I know what I think it should mean. I was just explaining something for my boyfriend and his mate - more for his mate's benefit, about a course I'm doing. My bf doesn't like me doing it - he's entitled to his opinion. But he started spouting off and I just gave him a look - kinda rolled my eyes and smiled, and he went all serious and told me to stop being disrespectful. I said I wasn't being, because I wasn't. He was just being overly sensitive. Anyway, he's disrespected me many times, esp. when his friends are around, but I've let it slide. So I pointed this out. He told me 'it's different though isn't it'. Why is it different? I got the impression he meant because he's a man. Anyway, I tried to continue my explanation, and he told me he didn't want to hear it and to shut up. I then pointed out HE was being disrespectful. He said 'you reap what you sow'. How rude is that? I'm really angry, he shocks me sometimes - his attitude just screams that he thinks of me as his 'b*tch'.
2007-09-24 04:56:50 · 12 answers · asked by tilly 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You've said it all girl,his atitude sucks.Respect to me means having regard or consideration for yourself or for some body else.I think he needs to learn that a man shouldn't demand respect from his girl rather he should earn her respect.It's vice versa you know he'll also reap what he sows.
2007-09-24 05:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you two have some serious issues and the "respectful" "disrespectful" stuff is just the tip of the iceberg.
You may not consider rolling your eyes to be disrespectful, and you even said that you meant no disrespect by it--but it IS a sign of being disrespectful because it shows disdain for what's being said/done at that moment. The minute he said you were being disrespectful to him, you should have apologized.
But he, too, is being disrespectful to you. When he told you to shut up and said that you reap what you so--two wrongs do not make a right. If he called you a *****, this was definitly out of place and most disrespectful.
Both of you were wrong and it seems to me that neither one of you is willing to back down in order to keep the peace. Without looking up the definition in a dictionary, you know in your heart when you are being disrespectful or somebody is being disrespectful to you. It's up to you as to whether or not you want to put up with this.
If I truly cared for him, I would discuss it with him when both of you are in more congenial moods and see if we could come to some kind of agreement about the name-calling. I would also discuss this problem with with my mother/clergyman and/or best friend and see what advice they could offer. Sometimes we are blinded by our own emotions.
Good luck.
2007-09-24 12:18:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rolling eyes is disrespectful he if correct in that assessment.
However it does not gove him the right to be disrespectful to others.
If he feels he is entitled to be disrespectful toward you as you are a woman that needs to respect THE MAN then he simply is a male chauvinist pig that should not be in your life. Any man that feels he is entitled to more than something he is showing others n the basis of his gender in my book is not a real man.
Any man that thinks his gf is his b*tch only has one way to walk......away out of her life
2007-09-24 12:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by MissE 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont EVER let a man treat you like that girl, i have went through worse. when my ex fiance got drunk all the time i use to get abused by him and he slammed the door in my face and everything. disrespectful is like hitting or fighting but being respectful is minding your own business. i took it and stayed with him then my parents and i were talking one day and they told me that i could do better so i left him and moved on. Now im in the best relationship ever, he does everything for me. if you have any questions please Email me at JASMINESMOMMY06@yahoo.com
2007-09-24 12:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like a lack of respect, and you have the right to expect better. I would suggest you have an honest heart-to-heart communication about it. I have them with my GF regularly and it really helps to improve the respect and communication between us.
2007-09-24 12:01:02 · answer #5 · answered by Steve C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, why are you two still together then, if you both feel the other is being disrespectful?
2007-09-24 12:00:58 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me cut to the chase on this one... You are striking on an insecurity of his... People will always overreact when you strike a nerve... My advice would be to be careful to striking at his insecuritis too much, as he will close up....
2007-09-24 12:04:03 · answer #7 · answered by Simian J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds immature. Childish stabs at you; just show he has yet to grow up.
2007-09-24 12:01:51 · answer #8 · answered by milly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Respect is treating someone the same way as you expect to be treated yourself ....
2007-09-24 12:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If it bugs you that much and you think he has no respect for you then dump him.
2007-09-24 12:30:56 · answer #10 · answered by Freddy Benson 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋