yes it is unreasonable...grow up and if you trust him, allow him to be friends. If you don't you are not ready for a relationship. UNLESS he cheats, then all bets are off and you hold the right to pretty much call the shots...
2007-09-24 07:33:54
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answered by Anonymous
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Sometimes ex's can still be friends. Sometimes they still have feelings for each other. If you keep buggin him about it you just might push him away or back into her arms.
I do think a couple times a week is a lot though. Your reaction isnt unreasonable but maybe a little harsh. Find out why they talk so much and is it really necessary for them to talk that much.
My girl got mad about this but I barely talk to my ex but yet she still brings it up and it pisses me off
2007-09-24 07:36:48
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answered by boredatwork 3
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I think is reasonable. I had this tough situation also with my ex-girl. I endured this for a few months, cuz I thought I act to jealous, but after seing her having more and more fun talking to him many times, I asked her "Me or him? Cuz this hurts me."? So she stopped (apparently, cuz I never checked on her afterwards) talking to him, at least I never had this story with her again and she understood how I felt about it!
U no? It depends on certain things here in ur situation. Did HE or she finished their ex-relation? Cuz this matters a lot! In my case, my ex was dumped and cheated by him, so there was no reason to keep in touch with him. I think phoning several times in a week is a lot! U need to talk to him and hopefully he understands ur feelings. If he doesn't and acts like some guys that answered here ur question, than he doesn't deserve you! Wish u good luck!
2007-09-25 10:44:39
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answered by Anonymous
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If he cares about you, then he will respect your wishes. I don't feel that it's unreasonable to ask that of him. The girl may truly just be a good friend, but there obviously was more than friend feelings at some time in their lives and you don't need to run the risk of those feelings surfacing again. If it were me, I'd give him some time and then give him a choice. His friend(ex) or you.....Good Luck!
2007-09-24 07:39:51
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answered by Freeworld Thought 1
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People get together because they like each other. Sometimes it doesn't work out, but they can remain friends. That is a good thing. You are with him, so does it matter who he talks to? How would you feel if he told you that couldn't talk to a friend? Don't get hung up over it. You can never have enough friends.
2007-09-24 07:39:46
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answered by Anonymous
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tahts a hard question im actually in that situation right now accept im in his shoes personally i would ask him not to talk to her as mcuh not tell him or it might come off as controling but if u really love him and trust him i wouldn't worry about it to much hes wit u now people cant take the past away so the try to make the future in other words live for the present things change
2007-09-25 09:34:24
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answered by Lucky 1
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You are being unreasonable. Unless he's cheated on you in the past, you have no choice but to trust him. You don't have to like it but you can't apply the "don't talk to your ex's ever" rule to every situation. You don't own him, you date him.
2007-09-24 07:47:25
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answered by Anonymous
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Why does it bother you so much that he's friends with his ex? She's his ex for a reason. He chooses to be with you. You are being completely unreasonable and controlling by telling him who he is allowed to be friends with.
2007-09-24 07:37:24
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answered by Erin 7
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Well, was he friends with her when you started dating? Cause if they will then you are wrong for asking. He should have kicked you to the curb already for trying to control his life like you were his mother.
If you have a problem with his friends then you need to move on.
2007-09-24 08:01:59
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answered by Anonymous
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Since you're only dating, then you're really at the mercy of your boyfriend. If he's not willing to make his focus on you his girlfriend, then you have to decide if he's really the one you want to be dating.
How a man acts during the dating phase will ultimately resurface after you're married.
If he's not willing to make some sacrifice for you, then you might want to move on, but talk to him about it. You have to tell him how it makes you feel when he's focussing on the ex.
2007-09-24 07:42:02
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answered by Anonymous
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