens shelter, tell them your story, and ask for help. They should be able to help you get away... get you to somewhere safe away from your husband where you can start life as a free person. They can get you that chance.
Good luck and God Bless.
2007-09-24 12:57:30 · answer #3 · answered by Larry R 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are 7 things that God Hates;Pro;6:16
#1 A Proud Look;
# 2 A Lying Tongue;
# 3 Hands that are Quick to shed Innocent Blood;
I know this;That in God"s Time every wrong will be made Right; I can say this< don"t feed Yourself on Hate,It will interfere with Your Life,You would be giving someone else control,This isn"t easy to do, ask The Holy Spirit for help,That"s one of the things He does; It is Written that we are Free; To the Devil"s Lie ,It is Written I cry over and over again;Now find You some more and Speak up;
2007-09-24 12:48:54 · answer #4 · answered by section hand 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you. I can't say I know how you feel because I don't but I'll tell you what that person that did this to you will be burning in hell for sure. I know the bible talks about Jesus saying whoever hurts these little ones will rather have a millstone tied to their neck and be thrown in the sea.
To answer your question a 5 year old doesn't do anything to deserve that. Look to God to help you through this, he loves you. He will punish that person.
Also you should talk to somebody and hopefully you will be ready sooner than later to report that person or people to the cops so he will be in jail where he belongs. Believe me the other criminals in jail have their own punishment for child molesters. He will be getting raped by bubba for a long time.
Don't blame God. Blame these sickos that did this. He will deal with them. Look to God for strength.
2007-09-24 12:35:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't listen to what some of these people are telling you. From one Muslim woman to another, you did not deserve what happened to you when you were little and you do not deserve anything bad that's happening to you now!!! If you know our religion well, then you know that you need patience. Just cope with what you're dealing with, I know it's hard. Start your salah, turn to God and Inshallah everything will go well for you.
You know God doesn't hate you and be grateful that you are Muslim. You may or may not know that our time here on earth is just a test. We will be rewarded in the end when all Muslimeen go to Jennah. Give thanks to Allah for still being alive and healthy. Inshallah all goes well for you in the future. Salaam.
2007-09-24 13:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by Aliyah & Adam's Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't see anything there which indicates God hates you. Oh I see - according to Islam God hates you if your a victim of crime. Well that's not the case in Christianity. I mean Jesus, the Son of God himself, suffered and was murdered as an innocent victim. And likewise the Bible indicates Christians would be subject to persecution as innocent victims, which has nothing to do with God not loving us or loving Jesus. Quite to the contrary.
I suggest you read the Injil (the gospels) and the rest of the New Testament. Then maybe you might consider becoming a Christian if it seems right to you.
2007-09-24 12:36:48 · answer #7 · answered by Steve Amato 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
God does not hate u sometimes this sort of stuff happens because God is going to use u to help alot of people . It sounds like those wounds in your heart havent healed and i recomend that u search for God and develop a relationship with him and i promise that he will never leave your sight the reason those things happend was because youre going to help other people in the future that are going through the same thing u are going thruogh right now its part of the pourpose of your life that God has 4 u so search for God and tell him to heal those wounds in your heart and tell him to guide you go to a church so u can get some help so you can get your life back.
hope it helped
God Bless
2007-09-24 13:29:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetness, God doesn't hate you. Men hate Women. Men have used you, abused you and kept you as a plaything because their religion lets them. Your father betrayed his sacred trust of you by raping his child and he will have to answer to God for that. Your husband will also have to answer for his treatment of you for he should keep you as a helpmate and as a joy not as an animal. Unfortunately for you right now, God is too far away and can only weep with you. You are perfect and will be again.
If you can leave him, leave him and stay away. Take the children and go. If you can't then don't then take your own revenge and take the consequences of it.
2007-09-24 12:35:05 · answer #9 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will get a chance, don't worry. you are young, and your faith will save you. those who harmed you will be punished, and you can find satisfaction in that. perhaps in your last life you were a horrible person, but that's a theory, and I'm not too sure about it. (I think reincarnation/multiple lives is Muslim, isn't it??) Anyways, just try to find light in the world and know that God is just preparing you for something very big. You must be a very nice person and you should know that God is always with you and he will save you.
2007-09-24 12:35:22 · answer #10 · answered by wild boar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋