i am so scared of my father how is a retired cop. he hits me all the time in the head with shoes or yells at me or hits me in front of my friends he all ways says "u keep it up ill make u see stars" my friends say i should call the cops but how with out spliting up my family my dad treats me like **** should i tell or just deal with it?
2007-09-24 12:00:59 · 17 answers · asked by nikki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ya im 13 if that changes anyones answer
2007-09-24 12:13:33 · update #1
you should definitely tell someone, and don't give up until you are out of this situation. abuse of any kind should not be tolerated, and the fact that he is your father doesn't excuse his behavior.
2007-09-24 12:04:33 · answer #1 · answered by somesoul2keep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to someone that can truly help you. and yeah, I guess if you want the situation to change it just might split up your family. BY THE WAY it would have been a little bit more helpful if you could have mentioned how old you are.
Your fathers an ***. Anyone (grown) that has children and abuses them are as*holes. Your father has problems of his own and he's taking his miserable life out on you. It's not you and don't let him get you to believe it.....cause that will screw with your head for the rest of your life if you do. You need to talk to someone so really find out who that can be that can really help you . And good luck. I'd like to kick your dad's *** myself. Bu the way were's your Mom in all of this?
2007-09-24 12:09:02 · answer #2 · answered by MLJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report it. NOW! The longer this goes on, the more harm he will do. And there is mountains of evidence that people who are abused can become abusers. So break the cycle. As a retired cop, he should know how much trouble he is in. And if it breaks up the family, at least you will away from him.
2007-09-24 12:09:10 · answer #3 · answered by Galen W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abuse is never acceptable. The effects of physical abuse can have severe problems that last for life due to the emotional abuse that you have also received. You cannot allow his previous job title to prevent you from reporting this. It is illegal whether he is a past cop or an athlete--no matter the job, it is illegal to abuse, this INCLUDES emotional abuse, which is most common but least often recognized. Even if you speak to a school counselor, they are legally liable to report it to the police or health and welfare. Be smart kiddo, it is your life at stake. Abuse also presents a pattern of repitition, meaning it is likely that if you are abused, you may pass it on to your own children. For your own well being, and the well being of your future children and wife, seek help. Speak to your school counselor or the police. (I would suggest the school counselor first, if nothing happens, approach the police). Best of luck. Be safe and protect yourself.
2007-09-24 12:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by kristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report it. Abuse is not something to mess around with. If you have younger brothers or sisters do you want the same thing to happen to them? Abuse has to stop somewhere if you Dad feels like he can hit you and treat you like **** then what is stopping him from doing something worse? Also where is your mother???? Get out of a bad spot before it gets worse.
2007-09-24 12:06:08 · answer #5 · answered by Crazy Train 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel threatened and are scared and being harmed it is abuse and you should get help. Have you spoken to your mother about it? Maybe she could give you some advice. If your father is hitting you maybe it would be better for the family if he wasn't there.
2007-09-24 12:10:41 · answer #6 · answered by Ca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most times a person treats you the way they were treated---but the abuse has to stop......Have you ever asked why he is doing this to you? Sorry to say- there is NO way you could report this and not be guaranteed that they would not seperate the parties involved.. (might be better for you though).......Tell him go eat a donut....
2007-09-24 12:10:01 · answer #7 · answered by dressycandles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG.
BOTH your parents are abusing you- your dad has serious issues that hitting a kid makes him feel good.
RUN! CALL THE COPS! Tell school, anyone!
2007-09-25 12:12:23 · answer #8 · answered by The Grand Inquisitor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is not normal u neeeeddd to do something if u go to school go to the nurse, she will probably gice you brocheurs. You need to get help. Go to a friends and phone a helping line.You neeed to this is sooo serious you need to get help and fast. call the cops if the nurse or councilor at your school did not help.
2007-09-24 12:06:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend lalo is going through the same thing. but if you have other siblings do you want your father to do the same thing to them. you need to wake him up from this dream some how. not everything has to go his way. he cant beat you just because he is mad at the world dont let him take his anger out on you just because he is mad at the rest of the world.
2007-09-24 12:06:13 · answer #10 · answered by sweet and sassy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋