all she wants to do is talk and she doesn't want to stay in her seat. she is really disruptive in her class, and i am at my wits end i don't know what to do. is there anything i can do short of her never comming out her room or always having to spank her.
sincerly,
HELP
2007-09-24 05:41:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Consistency.
I know it's hard work, but assign a consequence for "getting in trouble at school" In our home that is a very serious offense which calls for a spanking (we believe in a more traditional way of spanking, with pants down, so I suggest you try spanking her that way a few times). Don't pay attention to the parents who say "don't spank". Now all you have to do is be consistent in enforcing it.
I am assuming she is disruptive to a point that the teacher is informing you. I don't punish if the teacher doesn't say anything. Also sometimes I'll just occasionally ask how she's doing, behavior wise, and If the teacher says she needs to do better, we will work on that at home. I won't spank her for that, but I will sit down with her and practice good school behavior. Now if the teacher approaches me with the subject, or my daughters come home with a "sad" note, that's when it's an automatic spanking. Then we once again, practice "good classroom behavior".
So, my recommendation is to attach a strict consequence for "getting in trouble at school" and stick with it 100%, it may take some time, but your daughter will come around. Once again, I would personally recommend spanking on the bare tush. That's what works for our daughters. Your daughter is just in a stage, and with your help, she will grow out of it, she's not a bad child, just needs some work.
Good Luck
2007-09-24 21:27:00 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
My daughter did not disrupt the class but she would never raise her hand to answer a question she would just blurt it out, when I found out about this this was my plan of action, for a whole weekend (Friday to Monday morning) she had to raise her hand when ever she wanted to talk, sometimes I would acknowledge her right away and other times I would make her wait like a teacher would, and sometimes I would not even acknowledge her at all again like a teacher. Ever since she has not had that problem! I am not opposed to spanking by any means, I actually think that is why God made little butts, however sometimes you have to think out side of the box! Good luck!
2007-09-24 05:55:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
the most effective way to teach younger kids anything without having to spank or raise your voice is to check out a book on human growth and developmental psychology that will explain the theory of conditioning well and will clearly explain the difference between positive and negative reinforcement and punishment and then sit down with her teacher and work out a plan or you could just apply these at home. that should be most effective. good luck and much love.
2007-09-24 07:59:09 · answer #3 · answered by chiquis514 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just a suggestion, try looking into her diet. Sugar and caffeine are hidden in many prepared foods and packed into juice. My friend had this problem with her son. She took all most all the sugar out of his diet. Like she only lets him drink white 2% milk or water, no white bread unless it is whole grain, no jellies, no candy, no sugar loaded ceral.... There was a big improvement after only two weeks. After a month it was like he was another child. Sure she lets him have birthday cake and ice cream at parties....and he is allowed to have snacks once in a while....but now she plans for his reaction and he can control it better as he gets older. Don't let anyone lable your child ADHD....good luck.
2007-09-24 07:04:18 · answer #4 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe try a reward approach for days that she comes home without notices from the teacher that she's spoken out of turn or been disruptive. Award points, and when she gathers certain #'s of points, she cashes them in- 10 points can be a slice of pizza, 15 points a kid's meal, 20 points a movie, etc..... Since punishment doesn't seem to work, maybe positive reinforcement of good behavior will do the trick.
2007-09-24 05:52:39 · answer #5 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Spend time reading to her at home. Turn off the tv and radio and sit and read to her. If she gets up and moves around make her sit back down. Get books that she will be interested in, maybe even books that allow for her interaction. As you read to her ask her questions to make sure she is paying attention. This will teach her to sit down and listen. Also explain to her that there is a time to play and a time to listen. Good Luck!
2007-09-24 05:48:16 · answer #6 · answered by geminimom79 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Always use positive reinforcement whenever possible. This means praising her when she does the right thing, and ignoring her, when possible, when she does the wrong thing. Most times we only notice a child when they are being bad, and the good child goes through the day unnoticed.
2007-09-24 05:49:17 · answer #7 · answered by Linda M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like the talkative type, my niece is like that theirs not much you can do. Just tell her to sit like the other kids. Tell her theirs no playtime after school. She should grow out of it soon. Let the teacher handel it. Good luck
2007-09-24 05:52:20 · answer #8 · answered by Happy, :) & Sad :( 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you tried making her sit still in a chair at home ? and maybe just being quiet . try practicing this with her . I think after a few months of practicing this you will find quite an improved change . good luck and I hope I helped.
2007-09-24 05:49:56 · answer #9 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why are you hitting your child? That's only proving to her that you have no parenting skills nor the intelligence to do anything other than hitting and that isn't going to instill respect in her at all. Sounds to me as if she isn't ready for kindergarten yet...can't say as it is a surprise considering her parents resort to the behavior of apes when it comes to discplining her.
2007-09-24 20:13:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋