Personal opinions ONLY: Is there anything wrong with polygamy, polyamory, or open relationsips, and why?

Question

dze: I'm sure to regret this, but what does that have to do with the question?

Answer 1

I don't think there's anything wrong with it because everyone's relationships are different and have their own rules. Some couples get jealous if one even LOOKS at another person. Other couples are fine with their significant other flirting with other people. And some couples have an open relationship or polyamorous one. Whatever you and your significant other agree on is fine but it should be mutual.

Answer 2

Theoretically, I agree with the right of those who wish to enter into these sorts of relationships to do so; however, I have personally seen all the ones I have known of to fall apart in really tangled and colorful ways that sometimes involve unfortunate legal consequences unrelated to the living arrangement (many people who do this end up spiteful and vengeful at the end of it, believing there is inequity, taking out personal problems on others, basically destroying an entire large family because of one member's insecurity.) .

Most people are incapable of living amicably for the long-term in an open relationship, and until there are more safeguards and fewer immature and emotionally insecure people trying this sort of thing, it is unlikely to move beyond a fringe activity. In practical terms these relationships just don't last and often cause great turmoil, especially when children are involved.

So, in short, in theory-nothing wrong with it. In practice-lots of problems with it.

Answer 3

If all parties are mutually amenable and no one is being hurt, then I have no issues with it. It's not for ME, but that doesn't mean that someone else couldn't be happy in that sort of a relationship.

I do know that most open relationships / marriages that I've known of (about two dozen) have failed, so not many people are really able to be happy in that sort of a relationship.

I'd have no problems with legalizing polygamy, provided that it wouldn't result in "additional monetary benefits" for those who were polygamous.

Answer 4

Wrong? Morally? Not my business.

Not something I would care for though. I am a one man woman and I expect fidelity too.

I have been through the good timers and I have been the bad girl as well. I am not going there again.

I am too old for games. I would rather be alone than let myself get hurt again.

Answer 5

My concern is with the children of such arrangements. Even in divorce children have to deal with parents and step parents and step siblings, it gets confusing. I just hope enough thought is given when entering poly or open relationships about the roles and well being of any offspring.

Answer 6

For me personally, yes. I could never be in such a relationship. My husband is the king of all men to me, no one else can hold a candle to him. It sounds very silly, but it's true. I could never love any one else, and I would be hurt if he could. But, if the two couples are BOTH in agreement, then it's really not my business. Unless it's one of my kids, then I'll kick their a&#es.

Answer 7

Yes. I think all situations complicate things too much. How can you commit to one person if you're with many? In that case, you shouldn't be in a relationship at all. You should be single and playing the field.

Answer 8

They have too many emotional issues attached. As an intellectual exercise, we can view them with balance. In reality it is the emotional issues that reign.

Answer 9

Not for other people.

I personally am not really all that interested in other people's lives. However, for me, I would think that having mutiple husbands would be over the top. Really, not all that necessary... :-P

Answer 10

Jealousy. I think that would be a problem. Time constraints... another problem. Children and child custody issues for married and non-married groups.