My mother is under alot of stress these days because she's got alot to do around the house and is busy and stuff.. We're moving in a couple of moths, the nanny just quit so she has no one to help her with my baby brother, my sister is going through her awkward pre-pubescent phase and is driving her nuts, and my dad works alot.. We're a very happy family, but we're just going through a rough time.. There's only so much i can do to help: im a senior in highschool and I have a lot of work to do.. but i try to help out as much as I can.. The problem is, she's been in a bad mood lately and she takes it out on me.. I've talked to her about it bt it doesn seem to help
2007-09-24 09:55:52 · 12 answers · asked by hedZy ♀ The Dancing Banana 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Try talking to your dad and asking him to talk to your mom. It is stressful when you have a lot of things going on. But that is not an excuse for being mean. Hopefully she will realize it and say sorry. Good job on your part.
2007-09-24 09:59:52 · answer #1 · answered by ooh2sweet2b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot on her plate.
She really needs to get a handle on her time by getting another nanny.
Packing needs to be done in stages, and it would probably be best to get the stuff you don't absolutely need into a storage facility until the big move. This makes room for staging everything else.
Another thing that really helps in dealing with stress is an herbal preparation from the health food store called "Happy Camper" and/or another one called "Holy Basil" (I like the one by New Chapter)... both of these will help take the clould off of her without making her feel woozy... they help one to focus, too. See if you can have your dad stop off for some on the way home.
2007-09-24 10:08:00 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so glad you are in school because free counseling is available. I've got a hunch you are minimizing how she vents on you. You need a place to call yr own with someone who can intervene. Write down what you need to yr mother and keep a copy. Defend yr rights and let her know you are willing to report abuse. This is a prime time for you to learn self-care that really matters. Yr level of understanding all about her probs smacks of a co-dependent pattern. You have the right to leave the room, house, or any other place where someone is mistreating you. There is no excuse for domestic abuse.
2007-09-24 10:06:15 · answer #3 · answered by gently 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give your mom a hug when she starts to act like that. She is just under a lot of stress and pressure right now. Let her know that you guys as a family will get through this hard time together. I'm sure by these words and a nice big hug will make her day.
2007-09-24 10:05:56 · answer #4 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself, you're doing everything that you can. Also that your Mom is under a tremendous amount of stress. As unfair as it is and as much as I hate it, we all end up taking it out on the ones we love the most.
All you can do is to try to ride it out until things get better. Truly do everything you can do to help. Other than that keep a low profile and just stay out of the way.
Do you chores, homework, clean your room and anything else without being asked.
Tell your Mom you love her and that you're going to get through this. After it is over, she'll remember what a big help you were.
2007-09-24 10:01:38 · answer #5 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I wish the best for you... and just make sure you take care of yourself, and your studies. Regardless of your mom knowing it or not, just you staying out of trouble and doing the best you can is a huge help to the family!!! Just give your mom some time and don't give up....
2007-09-25 14:21:07 · answer #6 · answered by jeremeae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your mom harbor that poor, defeated outlook she will continue to live a poor defeated life. Your mom needs to start thinking positive thoughts whole heartily. When you think positive, excellent thoughts, you will be propelled towards greatness. Whether you believe it or not, your mom has to take control of the situation and its all mental.
2007-09-24 10:29:17 · answer #7 · answered by Rafa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps they're in basic terms under pressure. superb factor you're able to do is in basic terms take a seat, have a warm cup of cocoa and marshmellows, and have a communication in regards to the type you sense. for this reason, they should comprehend. tell them you're standpoint. attempt spending extra time with them, you already know?
2016-11-06 06:44:40 · answer #8 · answered by piano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe all you can do is wait for this to pass. Just smile alot and carry on as you are.
2007-09-24 10:00:18 · answer #9 · answered by itskungfu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to help her around the house and with the baby. offer to do stuff for her so she can chill
2007-09-24 10:00:04 · answer #10 · answered by mizzme! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋