It just seems like it would have been easier to find a good looking woman to love me back then. Back when if a woman even indicated that she enjoyed sex, she was labeled a wh*re or a ****. Today women care about a guy's looks, how good he is in bed, etc. I'm fat, lazy, insecure and a virgin at 34 because I am very needy for a pretty woman to love me, so I guess that scares them away.
It seems in the old days, all women wanted was a guy with a job. And it seems that was the same time when women were supposed to want to have sex only to please her husband (all normal women were supposed to want to find a husband), and because she wanted to be a mother. Period.
The second thing doesn't apply to me because I don't want to ever have children. But today a guy who just wants a pretty woman to love him, a guy who just wants to stay home and cuddle every night, say I love you a dozen times a day, talk sweet talk, etc is considered boring and needy to women today.
2007-09-24 12:15:36 · 10 answers · asked by egocentric_loner 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Women demand more today than they did maybe 50 years ago, and that's not a good thing for guys like me, who aren't all manly and macho and ambitious and confident and sexual. Guys like me who just want to cuddle and say I love you. It's just very unfortunate that I'm such an innocent victim who is probably going to die a virgin and without ever having a girlfriend to care for me and tend to my sensitive ego.
Women today seem to be sluts who are willing to have sex with a guy she is not first in a relationship with. It used to be a man's world where only what the guy wanted in a woman mattered, and it was women who had to look good to find a mate. It's unfortunate that it's not like that anymore.
2007-09-24 12:16:35 · update #1
You say that you can't get a date and then in the same breath you say that women are sluts...
Are you seeing the problem here?
Women are special creatures to be treated with kindness and respect. If you treat them properly they will like you, I promise.
If you are not outwardly handsome, that's OK - there are plenty of women who like guys for who they are, not how they look. So stop being negative, stop calling them sluts, and stop wishing it was 50 years ago (people have not changed in the last fifty years).
It's all in how you want to look at it. You gonna spend your energy worrying about the women who don't go out with you? Or are you gonna spend your energy finding the ones who will?
Your call.
2007-10-01 12:09:18 · answer #1 · answered by Bye for now... 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok. Dude! The women are right, you are needy and insecure. Just read you're question again. Especially the "additional details". Just pick you're lazy but off you're old couch and stop whinning about wanting a great woman. Women like sensitive guys but no one likes a wuss. Stop mopping around complaining. You say you're fat lazy and insecure but you want a pretty woman. What the hell?! Dude, women aren't teddy bears to cuddle with. If you want a 'pretty woman' don't you think she would also appreciate a good looking guy? I know you can't help what you look like but you can make a slight effort. Women notice that kind of thing. A woman will see a guy who may not look great but tries to be the best he can and mostly will appreciate it. Guys on the other hand are more likely to notice when a girl isn't trying than when she is. Grow up. Stop whinning and you'll have 'pretty girls falling all over you.
2007-10-02 17:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes, a racist, sexist world would probably benefit me in the long run too (as a white, protestant male), but that doesn't mean it's the right thing to do.
Perhaps the reason you're not getting any is because you're "fat, lazy, and insecure" and apparently have high visual standards for women. You can be sweet (I think I am, most of the time) and sensitive, but you have to make yourself attractive to women (meaning your personality, your lifestyle, and, probably least important, your body.)
So stop feeling sorry for yourself (I did about 4 years ago), vow to get out there, to make something better for yourself, to feel good about yourself, and to get the woman of your dreams. It can happen.
(And if it doesn't -- eHarmony. It's full of people looking for marriage, right now.)
2007-09-24 19:23:30 · answer #3 · answered by Perdendosi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about women being sluts or whores because they enjoy sex.....but there still are women in the world who appreciate sensitivity in her man. Maybe you are looking in all the WRONG places. Instead of woman bashing try a different approach. You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.
2007-10-02 17:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by ~Nia~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you stop researching what women wanted 50 yrs ago and see AND understand what a woman wants and need today you would probley have a woman by now.If you say that you are a virgin,how can you even begin to talk about what woman arewanting bed?YOU dont even know how you are in bed.You are getting discouraged about somethign that you havent even EXPERIENCED yet.YOu say that you are fat,lazy and insecure?You might wanna add"ignorant" to that list
2007-10-02 18:42:27 · answer #5 · answered by luv11syng 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You have high standards. To dream the impossible dream. No name calling please. You can find someone while doing your favorite activity. Join a club, take a class. Whats wrong with wanting a good looking, kind, funny, thoughtful boyfriend?
2007-09-24 21:02:12 · answer #6 · answered by ♣Social Butterflygirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need a time machine or a very much older woman
2007-10-02 19:06:27 · answer #7 · answered by Annouyed 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
*point laugh point laugh*
You know what? It's because us ladies who are willing to hold back on sex, and who can cuddle and love are also smart enough to pass on guys like you. Idiot.
2007-09-24 19:21:27 · answer #8 · answered by Yuki 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm too dumbfounded to answer! Are we serious?
2007-09-24 19:27:04 · answer #9 · answered by Pinyon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious?
2007-09-26 08:16:54 · answer #10 · answered by Elizabeth J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋