I've been with my boyfriend for 6yrs and we bought a house togther about 6mths ago. I'm 27 & he's 32. He's a really good man, but it just so boring at this point. Everything is such a routine. We commute togther a few days a week beucase live far and work close to each other. There is a guy in my college class and I am attracted to him. He is very intelligent and knows what he wants out of life. Were my man doesn't really have any big future plans. Since I go to school he think's I'm gonna be the bread winner. I love my boyfriend very much - does anyone have any advice to makeit better? Should I persure this other guy. I know that he would take care of me.
2007-09-24 05:27:30 · 10 answers · asked by Hope I Can Help :-) 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All relationships, especially the longer they go on, can become stale, boring and fall into a rut. Good, lasting relationships are hard work. It sounds like you and your current boy friend really have some important issues that you differ on and really need to talk about them, tell him how you feel and what you need and expect from each other. Also it takes imagination, time and effort to keep a relationship fresh. Come up with some ideas and take turns trying new things and doing things to spice up your life.
Lastly, 6 years is a big chunk of time, when you are that young. At 27 your are probably a completely different person than you were at 21, when you met; likewise for your boyfriend. Your priorities, goals, expectations, etc., have all changed. You are the same 2 people that fell in long and have probably grown a part. Sometimes, with effort and dedication, you can fix that. Sometimes, you can't and you have to move on.
Good Luck!
2007-09-24 05:36:34 · answer #1 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting married and having children (as someone else suggested) is sooo not the answer.
This new guy that's the flavor of the month is not the long term answer either.
I would suggest you talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel. Don't try to change him but see if instead he is willing to do something different to keep you happy and keep you around. I'm guessing you are not perfect so be prepared in case he has some complains about you too. If you two can't come up with a solution to your problem (and if you problem is really that big of a deal) then the best thing to do would be for each of you to go on a separate path.
Good luck.
2007-09-24 05:54:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anthonylikes2...☺ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright, so you pursue the new guy and three years later it's boring with him too, so do you find another one? Seriously, if you are seeking adventure, then find a tour to go on in Italy or something. Your boyfriend is probably bored out of his mind as well, and maybe he has wandering eyes too. Why don't the two of you make some goals together and then pursue those rather than other people to fill the void?
2007-09-24 05:39:37 · answer #3 · answered by VNCGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't depend on a man. You have to depend on yourself in the end a man isn't worth a damn. If you were so bored in your relationship you have to ask youself. Why did I purchase a home with this man? Wake up. No one dates someone for 5 years that is idiotic in my own personal opinion. If a man can't commit after the first year kick him to the curb and find a real man that can.
2007-09-24 05:33:49 · answer #4 · answered by whiteroses202004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in one relationship
Have some self respect - do not initiate another relationship until you make a decision regarding the current one and if you choice to bale be fully clear of that one before you initiate another.
2007-09-24 05:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by keezy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like you love him very much. Sounds like you are looking for something better cause you are bored.
You need to invest yourself into your relationship if you plan on staying. Stop wondering if the grass is greener.
2007-09-24 05:34:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just think of yourself as a old woman reflecting on the decisions she made in the past. would you have regrets and wonder what life could have been like if you had gone for romance instead of safety.
2007-09-24 05:32:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your in love with some one you clearly dont get bored of them, so that means you dont love him as much as you did.
yes your still young go after who you realy love/like you still have some life to discover and you dont want to be suck into a life you dont want
and of your bored of him b/c of the sex thats a common thing, for women
2007-09-24 05:35:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 years..hmm isnt it time for marriage, kids and settling down? lLife will be so much exciting out of a sudden
2007-09-24 05:40:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is, you have to change, I mean you have to try to meet another guy, future plans are very important, if he does have enythink for sure he is not a smart guy, I have a book of my goals
2007-09-24 05:37:31 · answer #10 · answered by ferrari_zz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋