she and her mother do not have a good relationship. I am her bestfriend so she told me that last night she cut herself with a box opener. I frist i did not know what to say. I though about what i learn in school and the show 7th Heaven. So i told her that she is better then that and that she is good person and cutting herself is not the answer and that if she ever felt like cutting herself to call me and we will work it out.I also said that insead of cutting herself to write about how she feels ,go work out,or to scream in pillow as a way of venting. She doesn't want me to tell anyone I told her to talk the school countsler but she won't. What else can i do; any tips?
2007-09-24 10:56:35 · 9 answers · asked by puppydog 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont really have any advice.
I open my eyes, but I still manage to dream This cold bathroom floor, now just feels like home to me I stumble to the mirror, and I naturally start to clean But my body's scorned with marks, that say "these aren't the last lines that I'll see.." So please cut this string, attached to my wrists Buried in my shaking palm, I hold this evil in my fist I relive my pain, with every scar It's a battle field of memories, that just won't go away, for me.... This world has tied me down, and the knot keeps tightening
Cause I'm just a puppet, dangling from this breaking string But maybe I'll turn, this blade the other way And roll up my sleeves to let the scars show my mistakes You couldn't make the cut, so now you'll make this cut.... ♪ ♫
i love that sond sooo much!
2007-09-24 11:10:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem. You sound like a really great friend too.
Don't tell your parents yet.
1) Your parents will tell hers and she might even get sent to rehab
2) Your parents might not ever let you hang out with you again because they'll think that she has such a bad influence on you
When you talk to her tomorrow, ask to see the scars. She can't say they went away because if you cut yourself with a box opener it will bleed bad so it will prob have a bandage on it. If she cut her rist than it will take a while for that to heel as well.
Ask her if she's talked to her mom. She might not love her mom, but her mom probably loves her. So if she talks to her mom she'll understand. Her mom would change as much as she can to make sure she has a good relationship with her mom.
I know what your going through. Your friend thinks that no one has ever felt this wat before. No matter how hard you try your friend is going to think your wrong, because she doesn't think you've ever needed to go through this. Just remind of a time when you felt really sad and tell her what you did to help yourself out. This girl's your best friend and I know you care about her.
I hope I helped.
2007-09-24 11:07:49 · answer #2 · answered by Ellie R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I know how much it means to keep her confidence in you... I'd still tell someone. You can go talk with the school counsler and ask them what they suggest you do (without saying who the person is) OR you can tell the school counsler but also tell them you want to remain anonymous... their are plenty of ways they can address her without even bringing that up and not using your name. I think it's the right thing to do. It's obvious that there is alot going on with her. Good luck!
2007-09-24 11:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by gooodone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you definitely don't want to keep this to yourself. If something happens then you would bare all the guilt from it... from hiding it from others that could have helped her. She will be upset and think you violated her trust, but in the long run she will thank you for saving her life. That's a true friend til the end...
2007-09-24 11:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by Let's keep it real. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to stop cutting herself because if she cuts to deep it can result in death. Cutting yourself isn't the way for her to solve her problems try to work it out with her and talk to her. if your her best friend be there for her don't come on the internet and ask about it. just help her and if she continues tell someone that you 2 both trust that can help her.
2007-09-24 11:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cutting oneself is not good, no matter how much better it may make her feel. There is help.
http://www.christiananswers.net/q-eden/cutting.html
Also, consider giving her this hotline number...
Self Harm Hotline
1-800-DONTCUT
Help for "cutters"
2007-09-26 08:00:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely tell someone that can help here...i would start out w/ the mom...and tell her to help get their relationship together...and i would also tell the school councelor..goodl luck ...i hope everything works out
2007-09-24 11:02:59 · answer #7 · answered by Cincyfan0591 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell someone. Tell her mom, or her dad or a school counselor or someone. Don't just keep it to yourself tell the right person, otherwise something serious could happen.
2007-09-24 10:59:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u got tell the school consler and tell her there will be a change in life where she will have to deal with pain and tell her to talk to her mom in person
2007-09-24 11:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by megan m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋