I recently stepped into a new relationship with a wonder guy and everything so far is great...The only problem is his Mother isn't too fond of me. I guess I can understand because she raised my bf and his sister and 2 brothers as a single Mom (the Dad left her alone with all 4 kids!). She is VERY protective with the kids and is worried that her sons will carry on the same traits as the Father. My boyfriend has had his share of women and I guess she doesn't like meeting different girls all the time (I think he said he has introduced her to about 3 other girls.) Usually when I meet peoples parents they usually LOVE me...But his Mom is a different case, she seems to not like me at all when we haven't even been introduced yet. He would like to introduce me to his Mother and I would also like to be introduced because she is afterall his MOM and also she is living with him. We are both also from very traditional asian families and would feel very disrespectful going in his house without...
2007-09-24 11:08:27 · 7 answers · asked by kalea062604 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
greeting her. He was told her about me and I'm sure shes seen me around a few times but she still refuses to meet me. I have done NOTHING to make her feel this way about me and it just really hurts that she doesn't like me but doesn't even know me personally. ADVICE PLEASE??!
2007-09-24 11:10:14 · update #1
Another thing I must add is, there is also a language barrier... She doesn't speak english very well and I don't speak their language.
2007-09-24 11:14:48 · update #2
just be yourself. she's the one making the big deal about it so don't fall for her trap. just be real and don't go out of your way to be nice to her. remember you have the power. you have her son and that's why she's doing this.
2007-09-24 11:17:13 · answer #1 · answered by P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he takes you to his home to introduce you to his family, be sure to take some kind of gift... even if it is some cupcakes or flowers or something like that. Wear something very conservative. Show utmost respect. Talk with your parents about the best way to do all of this.
Take your time, get to know the BF's family.
Not only do you want to get on the mom's good side, but you also want to know if your BF ever cut the apron strings (or umbilical cord)... you don't want to be in a marriage with 3 people. You can't have your BF's mom calling the shots in your marriage.
2007-09-24 18:17:36 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she refuses to meet you, i guess she cant give you a chance to see what a good person you are... i thnk she is being the wrong one in this situation. just keep your record clean, and when you get the chances, be especially respectful and sweet to her. she doesnt truly not like you until she's gotten a chance to meet you, and if she didnt give you a try yet, she cant' just make up her mind already.
2007-09-24 18:15:23 · answer #3 · answered by we_are_waiting 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your boyfriend to ask his mother to sit with you and talk things over. He will have to be an interpreter. That's about all you can do. Oh, and one more thing: if he's had his share of women, be cautious. He may have other women that you don't know about.
2007-09-24 18:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would definitely proceed with caution. it is very hard to have a successful relationship when a mother is against the relationship. especially if this man is close to his mother. it almost always ends in disaster or him choosing you or his mom. and even if he choose you he will miss the relationship with his mom and could come to resent you for it
2007-09-24 18:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by peachez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not worry til you meet her hun, you have to at least give her the chance to meet you. She might just love you never know, be yourself. Do not be fake whatever you do just be you.. Go on meet her..
2007-09-24 18:12:34 · answer #6 · answered by burgymi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pour ur heart to them, if they don't agree,u two move on with ur lives. who do they think they are?
2007-09-24 18:10:55 · answer #7 · answered by asuoonline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋