I'm not one of those wives that b*tch back at my hubby when he gets like this I understand he is in Iraq and in a war and all that...anyone else go through this..being the wife or the one with mood swings??..and why is it that he is getting mean the closer it gets to coming home....
2007-09-24 10:43:36 · 13 answers · asked by LindseyM 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I'm probably one of the most understanding people ever..so no it's not me...
and I am being patient with him :-)
2007-09-24 10:53:43 · update #1
you are a b*tch for emplying someone cheating..so you know...and no he isn't... if you cant answer my ? then dont post
2007-09-24 10:55:35 · update #2
when I say I understand..it means I know he is there so dont tell me its cuz he is in a war..I never said I understand what he is going through..nice try though
2007-09-24 11:03:33 · update #3
are you telling me to watch my mouth
2007-09-24 11:06:27 · update #4
Yup, its all about me how dare I..you are funny..you should post more for my amusement...I am by far not selfish..and yes this is my husbands 2nd tour..my first I asked a serious question..but you wanted to take it out in left field...which is ok..cuz you dont know me..so again it amuses me..plz post more
2007-09-24 11:24:11 · update #5
Both of our boys were the same way. They are tired of the same thing day after day, along with being just plain tired. Your husband may be seeing things happen that he didn't see on his first tour over there and can't talk about it right now. He may not even realize he is doing this.
I seriously doubt he is bipolar. He is probably realizing it is almost time to come home and nothing major has happened to him, but he still has a way to go.
ME is right. He may have PTSD. Please be sure he has everything little thing documented to the medics over there prior to coming home. Our oldest has been home for 1 1/2 yrs and is having problems, PTSD and needs people in his unit to put in writing various things because it wasn't documented right while they were in Iraq. Give hubby a month or so to reacclimate to being home and if he is having problems, get him to the VA for a diagnosis. Try to document the changes and what he does so you can better tell the drs what is going on.
I have no doubt that you are supporting him 100%, but confused with the way he is being at this time. Just be there for him, listen to him and bite your tongue alot. :)
2007-09-24 11:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by Diane 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe he shuold get help before he is discharged to your safe house. He may have PTSD and not know it. THis is something a professional should take a closer look at so call the VA and get advice in you hometown. Good luck and when he comes home please tell him Welcome Home Hubby becuase everyone is hoping the best happens to you then and now.
Please get all and any possible problems noted with the military because if and when he decides to leave (ETS), it is tougher for the veteran to prove things. I know because I am in that position of proving what has happened and I have been wounded 3 separate times while serving in a war zone. I am 80% disabled from the war.
2007-09-24 11:27:25 · answer #2 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was on ground in Iraq for 18 months. When it was my time to come back, it was a mix of emotions. I was excited to come home and see my family and friends but it was also stressful because I had known nothing but the same routine for 18 months. It was tough and, at times, I wished I was back "there" so I didn't have to deal with everything over here. You need to understand the inner turmoil he's facing at this point. Nothing anyone can tell you can make you understand what he has gone through. Trust me, at this point, the best thing you can possibly do is to love him and make him feel welcome but DON'T try to push anything on him. If he doesn't want to go out then don't make him go out. If all he wants to do is go out, reassure him that you love him and that you need him but don't always stop him. Let your husband come back to the reality of life without war.
Oh and for the lady above that wrote the men (or women) aren't faithful over there has obviously cheated on her husband. Are you serious? 18 months and I never had a chance to cheat. When bullets are flying it's hard to think about getting laid! But she's right if you swing that around. Many, and I mean MANY, spouses are cheating on there soilders or sailors while they are at war. I think you need to learn to watch your mouth about stuff you know nothing about!
2007-09-24 10:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by James S 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Last time I checked you had to be a MD to diagnose someone with bipolar disorder.
He is more than likely getting stressed out about making it to the day he gets to come home.
Once the day starts to get closer you start to realize that you might actually come home alive and then you actually start to care about living.
I like this quote you said "I understand he is in Iraq and in a war and all that."
Haha, no honey you dont understand the war and all that unless you have been there sorry...Maybe you should keep that in mind when he is not all puppy dogs and ice cream on the phone.
------------------------------------------------------------------------
I just read your response....
Nice try? Yeah I tried to help you oh well, its not my family.
Fine dont listen to me. He will come home, you will get pissed at him because he isnt the same. You will not care that he has gone through seriously traumatic events during deployment, you will only care that he isnt kissing your @ss enough. Then guess what? One of you will end up asking for a divorce all because you thought you understood, and acted selfishly.
How do I know your selfish?
Just look at your question....Your husband who is in a war isnt being nice enough on the telephone to you? Oh but you understand right?
Maybe..just maybe you should stop thinking about all the things this poor son of a b-tch has to do for you to make you happy, maybe if you did that your marriage might just work.
Right now it seems to me that all your doing is thinking about what he has to do to placate you no matter what. I mean he cant even have a bad attitude WHILE IN A WAR.
Jesus woman...
2007-09-24 10:56:06 · answer #4 · answered by h h 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
He is nervous, and it stresses him out. Just be patient with him. Try to understand his fear. He knows the closer the time to come home the closer to death he could come. A lot of men have died the same day they were suppose to come home. He knows the stats. Let him know every time you talk to him, You love him, and you support him 100%. That's all you can do right now.
2007-09-24 10:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by spiritwalker 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, i pick t say that i'm sorry that's occurring to you. sounds like your spouse could desire to be tormented by placed up pardon melancholy. melancholy is equipped in lots of types. I too have a 2 a million/2 month previous toddler and in spite of the reality that I many times paintings, i'm abode with him now. that's stressful. in the previous you are able to bypass everywhere, you ought to have a place to bypass. sounds like her family contributors is a lot away and she or he has no help, different then you definitely. She could desire to desires the help. that's no longer worry-free being abode all day. even nonetheless, you sound like a robust worrying husband that enables as much as you are able to, yet i will see the place she resents you considering the fact which you get to return and forth, bypass out of the abode, paintings, be around adults. From a clean mom's point of view, that's stressful to be on my own each and all of the time. have you ever adult males theory approximately maybe moving closer to her family contributors? maybe she desires them around. Now that the attention all is going to the toddler, do you provide her interest too? that's a confusing time, attempt to be supportive as much as you are able to. tell her you adore her and which you will do regardless of she needs to make it paintings with a view to desire to be interior the toddler's existence. you do no longer pick to omit out on those useful first months....
2016-10-09 18:54:10 · answer #6 · answered by barbary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's suffering from post traumatic stress disorder. It's not fun fighting a war for american domination in the middle east.
2007-09-24 11:02:19 · answer #7 · answered by farelli09 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't want to sound pesstimistic, but maybe he feels that even though he is at the end of his tour, he still has time left, and anything can happen.
2007-09-24 10:52:49 · answer #8 · answered by Crazy and Lovin It 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
he may be suffering from PTSD... he's been over in a warzone and it probably has changed the way he views the world a LOT.
It's probably not a personal thing. And he may not even be aware he is making you feel this way. Please try to be patient with him.
2007-09-24 10:51:27 · answer #9 · answered by Lily Iris 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Short-timer's attitude.
the closer he gets to his return to the Big PX the more
nervous he feels.
It'll get worse before it gets better...but disappear when he's home.
2007-09-24 13:08:46 · answer #10 · answered by sirbobby98121 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋