...and possibly has been since the age of 4? Where to begin? Who to talk to? etc.
2007-09-24 09:39:55 · 13 answers · asked by Azure Ciel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
PLEASE STOP BASHING! This is not about me. This is a member of my church who is suffering terribly, trying to figure out the right thing to do. CPS has been notified, the mother's brother is actually a mental health professional, and the mother herself is severely damaged due to extreme emotional/verbal abuse. She doesn't seem to know which way to turn. I need gentle, but firm advice that will get this guy NAILED forever without hurting the little girl.
2007-09-24 10:10:33 · update #1
Well typically you should call the police, as it is a crime. I personally wouldn't want my child to be around a pedophile, even if it was the child's father. And if the father is having sex with his child... wow... mega peddy points for him. I don't think the guy deserves to be able to life a free life, he deserves to be behind bars. Then I suggest both you and your child seek some counseling. Just so you'll be able to get everything you feel you need to get out. Because you obviously feel the need to talk about this. It might as well be with a trained professional.
2007-09-24 09:45:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That parent needs to contact the police and CPS. You need to get your child to an emergency room to make sure that they are okay. You need to take action and not just sit there. Don't be afraid to get your child's father into trouble, this is your baby that your talking about. No child should have to go through this. If the parents are still together then the mother needs to leave immediately with all the children in the household. If you stay there, then you could also be convicted as an accessory to the crime.
Then, you should get you and your child help, by going to a Counselor you may be able to deal with what is going on right now in your life.
You also need to let that child know that it's not their fault and that you love them and that you believe them. Don't let your child think that it's their fault.
2007-09-24 16:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by Becky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really hope you mean that this situation is no longer going on because the bastard is dead and the child is just now telling you about it.
How could you not know that was going on in your own house????
If you mean you are still in this situation, you have to report him to the authorities AT ONCE! Do NOT let him spend one more night in your house! If you have knowledge about this and do nothing, you are every bit as guilty as he is. This is second only to outright killing your child in terms of evil.
Then, professional help is the only way your child can hope to deal with this.
2007-09-24 16:52:43 · answer #3 · answered by Laura 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Police. You need to talk to the police. You need to get the child out of that situation immediately. If this is your spouse, you need to take your child and leave, or make him leave, there is no way about it. Then you need to immediately contact a therapist that deals mainly in children and traumatic events like this. And you need to always be talking to the child. Let them know it's not their fault, and that you are going to do everything to protect them.
2007-09-24 16:48:08 · answer #4 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off Pray about it! God will help this little girl! Next, I say the mom needs to get the girl away from her father........somehow someway.....even if it means leaving the house and going to stay with a friend.....the little girl needs to be away from that situation......and definately get the police involved.....get someone to come and talk to them! maybe the dad can be helped......But Definately pray....and I will pray for this family also!
2007-09-24 22:14:40 · answer #5 · answered by tennis amy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying that this father has been sexually molesting his daughter? If that is the case, contact the authorities and Child Protective Services immediately...lest they consider you an accessory. Then, seek therapy for yourself and more importantly, the child.
2007-09-24 16:44:09 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel-Pit Police-DSMG 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't 'deal' with it. Let the police do it.
You tell us to stop bashing you. Did you even read your question? It sounded like you were the parent of the abused child!!
2007-09-24 16:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by Jessie H 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
umm well i would call child services or the police or this is going to bcome into a BIGGER problem than it already is.you dont want him to continue hurting innocent children so tell the police or something.this has to stop.
2007-09-24 16:46:43 · answer #8 · answered by rawr rawr rawrr 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you ****** kidding me? Call the police!!! If you don't, you are as guilty as him and deserve to share a cell with him. Get yourself and your child into counseling once the scumbag is dealt with.
2007-09-24 16:44:37 · answer #9 · answered by fnd40 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
to a parent thats the worst thing to happen to there child.... and i think u should talk to family... than if u don't like the situtation.... go to a consurler... something like this happen to my cousin.... and she tried to kill herself... it happened a couple of years ago... when i heard about it,,,, she was like 15 years old..... i think it kinda killed her inside... welll not kill her but like really really really hurt her.... and if it still is happening call the police... and people....
2007-09-24 16:47:00 · answer #10 · answered by koolaid2010@att.net 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋