Well, there is this guy that I danced with. and he is really
nice. But, well, I am kinda popular, and he is well, way down there on the social ladder, and I know this is really shallow, but I don't want people to think that I am desperate because I am going out with someone that is lower than me on the social ladder.
Yea, even my closest friend is telling me that it will bring nothing but heartache, but I still like him, and i still want to be with him, and I don't know, he seems really sweet.
But my bff told me that if hes as sweet as he seems, he would understand. We come from two whole different worlds, but I don't think I would mind.
The thing that gets me is the way people would talk. I guess we could keep it a secret, but I am not that type, I like hugs and I like being able to talk between classes.
So, my question is. Do I go out with the guy, or hide my feelings and wait 4 someone else.
2007-09-24 05:15:39 · 57 answers · asked by amber 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whoah, guys, there is no absolutly no need to call names. I know what i am saying is shallow, you don't need to continue repeating it. and, also, thank you to all the people who are being nice about this, i really appreciate your answers.
2007-09-24 09:48:21 · update #1
Whoah, guys, there is no absolutly no need to call names. I know what i am saying is shallow, you don't need to continue repeating it. and, also, thank you to all the people who are being nice about this, i really appreciate your answers.
2007-09-24 09:48:22 · update #2
Then that makes you a geek lover, don't it?
2007-09-24 05:26:52 · answer #1 · answered by Legolas 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what is with the social ladder? is that in school? cut out the whole we are from two different worlds thing right now if this is about school.. if not then that is another story..
if it is in the real world then i am glad that u are thinking with ur head because in real life it is good to marry somoene who is wealthy however if the two of u can work something out that is also good..
however if this is in school ur bff wants u happy? and if this guy makes u happy then what is stopping u? man what a bff to say to say he is going to bring heartache. if u like the guy then u should go out with him...
maybe u might not get someone else.. u never know.. u may be popular but hey the popular guys are also jerks right? its ur call.. do something that makes u happy!
2007-09-24 05:22:07 · answer #2 · answered by Chiv D 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
>He's a geek, but i still like him...?
This is a serious problem. In our advanced modern society, you can't afford to be seen with an intellectual. Make sure you are ONLY seen with cool, popular people like jocks, bimbos and retards. If you ever find out that any boyfriend of yours ever got an A in high school, or that he knows the capital of Venezuela or how to graph polynomials, dump him immediately. The dumber your boyfriend, the better; ideally you want someone who drools constantly and can't form a sentence of more than four words. Think how cool you'll look to your friends walking around with a guy whose IQ is below 80!
Okay, seriously now. What do you mean, 'BUT I still like him'? Why shouldn't you like him? Is there something WRONG with being an intellectual? Are you really that averse to being seen with someone with some actual (gasp!) INTELLIGENCE? I'm not even sure why you're asking this question. If you think about it, and you're smart enough to be worthy of this guy, you should come up with the answer yourself.
>But, well, I am kinda popular, and he is well, way down there on the social ladder
Then ignore the so-called 'social ladder'. The whole mess of modern society is built on people jumping on bandwagons rather than reasoning things out for themselves. If you can come up with a REAL reason not to be with this guy, that's one thing, but your 'social ladder' isn't a reason, it's hardly even an excuse. Surely you're above that kind of nonsense?
>The thing that gets me is the way people would talk.
That's what you need to correct. You need to start thinking about what people say, you need to be capable of rejecting their statements if they don't match up with logic. Don't let them dictate your life!
2007-09-24 05:30:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I bet Bill Gates had problems getting the popular girls to go out with him in high school too.
First, take a deep breath- and get over yourself. You aren't that darn high up on the social ladder! It's not like you're Princess Diana reincarnate, for Pete's sake. I hope you haven't been telling him how high up on the ladder you are- if he's as smart as I hope he is, he would be offended by that and leave you to your shallow little world with all your shallow little friends.
But good for you, to notice that he's sweet. At least you're able to get past yourself enough to see that!
Step two- go out with the boy.
Step three- tell your friends to kiss your butt if they can't handle it.
Step four- wake up from the pleasant dream, realize you've passed over the boy who could have been the very best thing that ever happened to you, call your bff and whine because all the boys you know are only out for one thing, and golly, why can't you meet a nice guy!
2007-09-24 05:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by sfcgijill 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what if you were on the low end of this "social ladder", how would you feel about all this? in the real world none of that crap matters. If you like that guy then that should be the important thing. It sounds like your popularity is more important to you. If that is the case, then you are way too shallow for that guy. He doesnt deserve a stuck up social snob.
2007-09-24 05:30:53 · answer #5 · answered by Kris W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the guy! My boyfriend is lower than me on the social ladder and no-one ever has anything nice to say about him. My family and friends have all said "what are you doing with him" and we get looks from people in the street and in bars, etc. But I am past caring what the world thinks now and have learned to live for myself and trust my own feelings and intuition now. If you modify your behaviour to whatever the world expects of you, you end up being trapped and suffocated in a little box. Go for it!
2007-09-24 05:22:33 · answer #6 · answered by Warm Breeze 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that HS is like a lot of cliques and social levels... but I'll tell you this after you graduate Life doesn't give a flip if you were popular in HS or not.
As a person you will be remember if you are nice, kind, sweet and open to everyone.
If you like the guy go out with him. Tell your friends to mind their own business and not form an opinion about this boy until they get to know him.
2007-09-24 05:22:13 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just give it a try? There's no harm in trying. It seems that you really want to know him better. So why not have a go? Geeks and populars are the same. Geeks are people. Populars are people. And if they are both people, why should you see a difference? The matter with the social ladder thingy should not be bothering you since you like him.
2007-09-24 05:21:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay be the strong one in your School, and go out with who you want despite social circles that you two run in.
If you do that then you are already FAR more mature than 90% of the people in your school. Go out with who you like.. not who your friends tell you to like or not like. If they are so worried about social ladder as you call it then they are sheep following the flock, and have trouble thinking for themselves.
Be a leader not a follower. Go out with the geek. Chances are he'll treat you better, and respect you more.
Good luck
2007-09-24 05:23:17 · answer #9 · answered by umannjo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
School only lasts a few years...if it is something tht can become real love it could last forever, or close to it. U dont want to look back and think "what might have been".None of my friends and family liked my wife but i married her an have never been happier. She is there for me and has always been there more than any of them. This might not be the same for you but hopefully u look at what makes u happy rather than your "friends" and everybody else.
2007-09-24 05:22:50 · answer #10 · answered by megabite_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it, Screw everyone else, and their shallow high school thinking, it could be the best thing in the world....
A. i guarantee he'll treat you better than the "popular" counterpart
B. You could give him tips, and pointers on how to act sociably, so maybe he won't be the outcast he once was
C. If your friends are really your friends, they will help you...not make fun or outcast....
The world is a different place when you get out of h.s. it's best to have people who you really care about, and who really care about you....
2007-09-24 05:21:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋