Can a woman be desirable after 30?

Question

I met quite a lot of men, mostly in their late sixties, who announced that they would never even consider a woman after thirty. How can women after 30 find men, then?

Answer 1

a woman's youth is gone by 30. women over 30 can still be very attractive - but not in a youthful way, which is 90% of what men want.

many will not admit this, but it's reality.

remember, what's "attractive" is really about best potential
mate - even if you're unaware of it. youth says "health"

men can sire children right up until the end, that is why youth will always be more attractive than "good conversation". it's just how nature works. it doesn't have anything to do with the kind of person someone is.

women like to tell themselves all kinds of crazy things to
pretend this is not true - but it is.

attractive is much different than sexy - older woman are usually "sexy"

i'm sure my answer is unpopular - but it's accurate

Answer 2

Would you honestly want to date those men? Late sixties? If you're 30? So, I'm assuming that you're closer to 60 than 30, and I understand where you're coming from. My mom has had similar worries. But, the key is not the bulk or the quantity of men that you meet, but the quality. There are, it's true, probably less men available to women above 30 than there are for those in college or high school. But on the other hand, the quality of what a woman above 30 has to offer definitely (for the most part--there are always exceptions) goes up. As long as you have a healthy sense of self and are a down-to-earth and independent person looking for a relationship not to complete yourself or because you think you need it, but instead to make your already satisfying life even more enjoyable, you should be able to find an awesome partner if you're patient and are looking in the right places. My suggestion (and it's worked with girlfriends of mine) is to NOT look actively for men, but instead become more active in the things about which you are passionate.

Let's say you have a successful career and a home, but you don't really spend much time with your hobbies. Start spending that time--join clubs, start campaigning for a politician you admire, volunteer at an art museum. If you surround yourself with interesting and smart people, who in turn have interesting and smart and diverse friends, you will meet interesting, smart, and diverse people.

Sometimes when you're not expecting things, you have more pleasant surprises. Don't lower your standards--and don't settle for trying to please old guys who need to focus on their bocce game!

Answer 3

That's because by then, we'll go after the younger men. I don't want a sixty year old now that I'm 30! I'm happily married but if I weren't believe me, I would be dabbling with the 20 years olds and teaching them a thing or two. I have a career now, so I don't need their money, I have my own, so I would want to have fun and my idea of IS NOT with a sixty year old man!

Answer 4

What!??! Ok. Let me give you the low down on this.

Those 'men' in their sixties have no idea what their talking about. I would almost call that ignorant cause they don't know what their missing out on.

Women don't loose their appeal until well almost never, to tell you the truth. Look, you gotta just put what they said out of your mind. Many guys are looking for mature, honest and kind hearted women and the long term relationship with marriage and all that.

I myself at age 26 nearly 27 am looking for a woman who is 20 and up so a woman in her thirties would be fine with me. Mature, who knows herself already, who is confident with herself and set with her life and looking to put the 'icing on the cake' on life with finding a great guy to settle down with. There's nothing wrong with being single in your thirties and forty's and onward.

A friend of mine is in her forties herself, a single mother ready to let her teenagers move out and I really see her as the near perfect woman that I could fall for. She's been through a lot in life and is mature, centered, spiritual, so loving and kind, gentle, I could go on but needless to say she's what I'm looking for. Her age doesn't really matter to me because in my eyes that really makes her that much more beautiful to me. Oh boy I'm really crushin' on her now--
Anyway,
I know that there are plenty of like minded guys out there that feel the same way about older women. So I know you'll find a great guy who can really appreciate you for who you are not only on the outside but also on the inside. Have fun and stop talkin with those old guys-LoL!!!

Answer 5

Wow. They must have been showing off, especially if you are under 30.

Women can be beautiful at any age - look at all the celebs who are GORGEOUS and in their 40s, 50s. And, not only that, your use of the word "desirable" - while women who are younger tend to be more commercially attractive, I think older women have a stronger sense-of-selfe and an better expression of their sexuality. So, in the end, I think they can be much MORE desirable. It just depends on the woman... and assuming you're not asking the aforementioned misogynistic pricks.

Answer 6

I can only speak for myself. Have no idea what kind of jackass kool-aid these other guys are drinking.

Women are desirable when they portray a fun, confident, flirtatious, educated, passionate attitude. Regardless of her fashion sense, or age, I notice and initiate conversation with women of a variety of ages. It's rude to ask a woman her age, so I will just assume the majority of these women are over the age of 30.

If you pool a group of men under the age of 60 you will receive a much different attitude. A woman is desirable when she is passionate about her travels, experiences, interests and enjoys conversation and attention.

Places to find men who find the 30 club desirable- driving range, athletic club, restaurants, marina, Yahoo Personals.

good luck to you ~

Answer 7

why are you targeting the over 60's? If you are even slightly attractive, physically, you should have no trouble meeting men. Just sit at a bar for a while and, when someone talks to you, who you find ok, tell him that you've had a hard day and that you've come out for a beer to calm down and chill out. Don't sound desperate, leave him wanting more. Practise in front of a mirror if you don't feel confident. ps if you consider yourself to be less than "even slightly attractive", you're probably wrong.

Answer 8

Who the heck under 30 would really want a man in their late 60s. They're dreaming big time!!! And, they're going to be alone for a good many yrs. unless someone just wants them for their money...haha You've just been meeting the wrong men! Wait until their bodies start to go & they have to get on meds. for one reason or another & they find they no longer have "anything" that would appeal to a woman even in their 30s. Wait until their blood pressure goes, or they need meds. of different kinds & find zip goes their sexual ability. Then they'll find out just how appealing they still are. There are PLENTY of men out there who would give anything for a companion & someone to love them & give love in return. Just keep looking, you'll find the rite one, believe me, they're out there. Trust me, I KNOW...

Answer 9

He is the exception not the rule. I know many ladies over 30 who have a fantastic dating life. Look at women like Heather Locklear, Michelle Phiffer, Terri Hatcher, Halle Berry, Cher...,

Answer 10

Oh I certainly HOPE a woman is desirable after 30... (g/f's birthday is coming up & she's going to be turning 31) ...I think we'd both be horribly disappointed if undesirable & over-thirty came hand-in-hand.