Getting back with ex?

Question

What has been your experience with getting back together with ex bf or gf. I'm having trouble comparing ex with new people. Has it worked for anyone?

Answer 1

Remember why s/he's your EX....unless something dramatic has happened since then, s/he's the same person now that s/he was then!

Answer 2

The last experience I had getting back together with an ex-boyfriend wasn't a very good one. He didn't change. However, keep in mind that all people are different. And, if you are going to get back together with your ex, you need to set some boundries and make sure that he doesn't cross them. Tell him what you didn't like about the last time you two dated and ask him if he can compromise with you about those things...ask him if there is anything that he would like you to work on. If he oversteps or you notice he's not working on the things you've asked him to, then cut him out of your life. It may be cliche but "there are more fish in the sea".

Answer 3

Everybody would probably advise you to stay far away, coz it didn't work the first time around..well..call me crazy..but i don't think so...just coz it didn't work the first time..doesn't mean it wont work the second or third..(or in my case- it took like 6 times..still didn't work- but it brought us closer..and now we really cant stop loving each other- i think we going for a 7th time..ha ha)

practice makes perfect..if u just give up on everything the first time..how will u ever succeed??? you need breakups to make you realize what you had..and where things went wrong...believe me..if you let go of some1 you really love, just coz u are to stubborn and afraid to try again and coz u have the idea of 'there are more fishes in the sea'... you will neva be able to let go.

you will always compair your relationships and keep thinking of what could have been.. so why not???

try..try...and try again...-its the best medicine!!

Answer 4

I never get back with an ex because there was a reason we split in the first place,and I never try to back-track anyway, but if you always compare your ex to other people you will always be somebody's ex.

Answer 5

well... i've gotten back with all three of my ex's at some time or another. the only reason it was successful is b/c #1 sex was not involved #2 they were my bestfriends instead of lovers and #3 i set my expectations or rather limitations before getting back together. my first and second were obviously unsuccessful as my standards were higher when we reunited then they were when we first met and neither of them had yet stepped their game up or matured. but my third and most successful relationship to date... we broke up for two months i went back home to moms. he called me and told me he was ready to be a man about things and really missed me... now we're in premarital counseling and look forward to getting married in 2009. now we not only share a very strong friendship and bond but are also working toward building a passion for eachother... friendship first sex last and things should work out just fine. good luck!

Answer 6

Stop obsessing. If you want to get back with your ex then talk to them. If they say no way then leave them alone. It's about 2 people here not just you.

Answer 7

Well actually, I got back with my ex very recently but we originally broke up nearly 10 years ago. We're now living together and planning to have a child. So, I suppose it depends.

Answer 8

if your compairing you will never find someone like your ex. why would u want them to be anyways. it only put more pressure on you and your new relationship and might lower your expectations for future relationships. find qualities that the new person has that are not like your ex. different can be good. whats going to change if you get back with your ex they will still be the same. didn't work for me either.

Answer 9

Wow I know that feeling My ex was the best guy in the world he loved me, and I loved him but I let him ago.. Now I'm living with regets.
But no one Compares to him.
I have never had so much fun with one person.

Answer 10

i have been 2 years with my ex and we part away few times during our relationship and every time it hurt more.....so dont ever go back to your old relationship because it can only be worse,not better.now we are good friends but i still feel like i love him and know him feeling the same,but it cant work so we broked up,and even i love him that much i wouldnt say yes if he would ask me again....

Answer 11

It would be settling for for an X because you couldn't get on with your life.

Tuck the bf/gf in a small corner of your heart and get on with living.