i've known this guy for almost a month now and he is already talking about having sex.......he actually started talking about it like 2 weeks after knowing me. but i don't know if i'm ready to have sex with him...i mean i probably would have sex with him eventually....but i don't think i want to do it now. i mean, i'm only 17 and still a virgin...but we've only been dating for a few weeks and he's already wanting to have sex. is it too soon to have sex???
2007-09-24 12:06:46 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Many will probably disagree but I think you shouldn't.
Guys always want to have sex, girls always want to have love. Yep it's generalizing but basically it's true.
If you don't feel ready, then please don't. And if he really cares about you, then he'll quit pushing. You might just want to confront him about it even.
If he keeps on, then drop him and wait for someone who truly cares about your well being. That's the guy you should be with.
2007-09-24 12:14:46 · answer #1 · answered by DSatt57 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're not ready to have sex, don't get pressured into it. I gave in way to easily, and I was much older than you were. And given the chance to do it over again, I'd wait. And I'm still (back) with that same guy. So if you think or even feel that it's too soon, then it is. Think of giving up your virginity as a jury trial; he has to prove to you BEYOND A SHADOW OF A DOUBT that it's time. Seems to me like you have more than a shadow of doubt.
2007-09-24 12:19:47 · answer #2 · answered by Amber L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, you are still a virgin and that is the one special thing that makes you different from most girls in school these days. Not too many that hold their virginity that long. If he is in such a rush then he should go and find a fast girl that will keep up with him. You continue to go slow and enjoy your teenage years. You wil find a nice one that will be willing to wait and someone who really loves you for you and not for being your first. Have a wonderful day. Michelle
2007-09-24 12:20:39 · answer #3 · answered by michellej 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do it u shouldn be asking this ur a virgin stay like that until u find someone u love and know he loves u for who u r not for ur body eventually this guy only wants to have sex and then leave just wait until that right one comes to ur door im preety sure u will find him tell this guy he better stop or else u will not go out with him no more wait and see if its really love
2007-09-24 12:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by sweeteyes818 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My God, girl! Does "booty call" mean nothing to you? I've been with my guy for four-five months now and both of us are saving it for marriage, so you're not the only virgin out there.
Back off on it. He shouldn't pressure you for anything physical - come on, it's your body. If he wants sex, tell him to f*ck off and find a whore. Unless you're prepared to lose something precious to him and unless you just want a fling, two weeks is not enough to build a strong relationship worth having sex in.
2007-09-24 12:13:51 · answer #5 · answered by Yuki 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tough call here.
If your gut is telling you no, then don't go for it. See how committed both you and he are to the relationship before taking the first big step physically. My friends and I believe that 10-12 weeks is a good time to start having sex, but that's just us.
2007-09-24 12:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dipends if u want me im 15 still a virgin i am wondering the same but only if u want but 2 weeks in the relation ship i to early me and my bf are 5 monthes in and nada has happened
2007-09-24 12:10:16 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEFINITELY! jesus christ, if this boy is already talking about sex, then that's pretty much all he's gonna be after. don't give up your moral values to allow him to get what he wants. he might just end up leaving you afterwards. instead, just...don't go all the way, but let him do some things. boys love the chase, if you want to keep his interest, then don't put out. he'll respect you or he'll break up/cheat on you. but if he does turn out to be an asshole, then at least you didn't give him your virginity.
2007-09-24 12:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's what he wanted before you started dating. What's love got to do with sex? Don't throw yourself away for this guy.
Sex for guys is ALWAYS recreational. When do you think you'll be ready for that?
2007-09-24 12:10:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
DON'T DO IT!! he just wants to be the one to take that from you. the right guy won't have to discuss it for 2 weeks. and why take the chance of being another statistic
2007-09-24 12:13:53 · answer #10 · answered by mp3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋