I met this beautiful woman at work but she states she is engaged but she does not seem to be happy. We had lunch together but she seem to have a lot on her mind. She say she is going through a transtion. The next day she was let go due to attendance.
I was shock but the first time in my life I felt what real love is when I looked into her eyes. She made me want to be a better man. I asked around the office who has her phone number and I finally got it.
I text her telling her that I love her as we complement each other on so many levels. The second text she stated stop calling her as she is engaged. I felt he found out about it and I put her in a bad situation.
I text her several more time and talked with her today on the phone as she was looking for a job. She wants me to call her 6 or 7 tonight about a buiness related issue that I said I would help her with.
I really care for her and want to be with her and it has nonthing to do with sex.
What should I do?
2007-09-24 09:02:35 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She told you to stop. Stop.
2007-09-24 09:07:08 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, take a deep breath and calm down. You have very strong feelings for this woman, but you don't know her all that well yet. A text message to say that you love a person you just met is a bit... overbearing. People don't generally say that sort of thing via text message in the first place. She's confused about her relationship, and your attentions aren't helping that confusion.
She probably does need your help with a business related issue. Help her with it. Be friendly, like you would with any other coworker. Apologize for being overbearing, and leave it at that.
By now she knows your feelings for her. She has to figure out her own, about losing her job and about her fiance and about you. Give her some time. If she's interested I think she'll come to you when the time is right.
If it is "destiny," things'll work themselves out. In the meantime, it's not cool to try to break up a relationship or pester someone in one.
Good luck.
2007-09-24 16:12:11 · answer #2 · answered by July 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, you need to call her at six or seven and work out the business matter with her that you said you'd help her with. Then secondly, apologize for being so forward about the love thing (since she is engaged it is not the proper thing to say--especially via text). Since you do have such strong feelings for her also state that it came from the heart and you will always be there to lend a hand and listen to her. If she appreciates this offer, she will act on it. If she does not take you up on the offer, you will HAVE to put your love aside. You dont want to keep putting yourself out there only to get trampled on. It is possible she has feelings for you too but is scared so you have to respect her space. Maybe she will come around but don't force the issue. Especially if you love her as you say you do.
2007-09-24 16:14:47 · answer #3 · answered by Alaina's Mumma! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is engaged so I really think you should just let the situation go. I mean, if it's trully meant to be then she'll stop the engagement but while that's still on...you two really aren't. Always remember to put the shoe on the other foot and in this case i'm talking about her fiance. How would you feel if you were in his position?
2007-09-24 16:09:36 · answer #4 · answered by Jayne W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, hon, if she was interested back she would have not told you not to text her. Why did you keep texting her? Why would you say something as important as "love" in a text message, anyway? Speak with her about her business related question tonight, but as far as taking anything further, the ball is in her court. She already knows how you feel.
2007-09-24 16:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by ga.peach67 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone. If she does break up with him, she has your number and will call you. You don't want to be blamed for things not working out. Continue a "friends only" relationship. Be there for her if she needs you, but don't go out of your way to text, call or email. You will get her into trouble.
2007-09-24 16:08:10 · answer #6 · answered by bonstermonster20 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect the other guy and leave her alone. If she cares about you, then eventually you will get the go ahead. Forcing it is going to have very bad results and may end up with her hating your guts. I don't think you want that, right?
2007-09-24 16:10:22 · answer #7 · answered by cuddleyleo2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you had a chance I think you may have ruined it by throwing out the "I love you" so soon. That scares women and men alike! Dont be so pushy if you want to have a Chance!
2007-09-24 16:07:59 · answer #8 · answered by kimberly M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u really love her just hang around. be a friend, be a gentle man, and most of all be everything good u can be. if she really is having trouble with her fiance, and she sees how much better u treat her she just might realise her fault.
then ull be the one, just make sufre u arent the rebound guy
2007-09-24 16:10:29 · answer #9 · answered by MAB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she told you to back off, back off. Unhappy or not, this woman has made her decision and has made that perfectly clear to you. If you cannot handle being a friend and colleague only, than I suggest you sever all ties.
2007-09-24 16:07:54 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel-Pit Police-DSMG 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave that stuff bro.
You're shadowing her after she said no and then she wants to trip on some business-idea stuff?
This can only end badly.
2007-09-24 16:07:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋