boyfriend drug problems PLEASE HELP!?

Question

MY BOYFRIEND AND I HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 2 YEARS AND LOVE EACH OTHER A LOT. WE ARE 16 YEARS OLD. I SMOKES WEED AND I DON'T LIKE IT AT ALL AND I AM VERY AGAINST IT. RECENTLY HE HAD STOPPED FOR 3 MONTHS AND HAD A PROMISE TO NOT DO SMOKE. THEN WE GOT INTO AN ARGUMENT THE OTHER NIGHT AND HE BROKE UP WITH ME AND SMOKED YESTERDAY. I FOUND OUT TODAY AND I AM SO DISAPPOINTED. I AM AGAINST IT BUT I LOVE HIM SO MUCH AND HE KEEPS TELLING ME TO LOVE HIM FOR WHO HE IS

PLEASE HELP ME OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!

I MEAN HE SMOKES WEED AND I AM VERY AGAINST IT!!

Answer 1

Leave him. Never look back. He is nothing but trouble.

Answer 2

You can't help him, he has to hit rock bottom then he'll clean himself up. Anything you do now will just be enabling him to continue his drug use. I've seen this over and over again, this drug will take away everything you love about this man and will at the same time put you and your son in the path of harm. The more he gets into this drug the more he will use you. He will tell you anything he needs to , to get you to stay, but you can't save him from himself. He's suicidal now, he may become murderous later. As much as it hurts now it will hurt much more in the long run, get out now while you still can. Give him a choice let him see that you are serious, tell him how you feel then ask him to get help, and to be serious about it. Tell him if he sorts himself out you'll give him another chance, but stress how important it is that he gets help. You'll know how important you are to him by the decision he makes. Most importantly you have a son and a crystal meth addict will endanger a child if they are desperate enough. I know people that have had to move and change their phone numbers to get away from loved ones addicted to this stuff. I've worked in rehabs I've seen where this goes, again get out while you still can or you're walking into hell.

Answer 3

Skippy say you are only as good as the people you hang around. In other words, he will either bring you down to his level or you will bring him up.
Skippy say most likely he will never make anything of his life and if you stay with him you will end up marrying a loser who cant provide for a family.
Skippy say drop him while you are still young and find a real man.

For all those people who say weed is harmless, Skippy say think about this. More and more employers are doing complete background checks on all prospective canidates and they are refusing to hire anyone with any sort of drug conviction. Weed may not be that harmful physically, however eventually you will get busted with it and that alone can keep you out of a good job 20 years later. Skippy says that make it pretty harmful

Answer 4

He is someone that smokes weed...how can you love him for who he is if you're so against it?? Break up with him. He'll only drag you down. If he won't do something as simple as not smoking dope for you...you're in for a long road of disappointment. I'm glad you have your head on straight. You have a very bright future ahead of you I'm sure...but not with this pothead. Stick by what you believe is right and don't let anyone take that away from you. Congrats on knowing what you want!! Good luck.

Answer 5

So love him for being a pot-smoking looser? He's doing weed at 16, can he assure you he won't move up to cocaine or heroin or meth in a few years? I don't think so.

Think about your life, his is basically wasted. Plus you're 16.........girl there will be plenty of men in your life.

Think about it another way. So you say you love him and you decide to stay with him and in a few years you want to get married and start a family. Oh, but now you can't get pregnant because his spermies are dead from all that pot. And ok maybe by some little miracle you do get pregnant but now your baby has all sort of birth problems. And there's always the inevitable......he gets busted with it.
THINK!!
GET RID OF HIM!!!

Answer 6

I assume he didn't just RECENTLY start smoking weed---WHY did you get mixed up with him, in the first place, IF you are so very against it?

You cannot help him....he needs to want to help himself (if he wants to be with you). Weed is not physically addicting---but, can be highly mentally addicting.

I'll have to go with the others: IF you are against this, you should move on--and hope that the next guy does not smoke anything WORSE...good luck.

Answer 7

You're only sixteen. That's important.

Most people have multiple relationships and it's pretty rare to stay with the same person for two years that young. Maybe your relationship has run its course and you need to move on. If the relationship really will work, you do need to give him an ultimatium: Tell him that if he doesn't stop smoking weed, you're breaking up with him. If he loves you as much as you do him, he will stop for you.

Answer 8

How did you express the fact of the matter?
Like, did your burst out (like girls do) into flames and put him down for doing drugs, or did you tell him that you were concerned of his health and substance abuse? Just because "weed" is grown like a tree doesn't mean it isn't harmful to ones health, not to mention illegal. I mean when I use to smoke weed I didn't consider it a drug, who really admits the truth when "under the influence" anyway?
People always use to tell me that I should do some research on the O'l weed to figure out how it really effected me.
Did I..? Of course not, what do I look like? plus, I thought hhhhhmmmm, like I can't tell.
Well, die trying, or try dieing by trying to redirect someones "own wll"....It might sound funny but, people feed off BY example....Tell him to choose the drug or you? If he wants to be a DOPE feen and choose drugs then, so be it.

Answer 9

I don't understand what the big deal with this is... love it or not, as long as he isn't smoking to just "GET MESSED UP OMG LOLOLOL" Then really what is the issue? I mean it is literally impossible to overdose on the stuff.. its about the same as 'dealing' with a boyfriend who smokes cigs.. either you can deal with it or not. But let me tell you, if your only reason for breaking up with him is going to be because he smokes pot.. rethink it.. it isn't that bad especially considering he could be doing TONS of other drugs. For those that would say that its a 'gateway' drug... only if you aren't mature and or have enough self control to keep your life in order.

Answer 10

Would you rather he get liquored up all the time? I don't know why you typed in all caps, but, if he's happy with what he's doing and you're not just find a new boyfriend. But its just all in how you view things. If he smokes to just kick back thats like having a beer to unwind to me. If he smokes all the time and doesn't take care of business, why would you want to be with someone who makes you unhappy?

Answer 11

I have been sober from drugs and alcohol for 5 years. I was unable to stop no matter how much my loved ones wanted me too. I had to go through alot of pain through my years of active addiction. I had no desire to stop until the pain outweighed the pleasure I was getting from it. If your beau is anything like I was, he probably will not quit for you. At most, he may just hide it from you, making for dishonesty to begin in your relationship. If he is to become a full-fledged addict, then you are in for a world of hell with him. Hopefully, this is just a phase, but, by all means, for your own sanity please do not have any false hope that you can stop a possiblr addict. It simply does not work that way