My fiance, Melvin, says I should let them come anyway, but, I , well, we have registered at Macy's, and any fool would know to get something from the list. I just can't bear to think of the disgrace it would be to let someone so petty attend our nuptiuals. I am thinking of hiring security agents to keep those not bearing gifts away.
Oh, I love the thought of getting married, it has been a long journey, since I was a little girl in Great Neck, Long Island, and it took soooooo long, you wouldn't believe, how long it took to finally get a Doctor to ask me to marry him.
Now, I want china. Fine china, not some sandwich maker from wal-mart. Do you feel me, because I just can't deal with the idea of these tramps coming and eating the smoked salmon, and not bringing at the very least some nice crystal pieces.
2007-09-24 07:46:18 · 84 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I feel you!!!
LOL- Oh, how I wish we could!!!
I should of had them there at my shower. I am 30 years old and my cousin's gave me a bunch of cleaning supplies... like I don't have cleaning supplies- I have been in my own house for 6 years now.
2007-09-24 07:50:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 14⤋
I don't think you should be so crass as to turn them away -- but may I suggest a tiered approach to your reception? Reserve two rooms: one for "A"-level gifts (something from your registry or cash in the amount of $xx or more); and a second for "B"-level gifts and non-gifts.
In the "A" room, serve your smoked salmon, have live music and dancing, and an open bar.
In the "B" room, serve finger sandwiches (I hear you can do this easily by ordering a 6-foot from Subway and slicing it into finger-sized slices), "2 buck chuck" from Trader Joes, and have your teenage nephew crank up his iPod and act as a DJ.
No sense sending anyone away hungry. These are, after all, the same people who will be buying baby gifts down the road for Melvin, Jr.
2007-09-24 08:14:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
A bit selfish aren't you? My friend got married not too long ago and she's still patiently waiting for her wedding present from us, because pardon me for not being rich, I don't have the money to buy her a present right now. My husband and I have 2 children and are struggling to make ends meet, being a good friend that she is, she understands and is more than willing to wait how ever long that can be. If I were invited to your wedding and you turned me away for not having a gift, shame on you. I'd never talk to you again. You'd think someone's friendship would be a good enough present and you need to learn some manners. Not everyone has the money to shop at Macy's. A marriage is about spending the rest of your life with someone you love and having others celebrate that union should be enough to keep you happy. I think you are the tramp and not them.
2007-09-24 07:54:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
It might be too late, but I have a suggestion for you:
Switch to a "destination wedding". This should weed out the cheap jerks who wouldn't bother to spend a dime on you. Anyone who still comes has the cash to blow, and better yet should feel guilty that you're spending "all that money" on their enjoyment. (Of course, they're the ones paying for their travel and accomodations ANYWAY!).
If you've already booked your venue, just tell everyone that you're changing it to some fancy exotic place of your choosing. After the RSVP's come in, you can tell your A-list of friends (i.e., those that RSVP'ed "yes") that there was a mix-up, and you're back to the original location. Simple, efficient, and weeds out the cheapskates.
All the best to you and your fiance.
2007-09-24 08:31:28 · answer #4 · answered by mthompson828 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you on the show Bridezilla? That is just wrong. Not eveyone can afford gifts like you want. So you better just be glad they get you anything at all. Even if they were invited doesnt mean they have to come. Now how would you feel if they all boycotted your wedding and no one showed up. I guess you would look like a fool standing up there. These are your friends and family that your inviting. If youdidnt think they would bring a gift maybe you shoudlnt have even invited them. Your fiance is right!!!
2007-09-24 07:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by Volsfan 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
With your sad attitude, you will fit in quite nicely with those other snobby people out in certain parts of Long Island. What ever happened to sharing your special day with folks, not being concerned about people bring gifts? If you invited them, then for better or worse, be a good hostess. You are not even a Doctor's wife yet and you already have the "I deserve this and I deserve that" whine working. All I can say is that's pretty sad!
2007-09-24 07:57:01 · answer #6 · answered by cuddleyleo2003 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Wow, you sound like an ungrateful b****. You are certainly a selfish and petty person yourself.
I hope that your guests realize how selfish and ungrateful you are and not only buy you lots of presents from Walmart and the Dollar Store, but refuse to attend your wedding.
Additionally, I hope you are served some rotten smoked salmon at your wedding.
2007-09-25 13:46:01 · answer #7 · answered by Wedding Planner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True Story:
I was at a woman's engagement party, and she received gifts all kinds--$$ and household goods.
She opened and announced every gift the amount and who it was from. Some gave $20 and some gave $300. And there were a lot of embarrassed and humiliated faces. Mind you she was not wealthy, and there were just average joes giving her gifts.
Do you think that was cool or uncool?
What happened to Neimans, Saks, Gumps or Harrods of London? Why Macys?
TRUTH IS STRANGER THAN FICTION.
2007-09-24 09:16:44 · answer #8 · answered by Born Valentine's Day 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ha! I think I'll have someone check the gifts at the door at my wedding, too, and if it's not worth at least $500, have them banished loudly and publicly. Better yet, I think I'll put a notice in the paper after the wedding listing the gifts each person gave so those who didn't give enough can be publicly humiliated. Great idea!
2007-09-24 08:28:24 · answer #9 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
LOL - But don't forget, though they don't bear a gift in hand, it may be coming in the mail, if they ordered on line. Plus, guests have up to a year to send you wedding gifts (or so I heard).
I know my friend got the bride and groom and awesome gift and had to return it because someone else got them the same thing, so he had to pick out another awesome gift to give them, but he wasn't able to until after the wedding.
So, I think you should send the security guys around to your guests houses 2 months after the wedding, if they still haven't given you something.
;-)
2007-09-24 08:01:26 · answer #10 · answered by muchadoaboutnothing 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for your husband.
According to ettiquette, your guests have one year from the date of the wedding to get you a gift. Thus many will go to the reception without a gift. Second, some have the gifts from the regestry sent directly to your home, so they won't come bearing a gift.
A wedding is supposed to be a joyous event shared with loved ones not a chance to win the lottery and instead filled with greed and a preoccupation to monitor everyone's gifts.
You seem to be a very petty person. My guess is you have watched to many sweet 16's on MTV.
2007-09-24 07:54:42 · answer #11 · answered by ciza29 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋