I have been married for 13 years. My mother in law is from Poland, but has lived here for 20+ years. Whenever she comes over or we go there, my husband and her talk in Polish. My husband tries to let me in on the conversation, b/c I don't know Polish. He says it is easier for her to talk in Polish. But she is fluent in English. My husband is wonderful in every other way but this drives me crazy!!! It is just not right esp when myself and our kids do not speak Polish! What do you think?????
2007-09-24 08:48:09 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yes that is rude in your mother-in-law part in your eyes. but to her since it is her language she also prob feels more confortable speaking her native language. but if it makes you feel uncomfortable they should understand and they should speak english around you! GOOD LUCK!
2007-09-24 09:04:24 · answer #1 · answered by nena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mother-in-law really does speak fluent English the only reason for speaking in Polish with your husband is to keep what is being said from you.
Is it inconsiderate? Yes. It is also rude and insensitive on your husband's part.
You should pick up a computer program for learning Polish and not tell anyone. Once you can join in the conversation in Polish I have a feeling the fun will be over and everything will revert back to English.
2007-09-24 09:26:26 · answer #2 · answered by nevit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, how long has she been speaking English? I know just what you're talking about because my grandmother is Polish and has been living in the US for twenty years. But I really doubt that your mother-in-law is doing this just to be ignorant. My grandmother will talk to other people in my family in Polish because, as you stated, its easier for her. But she does try to speak English around me, although sometimes its hard for her to find the right words to say what she means. Sometimes she'll even speak in Polish to me forgetting that I don't!
The up-side to it is that after a while, you begin picking up some words. Icz na gorze isc spac!
2007-09-24 10:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How hard would it be for you to learn Polish? Since your mother-in-law speaks English, I do think it's rude for your husband and mom-in-law to speak in Polish when your in the room too.
2007-09-24 09:25:21 · answer #4 · answered by beaches 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you....that is very rude! It is not like you know Polish, but just prefer that they speak English....if she knows English, she should have the courtesy to speak English around you all. it is not like you moved to Poland, and you need to learn Polish...you are just there visiting. Geeze!
2007-09-24 08:57:02 · answer #5 · answered by Kelli S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give up. It's the same in my family. Although my husband's family does speak English, they always talk in Spanish. He tried the same thing at first, speaking to them in English but they always replied in Spanish. It's just more comfortable for them. I did learn Spanish growing up. But, trying to keep up with the conversation is like taking an oral exam that lasts all day. If your mind strays for 5 seconds you are immediately lost in the conversation. I finally just gave up. When we go to his parents I just park myself in front of the TV and watch. If my husband thinks I need to know something, he'll bother to translate. If they don't want to talk to me, fine. I gave up caring.
2007-09-24 09:16:24 · answer #6 · answered by Dolyn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happens in my family except it is oppiste we speak Spanish. I have told my parents to speak English and they do not want my husband to hear what is being said so I would only answer them in English and eventually they strated talking English , ask your husband to do that. Hope that helps.
2007-09-24 08:56:20 · answer #7 · answered by lil_sis458 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it may desire to be much less confusing for her to talk polish...yet considering the fact which you and your husband talk english as does she to 3 degree, i think of it may basically be proper and considerate of her to talk english at circumstances so surely everybody in touch may be blanketed. I used to attend college and stayed in a dorm designed to sell cultural variety, so there have been a lot of people there from different worldwide places and it irked me to be interior the elevator with 2 females babbling on of their language and giggling, regardless of if i became no longer area of the communique initially. It made me sense like they have been speaking approximately me. i will basically think of the way it feels once you're vacationing somebody and that they talk so which you do no longer understand. have you ever expressed your difficulty over this? possibly in case you with courtesy ask if she could desire to talk in english so which you and her grandchildren can grow to be greater an element of her memories and conversations, she could desire to basically attempt to take the time. you may additionally attempt choosing up somewhat of her language besides. it may desire to point lots to her so which you would be able to embody a number of her language besides. superb of success!
2016-10-09 18:44:33 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well English is not my first language in fact its my third language
so whenever i'm at home with my mom we spoke in our own language not English
so don't worry it a common thing
you can try to learn it but don't mention it to your husband or his mom, just listen to them
2007-09-24 09:01:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd get up and leave and inform them they're in my country and in my country we speak English.
2007-09-24 09:38:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋