i've recently gotten engaged. i'm 18. my fiancee is in her 30's. does this mean that our relationship is wrong because of our age difference? i love her, and she loves me, and thats all that matters to us. i want to know if it's wrong for us to be together. i am of legal age though to make love to my fiancee if i choose to. ( just reminding yall) thats my question.
2007-09-24 10:41:09 · 14 answers · asked by TWIN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The only ones that can truly answer this is you and your fiance. While its true that an age difference can bring other issues into a relationship, it really is completely dependent on the individuals involved.
If you and your fiance are truly in love and want to build a life together - that's all that should matter to either of you.
However, if you're having doubts, sit down and talk it out with your fiance. Its probably just normal nerves, but open honest communication never hurts a relationship.
Good luck and I wish you both all the happiness marriage can bring!
2007-09-24 11:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by rose1077 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's not an issue of 'right or wrong' - it's about what works for you. In general, I would be a little concerned about any couple with that much of an age difference when the younger partner is as young as you are. If you were 28 and 40, it would be less of an issue. the concern would be whether you have had enough of an opportunity to be independent and live your own life. If not, then you could easily grow to resent your partner, no matter how much you love her now. I would also be concerned about how equal your partnership is, because relationships with significant age differences can often have pretty serious power imbalances.
However, even if your relationship is completely healthy, I think that you should probably wait a few years before getting married. Most people are very different at, say, 25 than they were at 18. Many relationships with very young brides or grooms don't survive because that young person grows and changes so much from age 18 - 24, and the couple are no longer compatible.
Not 'wrong' - just maybe not the best idea.
2007-09-24 18:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by SE 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think its right or wrong, people of different ages fall in love all the time. I wouldn't rush into marriage though, you are still young and you never know. If she really loves you, she'll give you some time to live your life a little before you settle down in to adulthood. Good luck.
2007-09-24 19:31:32 · answer #3 · answered by Ca 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be questioning the emotional maturity of a woman in her 30s that prefers to be around young boys - she probably met you before you turned 18 instead of being around grown mature men. I think you are being taken advantage of, she has had some life experience and freedom and yet she wants to trap you. I think she has issues and men who have relationship experience can see this, where with you she can play on your lack of experience, maturity and naivety.
2007-09-24 22:13:09 · answer #4 · answered by CZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it works for you then go for it. Just keep discussing things, keep your communication going and work at the relationship. If it is based both about love and all the healthy things that make a relationship work then it will be fine.
If not, you at least have tried, lived and learned.
Good luck!
2007-09-24 19:54:21 · answer #5 · answered by hikerboy00 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her thats all that matters. as long as shes not like 30 years older than you; thats gross!
but be sure you really love her and noone is using eachother.
FOOD FOR THE THOUGHT: if you really love her as much as you think you do; why are you douting and asking this question? make sure you really love her and go from there!
good luck!
2007-09-24 17:47:34 · answer #6 · answered by toothpickbabe1985 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you're over 18 age doesn't matter, unless your marring someone old enough to be your grandparent(lol).I sat go for it I love older guys and I've never dated a guy the same age or younger than me.Oh yeah...CONGRADULATIONS!!!
2007-09-24 17:48:20 · answer #7 · answered by kirbalicious_08 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it's not a right or wrong thing.........it's stupid on your part because you haven't lived yet......chances are greater than the normal 50 percent chance that you will end up divorced from her.....hell your brain doesn't even finish growing until you are 25........A NORMAL woman in her 30's wouldn't be dating let alone planning to marry an 18 year old boy
2007-09-24 17:47:28 · answer #8 · answered by abc 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you love each other then it is RIGHT and ignore all the negative responses!
2007-09-24 19:32:44 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answered this question one of the other times you posted it, but if you are so sure why are you asking, and why are you repeatedly asking it?!
2007-09-24 17:52:24 · answer #10 · answered by Cory C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋