Although in all other aspects my boyfriend is caring and considerate he is really selfish in the bedroom. I do anything he wants me to to him and let him do whatever he wants to me but he never seems overly concerned about my pleasure. I fake it pretty much 99% of the time. I know i need to tell him but I'm scared it will really hurt him. What can i do??!!
2007-09-24 09:32:25 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he only knows you faking it how can he know it's not the real thing? He's probably pretty happy thinking is a wonderful lover. By consistently faking brought yourself into a difficult situation. I guess the only way out is to gently let him know how he could make sex "even better" for you. Oh, and when he does and you still don't come ... keep faking it!
2007-09-25 02:28:47 · answer #1 · answered by cyranonew 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say he never seems overly concerned about your pleasure, it is probably because he doesn't realise this because you say you fake it alomost all the time. He will think he is pleasing you all the time and think he is doing a good job!!
You are going to have to tell him if you want things to change, even though it will hurt his feeings and he could also be mad at you for lying!!
2007-09-24 09:44:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably doesn't realize he's being selfish. I mean, if you're faking all the time, how does he honestly know what pleases you if you say nothing? You need to have an honest talk about what you like and want from him in bed. You can't expect to have good sex if you can't have open, honest communication with your partner.
2007-09-24 09:39:15 · answer #3 · answered by Erin 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should just tell him, Because the longer that you go without telling him and the longer you go faking it... It's just gonna piss you off even more because you aren't getting what you want out of it! Also, you just want to tell him as soon as possible because he might not be hurt by you telling him, he might just work even harder in the bed the next time.... You should really tell him what you are feeling!
2007-09-24 09:36:18 · answer #4 · answered by MC85 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a very lucky boyfriend and he is clueless to how good he has it. He needs to start taking care of you better, or you need to move along and find a guy that wants to make you as happy as you make him.
2016-04-05 23:22:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple answer
use vibrators and stuff
ask him 2 experiment with new toys in the bedroom department try out new positions but if you dont talk to him about it you'll never get your pleasure it might hurt him buh atleast your being honest
2007-09-24 09:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't tell him, it will NEVER improve.
Maybe you should wait til you two are getting busy, and say something like, "I think ____would feel really good" or "I would really like it if you_____"
That way, it doesn't come out like a criticism.
Good luck.
2007-09-24 09:37:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
come clean. don't beat about the bush. tell him what you want. and don't want. don't start faking it ever again. if he loves you he will be there for you. there should be no secrets on sex. at all. good luck.
2007-09-24 10:38:18 · answer #8 · answered by willy wom bat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him or one time say you want to be in charge.......and show him what you really like while also giving somethings he really likes.
2007-09-24 09:40:32 · answer #9 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him,,,,,, or wen e is about to *** n e shouts out, be polite n say wont b a mo just nipping to the loo, lol.... sounds fair
2007-09-24 11:18:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋